Diana Richardson - Tantric Sex for Men

tantric scriptures), sacred knowledge from the ancients. These ancient sources contain compelling

information that rightfully should be passed down from one generation to the next.

Fig. 4.1. Inner magnets of man and woman, showing poles, magnetic rods, and potential circular energy flow (in yab-yum

position).

Male and Female Aspects within the Individual

The previous chapter explained the way in which each human being can be likened to a magnet, with

a male and a female pole energetically linked by a rod of magnetism that, when awakened, gives rise

to an inner electromagnetic streaming. This subtle internal by-product of the inner male and female

forces at play within us represents our innate bisexual reality, and represents the very foundation of

tantra and the biological basis of the orgasmic experience.

Of particular significance is that these two forces are equal. One is not more, one is not less; they

are balanced, even. However, these poles simultaneously exist as opposite forces in relation to each

other. The poles are equal forces, but opposite forces, not identical forces. Male represents an

outgoing—“positive” or dynamic—force. Female represents a receptive—“negative” or passive—

force.

The qualities of receptive and dynamic are diametrically opposite, and at the same time, they are

equal and opposite and complement each other. They balance, correspond, and enhance each other,

and one cannot exist without the other. Just as electricity requires two poles, positive and negative, no

being or body can be without two poles, masculine and feminine, the universal forces of yin and yang.

Dynamic and Receptive Poles

In the male body the male, positive pole is represented in the genitals, the female, receptive pole in

the chest/heart. The reverse is true for woman; the male, positive pole is in the breasts/nipples/heart,

the female, receptive pole is in the genitals. When man and woman are in an upright, standing

position, man can be visualized as a magnet standing on its head, with the positive (north) pole below

and the negative (south) pole above. The woman is like a magnet standing upright: the positive (north)

pole is above and the negative (south) pole is below.

Magnets Meet at Opposite Ends

When a man and a woman come together in an embrace, for instance, their bodies actually meet with

energetically opposite ends aligned. The positives and negatives of each individual approach and

meet simultaneously at the genital and heart levels. The inner rods of magnetism (as mentioned in the

previous chapter as the source of the orgasmic state) flow in opposite directions to each other. When

two magnets meet at opposite ends, there is an attractive force that pulls them together. And the same

“magnetic” attraction can also be felt between male and female bodies. There is a perceptible

drawing and pulling sensation as the equal and opposite forces influence each other. In addition, there

is tremendous amplification of the magnetic or energy fields surrounding the two magnets/bodies.

The Dynamic Male Force

A man’s body contains two poles, but the male dynamic aspect is the outer aspect, while the female

(receptive) is his inner aspect. In a woman’s body the reverse is true. The female receptive aspect is

outer, and the male (dynamic) aspect is her inner aspect. One aspect is externalized, but both aspects

are always present. Generally speaking, this implies that physically and energetically the man,

predominantly male, is a dynamic force, while the woman, predominantly female, is a receptive

force. Man does not have to take any direct action to connect with his feminine side, or his so-called

inner woman. The more truly male man becomes through a relaxed, non-doing presence in sex, the

more his opposite feminine quality of love will naturally and gradually open up. There will be a

balancing within him. Similarly, a woman will access her “inner man” by relaxing increasingly into

her feminine nature. The harmonizing inner opposite emerges and flowers as an alchemical process,

as an outcome or a by-product.

Figure 4.1 shows the inner magnets of a man and woman with poles, magnetic rod, and potential

circular energy flow while sitting in yab-yum position.

Genitals—Equal and Opposite Forces

The qualities of these forces, the intrinsically different polarities of man and woman, extend down to

the level of the genital tissues. The shape of the male penis informs us that it is an instrument from

which energy can flow or emanate. Likewise, the vagina is shaped as a canal or receptor with an

innate capacity to receive, absorb, or draw out the opposite force.

Energetically and physically our equal and opposite forces are complementary; they fit together to

form a single unit. There is a completion in the joining of the penis and vagina, when a man’s dynamic

pole meets and penetrates a woman’s receptive pole. When separate and apart, it can be said that the

genitals exist as two incomplete halves. Tantra masters believe that everything that is incomplete is

longing for completion and suggest that the search for sex, the longing for sex, represents a deep

yearning for union, completion, and peace.

Through the understanding of polarity—the equal, opposite, and complementary forces—it

becomes more apparent that man is not necessarily an independent unit unto himself. In order to invite

the truly masculine qualities embodied in his penis, a man is dependent on the environment around

him, namely, the vagina. The quality of receptivity determines or influences the dynamic qualities. A

dynamic force can only be dynamic (experience its very self) through being received. In fact, the more

receptive, the more dynamic; the two happenings are inextricably linked. Giving makes receiving

possible, and receiving makes giving possible, which is why it is so important for a man to take into

account his equal and opposite force and become aware of the vital role of receptivity.

The Significance of the Female Environment

To manifest the vitality of the penis and discover how best to call forth its dynamic male qualities

(and essential function), the woman needs to be centrally placed in the sexual constellation. Man

physically enters woman with his penis, so the environment surrounding the penis is to be given value

and not underestimated. The polarity differences between men and women are best embraced and

enhanced, not sidestepped, in order to make the most of the sexual situation. Acknowledging the

woman’s receptive nature allows the man to experience himself as a truly masculine force. He feels a

deep sexual fulfillment when he experiences male energy flowing through him and being received by

the woman.

Man is inextricably dependant on woman for his higher experiences, and her environment needs

some preparation to be able to warmly receive the guest. Man basically can be ready for sex at any

given moment if he so wishes, which is probably the by-product of being a positive, dynamic force.

Woman’s lack of instant readiness is a by-product of her nature as a receptive, passive force. Any

reluctance or unwillingness in sex is not a mental hang-up or frigidity, but rather a reflection of the

intelligence of the body.

Woman’s Body Needs Clock Time to Open

Usually man prefers to penetrate woman as soon as possible. Getting inside her becomes his primary