Matthew Del Negro - 10,000 NOs

1 Cover

2 Introduction

3 CHAPTER 1: Getting Started Keep It Simple, Stupid Before You Take Your First Step, Ask Yourself Why You're Moving Everybody Needs Some Billy Sometimes

4 CHAPTER 2: Work Ethic Nature versus Nurture Getting to Know Fear The West Wing Experience Nobody Walks on the Hill!

5 CHAPTER 3: Performance, Anxiety, and Instinct Two Sides of the Same Coin You Can Take the Kid Out of the Black Box … Doesn't Take Much to Be Knocked Off Course There Are Hit Shows … and There Are Hits in Shows Instincts: Trust Your Gut

6 CHAPTER 4: Discipline and Training The Game Is Won or Lost Before You Even Take the Field Buy Speed If You're Gonna Talk the Talk, Ya Gotta Walk the Walk The Right Way Is the Way that Works for You

7 CHAPTER 5: Risk Conquer or Die Don't Take It Personally, Take It Professionally What Goes Up Must Come Down Free-fallin'

8 CHAPTER 6: Perseverance Perseverance Is for Everyone Sometimes Life Is Going to Pancake You Is Your Biggest Break a Few Doors Down the Hallway?

9 CHAPTER 7: Reframing It's Not the Canvas, It's What You See in the Canvas There's No Business Like Show Business Out of Work? Start a Podcast!

10 CHAPTER 8: Surrender The Art of Fighting Without Fighting The “All Is Lost” Moment Is Not Only in Movies Grown Men Shouldn't Punch Walls Take Your Medicine and the Cure Will Find You

11 CHAPTER 9: Transformation The Caterpillar, the Cocoon, and the Butterfly There Are No Small Parts, Only Small Actors A Cobbled-Together “Career” Breathing in Rarefied Air

12 CHAPTER 10: Leadership You Can't Have Leadership Without Relationships Don't Be a Grinch: Serve Humility: Next-Level Leadership Delegating: The Art of Getting Help Big Star Does Not Mean Oversized Ego

13 CHAPTER 11: Meditation and Relaxation Welcome to the New Age Being a Straight-A Student Is Overrated “You Are Enough”

14 CHAPTER 12: Belief and Faith Don't Be the Guy (or Gal) Who Woke Up on Third Base Thinking He Hit a Triple Create Your Own System for Gratitude Why Not Me? Losing the Battle but Winning the War Keep Your Own Scorecard and Start with Easy Wins You Don't Need a Scorecard to Know If You Won or Lost

15 CHAPTER 13: The Subconscious Dreamwork A Hollywood Nightmare of Self-Sabotage

16 Chapter 14: Just Be a Good Person Live the Golden Rule Nice Guys Don't Always Finish Last

17 Chapter 15: Focus and Singularity To Catch a Rabbit, You Can Only Chase One at a Time To BBQ or Not to BBQ? That Is the Question My Very Unsexy Manhattan Apartment “All That Matters Is That F*ckin' Box”

18 CHAPTER 16: Facade versus Reality Don't Believe the Hype Beyond the Facade of the Red Carpet I've Finally Made It to That City on a Hill

19 Epilogue

20 Acknowledgments

21 About the Author

22 Index

23 End User License Agreement

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“This book is a chance for people to benefit from the humanity and wisdom Matt Del Negro has acquired by grinding through his own 10,000 NOs for so long. His value far exceeds his art. His talent is only outweighed by his humility and ability to connect with others and make them feel better about their own journey.”

—Bedros Keuilian,CEO, FitBody Bootcamp, bestselling author, Man Up

“Being told ‘no’ can either define you or ignite you. Matt's powerful book gives you the courage and confidence to turn that devastating ‘no’ into inspiration. Through his resilience, determination, and breathtaking honesty, Matt shows how to navigate the sting of rejection and convert it into the satisfaction of success! This book is a serious life changer!”

—Sue Hollis,Cofounder, The TravelEdge Group, Coach, Adventurepreneur, Top 10 Women Entrepreneurs in Australia, author of Riding Raw: A Journey from Empty to Full, motorbike racer

“If you want a reality check, a connection to what it takes to get where you want to go in life… advice about the reality of getting past 10,000 NOs to the one ‘Yes’ you desire and will commit to, then make this your Life Bible. Absorb it. Listen to the words. Then go no further. Settle in. And make Matt's experience… yours.”

—Roger Fishman,Adventure Photographer, author, What I Know, former Head of Marketing, CAA

MATTHEW DEL NEGRO

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