Dr. Ruth K. Westheimer - Sex For Dummies

5 Part 3: Different Strokes Chapter 15: Enjoying Oral Sex Overcoming Your Inhibitions Leaving Him Breathless: What Men Like Making Her Toes Curl: What Women Like Dealing with Some Delicate Details Assuming the Position Addressing the Safety Issue Chapter 16: Savoring Solo Play and Fantasy Exploring the Mythology of Masturbation Avoiding Too Much of a Good Thing Masturbation: Good for All Ages Masturbation Education Fantasy: It’s All in Your Head Chapter 17: Keeping Up with Cybersex and Other Hot Stuff Eyes Wide Open: A Word of Caution Cybersex: Sights for Mature Minds Sex and the Telephone: Aural Sex Sex and the Radio: It’s All Talk Sex and Television: A Different Meaning of Boob Tube Pulp Nonfiction Sex with Multiple Partners: Where Do All of These Body Parts Go? Chapter 18: Celebrating Same-Sex Relationships Considering Sexual Identity Determining Your Orientation: What Turns You On Revealing Your Sexual Identity Sexual Practices among Gay Men Sexual Expression between Lesbians Marriage between Same-Sex Partners Chapter 19: Conquering the Challenges of Mature Sex Female Changes: Tackling Menopause Male Changes: Not All the Same The Psychological Pluses and Minuses Chapter 20: Thriving Sexually with Illness or Disability We Are All Sexual Beings Sex When You’re Physically Disabled Sex After You’ve Had a Heart Attack When Disabilities Arise Later in Life Sex When You Have Diabetes Sex and People Who Are Mentally Disabled or Ill Sex and People Who Are Living in a Long-Term Care Facility Uncompromising Compromised Sex

6 Part 4: Having a Healthy Sex Life Chapter 21: What You Can Catch and How to Prevent It STDs: Battle Scars No One Wants after a Night of Sex Let’s Get Serious Chapter 22: Erectile Dysfunction and Other Male Sexual Problems Premature Ejaculation Erectile Dysfunction Delayed Ejaculation Priapism — The Case of the Permanent Erection The Bent Penis Lack of Desire Chapter 23: Low Libido and Other Female Sexual Problems That Elusive Orgasm Ouch! It’s Too Tight in There When Cleaning the House Sounds Better Than Having Sex Every Body Is Attractive Sex After a Mastectomy Chapter 24: Avoiding Sexual Relationship Pitfalls Making Time for Alone Time Making the Most of a Long-Distance Relationship Dealing with Addictive Behavior: Hooked on Porn Staying Close to Avoid the Empty-Nest Syndrome Making Sex a Priority Chapter 25: Sex and the Law Sex, Children, and the Law Rape: A Growing Concern The Law and Contraception The Law against Spreading Diseases Abortion: A Legal Safeguard The Law and Homosexuality Prostitution: The Case for Legalization Pornography: Erotic or Obscene Adultery: Cheating the Law Chapter 26: Teaching Your Children about Sex and Keeping Them Safe Not Everything Is Dangerous Answering Children’s Questions Warning Signs of Possible Sexual Abuse The Accidental Voyeur Protecting Your Children from the Media Protecting Your Kids from Cyberporn Giving the Speech about Strangers Sex Ed and the Older Child Other Messages You Don’t Want to Send

7 Part 5: The Part of Tens Chapter 27: Ten Dumb Things People Believe about Sex If I Haven’t Had Sex by the Time I’m 18, I’m a Loser The More I Score, the More Pleasure I’ll Have The Sex Depicted in Porn Is True to Life The Grass Is Always Greener in the Neighbors’ Bedroom Sex Will Make Everything All Right A Good Lover Must Be an Open Book I Should Compare Sexual Partners I Can’t Become a Better Lover Lovers Want and Need the Same Things I’m Too Old to Have Sex Chapter 28: Ten Tips for Safer Sex Learn to Say No Limit Your Number of Partners Don’t Rely Solely on Your Instincts Never Dull Your Senses When You’re with Strangers Discuss Safer Sex in Advance Use Condoms Develop a Relationship Before You Have Sex Don’t Engage in Risky Behavior Don’t Forget about the Other STDs Don’t Sell Your Other Options Short Chapter 29: Ten Things Women Wish Men Knew about Sex Chivalry Isn’t Dead Yet Appearances Count You Can’t Hurry Love A Clitoris Is Not Just a Small Penis Women Need to Bask in the Afterglow Kinky Sex Isn’t Sexy Sex Wandering Eyes Mean Less Sex Slam-Bam-Thank-You-Ma’am Doesn’t Cut the Mustard Changing Diapers Is Sexy Just Because You Can’t Doesn’t Mean You Won’t Chapter 30: Ten Things Men Wish Women Knew about Sex Being Aware of Mixed Signals Lack of Sex Really Can Hurt Sometimes Wasting Electricity Is Okay Teamwork Is Important Celebrities’ Bodies Are Not a Threat A Little Tact, Please If You Really Loved Me, You’d … The Way to a Man’s Heart Is Not through His Stomach It Might Just Be Sex The Older a Man Gets, the More Help He Needs Chapter 31: Ten Tips for Truly Great Lovers Don’t Make Love on Your First Date Set the Mood as Far in Advance as Possible Find Out What Your Partner Needs Protect Yourself and Your Partner Don’t Fall into a Rut Fix the Potholes of Love Use Your Sense of Touch Become a Great Kisser Satisfy Your Partner Even If You Don’t Feel Like Sex Adjust to Changes Caused by Aging

8 Appendix A: Step into My Office Baring All for the Sexual Status Exam Sex Therapists Give the Best Homework Finding a Sex Therapist Choosing a Sex Therapist

9 Appendix B: Terrific Resources Counseling Sex Therapy Sexually Transmitted Diseases Sexual Orientation Sexuality and Family Planning Sexual Toys Protecting Children Support Groups Advice for the Disabled Sexual Assault

10 Index

11 About the Author

12 Connect with Dummies

13 End User License Agreement

1 Chapter 1FIGURE 1-1: The egg begins an incredible journey in search of a sperm to produce...FIGURE 1-2: The embryo nests in the wall of the uterus after fertilization. Happ...

2 Chapter 2FIGURE 2-1: The penis: not as simple as it looks! FIGURE 2-2: The glans brings it all to a head. FIGURE 2-3: The penis on the right is uncircumcised, while the one shown on the ...FIGURE 2-4: The sperm: independent, a good swimmer, and a heckuva guy. FIGURE 2-5: The sperm leave the testicle and head for the epididymis and vas def...

3 Chapter 3FIGURE 3-1: The vulva: one cylinder, and it’s not made in Sweden. FIGURE 3-2: The innards of the vulva. FIGURE 3-3: Lubricating fluids and an enveloping fullness come from the vaginal ...FIGURE 3-4: The ovaries and fallopian tubes: Where it all starts. FIGURE 3-5: Regularly examining your breasts for signs of cancer is an important...

4 Chapter 7FIGURE 7-1: Tubal ligation gives “tying the knot” a whole new meaning. FIGURE 7-2: A vasectomy is the male equivalent of tubal ligation. FIGURE 7-3: Although how to use a condom may seem obvious, many people wind up p...

5 Chapter 11FIGURE 11-1: The missionary position. FIGURE 11-2: The female superior position. FIGURE 11-3: Doggy style. FIGURE 11-4: The standing canine. FIGURE 11-5: The cuissade. FIGURE 11-6: Spooning. FIGURE 11-7: The scissors position. FIGURE 11-8: Lap dancing. FIGURE 11-9: The oceanic position. FIGURE 11-10: Standing up.

6 Chapter 16FIGURE 16-1: The Magic Wand has been called the “Cadillac” of vibrators. FIGURE 16-2: Dildos come in many shapes.

7 Chapter 22FIGURE 22-1: Peyronie’s disease throws a curve in men’s sex lives.

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