Diana Richardson - Tantric Sex for Men

warm, and loving, the penis responds positively to the intrinsic force-flow. When the female

environment is closed, tight, or unwelcoming, the penis can easily shrink and withdraw as it loses

cellular interest. For a man it is a profoundly moving and touching experience to feel deeply

welcomed into the vagina by a woman.

Awakening Polarity

You and your partner can make yourselves more aware of your complementary polarities before you

start lovemaking—as a kind of foreplay. Or at any other time.

Sit opposite each other on the floor on cushions situated a little distance apart so that your knees or

hands aren’t touching. Close your eyes and tune into your positive poles: for you that would be at the

root of your penis (the perineum), and for your partner, her breasts and nipples. Take a few minutes

for this. After a while when you feel you have managed to pull your attention into your penis and

testicles, imagine the penis radiating energy, light, and warmth toward your woman’s vagina. She

should imagine herself receiving the love and light into her vagina and at the same time radiating

warmth, light, and love out through her breasts to you. Imagine receiving all this beautiful energy and

absorb it into your chest and heart.

You can use the breath to support the experience if you wish (but should you feel more relaxed

without any special attention on the breath, this choice is fine too). As you breathe out, radiate love

and light from the penis. As you breathe in, absorb the love and light coming from her breasts.

Breathe in together and then out together for a while. Or as one breathes out, the other breathes in,

then vice versa. When you feel ready, open your eyes in a gentle, receptive way, and sustain an

inviting, gentle eye contact.

If you feel a physical attraction arising between you, woman can move across the space, and you

can assist her to wrap her legs around your waist while sitting in your lap (yab yum position);

cushions can be used to support her if necessary. This position brings the genitals into closer

proximity and the breasts and chest into correspondence. This means the inner magnets are meeting at

opposite ends. Embrace lightly and feel the inner sensations, or use the imagination to circle the

energies.

If you wish, you can also change the breathing pattern—as you breathe in, woman breathes out; as

woman breathes in, you breathe out. This practice will intensify the feeling of the energy and

aliveness circling between your bodies. After a time you probably will begin to feel subtle sensations

of the energy circulating. If yab-yum is not comfortable to sustain, you can move into a standing

position, or you can do the entire exercise standing. Experiencing this circling energy may lead to a

mutual desire for union, but if not, slowly separate your bodies so that you don’t suddenly break the

energetic connection. Sit with closed eyes and settle your attention inside your own body for few

minutes.

Tantric Inspiration

And this merger should not become unconscious, otherwise you miss the point. Then it is a beautiful sex act, but not

transformation. It is beautiful, nothing is wrong in it, but it is not transformation. And if it is unconscious then you will

always be moving in a rut. Again and again you will want to have this experience. The experience is beautiful as far

as it goes, but it will become a routine. And each time you have it, again more desire is created. The more you have

it, the more you desire it, and you move in a vicious circle. You don’t grow, you just rotate.

Rotation is bad because then growth is not happening. The energy is simply wasted. Even if the experience is

good, the energy is wasted, because much more was possible. And it was just at the corner, just a turn, and much

more was possible. With the same energy the divine could have been achieved. With the same energy the ultimate

ecstasy is possible, and you are wasting that energy in momentary experiences. And by and by those experiences

will become boring, because repeated again and again, everything becomes boring. When the newness is lost,

boredom is created.

If you remain alert you will see: first, changes of energy in the body; second, dropping of thoughts from the mind;

and third, dropping of the ego from the heart. And when this third thing has happened, that energy, your sex energy,

has transformed into meditative energy.

OSHO, TRANSCRIBED TEACHINGS,

MY WAY: THE WAY OF THE WHITE CLOUDS

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THE PENIS—A POTENT ELECTROMAGNETIC

INSTRUMENT

A man who experiences his penis as a divine instrument of love and ecstasy develops a profound trust

in his manhood, which rests easily and gently at the center of his being. He has the capacity to listen

to his body, loves and respects his penis, and knows how to be male in relation to female. He

understands the source of his erection and is in control of his ejaculation, and not vice versa. He

becomes able to prolong the sex act at will and capable of holding a relaxed, timeless space that

supports woman (and thereby himself) as an equal and opposite force in experiencing orgasmic

fulfillment.

When man and woman are rooted in nature—man as dynamic force, woman as receptive force—

there is an intrinsic movement as a by-product of the meeting of opposite polarities. Spontaneous,

inherent circles of giving and receiving come into play. Man gives to woman, she receives from man;

woman gives to man, he receives from woman. Many men have probably experienced, however

briefly, no greater blessing than being the recipient of woman’s love; there is nothing more gratifying

or significant in the life of a man. When he receives a shower of female essence, divine feminine

nectar, the pure sweetness of it is a magically empowering experience for a man. It is the love that is

awakened in her through the power of a loving penis. Such enchanting experiences are the true

outcome of sexual union, but happen much too seldom. Normally at the outset of a relationship, when

the situation is fresh and new, magical experiences naturally occur. The knack is to keep re-creating

the newness and not fall into habit or take each other for granted.

SEXUAL CONDITIONING INFLUENCES SEXUAL BEHAVIOR

Very few men have conscious control over themselves or their penises in sex, which puts them at a

disadvantage in creating love. Lack of control exists because there is a complete absence of

constructive information. Instead, unconscious impressions about sex from earliest childhood

accumulate and shape the individual, gradually forming a sexual conditioning that distorts the

individual’s natural sexual responses or expression.

Although clarification about sex, or useful sex education, is virtually nonexistent in our culture, sex

continues to be a driving and distracting force. But at the same time this powerful force is kept under

wraps, like a secret. Most people are involved in sex in some way, but nobody acknowledges it,

shares information, or even talks about it. Sex shifts away from the body and becomes an aspect of the

mind as expressed in thoughts, fantasies, dreams, and voyeurism, and this is true even in self-

pleasuring. Sex leaves the realm of the humanly sensitive flesh to become something you think about a

zillion times more than you actually do.