Friedrich Sauerländer - Ejaculatio praecox

Friedrich Sauerländer

Ejaculatio praecox

... and what you can do about it

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Introduction Introduction Very few people talk about it voluntarily, but most men know the problem: it doesn't always work out in bed the way you want it to - the orgasm comes too soon or it doesn't come at all. There are many different reasons for this; they can be stress-related, relationship problems or alcohol consumption. Also longer abstinence or a new partner can be the cause. Experts estimate that between 20 and 30 percent of all men suffer from ejaculatio praecox, i.e. premature ejaculation. This book provides information about the characteristics of premature ejaculation, about therapy options and the various possibilities and methods of self-help. It should be noted, however, that it cannot replace medical help from a urologist. First of all, one should consult the doctor to rule out that the problem has no organic cause. The book is intended to help those affected to develop control over their ejaculation, to become more aware of their body and feelings, to help them to have a happy sex life and ultimately to strengthen their self-confidence. As so often, the psyche plays a very decisive role. To all those who have almost given up hope, let me say: Ejaculatio praecox belongs to the sexual disorders with very good chances of recovery! The first question is whether one really suffers from Ejaculatio praecox. Because the time it actually takes to reach orgasm rarely corresponds to the perceived duration. Therefore estimated time values are not necessarily decisive. Also, the fact that a new partner, during first sex or after a long period of sexual abstinence, will have an early and premature orgasm should not be a cause for concern - this is perfectly normal. If the man is unable to control and influence ejaculation and suffers from the fact that he reaches orgasm before, during or shortly after penetration, and if premature ejaculation occurs for several weeks, even though regular sex occurs, these are indications that ejaculatio praecox is present. First consult your family doctor or a urologist and confide in them. If the cause is not physical (organic), the problem can be addressed with the exercises described in this book. The rule of thumb is: the sooner you tackle the problem, the sooner you will get it under control!

Definition Definition Premature ejaculation is the name given to the unsatisfactory control of the man over the timing of his orgasm. However, premature ejaculation is very common during the first sexual experiences, for example; the same applies to sexual intercourse after long abstinence. So, although these are also premature orgasms, they are the rule in such cases due to the high degree of excitability. However, this problem usually disappears with regular intercourse - that is, there is not really a sexual disorder. Rather, the man's control over the orgasm consolidates over time and sexual contact. However, if premature ejaculation occurs regularly and the man comes against his will before intercourse (kissing, foreplay), during penetration of the partner or shortly after penetration to orgasm, a disorder is present.

What's the trouble? What's the trouble? Whether premature ejaculation is a physical or mental, i.e. a physical or rather a psychological problem, has not yet been fully clarified scientifically. A too fast reaction time of the nerves in the area of the pelvic muscles is a possible cause. Later on in this text, some methods will be explained which help to influence this reaction time and thus to control ejaculation better. Treatment at a psychotherapeutic level is of course also possible. This can also be done in combination with medication that is individually - i.e. tailored to the individual case. However, therapeutic treatment is not necessary in every case. Once the specialist, the urologist, has established that you are healthy, you can easily perform the exercises explained in this book. The possibilities to get the problem of ejaculatio praecox under control are very good. The self-treatment, i.e. the exercises described in this book, are an effective means of stopping premature ejaculation. They increase the control over your body and also reduce stress. You should do many of the exercises with your partner. Last but not least, the partner relationship will also benefit - it will become more sensitive and harmonious. Disgression: Communication Women often find it easier to talk about their problems than men. They believe that they are best able to deal with what is bothering them. They believe that it is a sign of weakness if they confide in their partner with problems. They believe that they have to show strength and remain silent. The opposite is the case. Your partner will appreciate it if you communicate openly with her about the problem Ejaculatio praecox. She may be less bothered by this than you think that the love act is over sooner than you would like. Perhaps your partner has already noticed that something is wrong but has not yet had the courage to raise the issue. Therefore: Communicate with your partner. Even the open conversation will help you to relax and the pressure will decrease. Communication breaks the vicious circle: fear of premature ejaculation - silence about the problem - lack of relaxation during sex - premature ejaculation - loss of self-esteem - renewed fear of premature ejaculation etc. So - give yourself a jolt. Make the problem a subject of discussion!

Organic causes Organic causes If the cause lies in a physical deficit, this can only be determined by the urologist. In this context, painful inflammations of the so-called urogenital tract, tumour diseases or similar are particularly worth mentioning. Increased secretion of the gonads, according to the results of recent research, leads to an excessive amount of semen, which ultimately results in ejaculatio praecox. Frequent sexual intercourse over a longer period of time usually reduces the pressure and thus gradually enables normal intercourse. So before you start your own therapy or consult a sex therapist, it is important to have your body thoroughly checked. And if there are no organic discrepancies, you can think about concrete steps to take.

Mental causes Mental causes The psychological causes are manifold. Occupational stress, in particular, can affect the sex life: The necessary rest and concentration is lacking - erectile dysfunction occurs, control over one's own body diminishes, premature ejaculation occurs. Family stress also exerts pressure and has a negative effect on the sex life. Depression (as well as the corresponding medication, see next chapter) can cause Ejaculatio praecox. Of course, those affected often put themselves under pressure: with the thought and the claim that it will work this time, the "sex stress" increases and often leads to the fact that it does not work after all, which ultimately only increases the pressure even more. Furthermore, conflicts and tensions in the partnership can also be the cause of a sexual disorder. If the topic of sexuality is not addressed in a relationship, if one's own preferences and those of the other person are not discussed, this can also be the reason for Ejaculatio praecox. Communication is important! A couple therapy can help to reduce inhibitions, the handling of the topic sex becomes more impartial and one can talk openly and honestly about one's own wishes (and also about the problems).