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aggression. See domination and submission

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Amanda and Nat, fantasy and

Amber, parenthood and

anchor and wave, security and

Andrew and Serena, intimacy and

Anger, excitement and

Arlene, fidelity and

Arousal (Bader)

autonomy

fidelity and

love and

self and others and

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Bader, Michael

Barthes, Roland

Beatrice and John, intimacy and

Ben, work ethic and

Benjamin, Jessica

Bliss (film)

Boccio, Frank Jude

body-mind continuum

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Can Love Last? (Mitchell)

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autonomy and

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ruthlessness and

selfishness and

children. See parenthood

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comfort love

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parenthood and

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cultural values and

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Marcus and

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equality. See domination and submission

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forms of

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sharing of

the Third and

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Fiddler on the Roof (film)

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the Third and

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Giddens, Anthony

goals. See work ethic

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Guillebaud, Jean-Claude

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cultural ambivalence about sexuality and

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teenage sexuality and

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“hooking up”

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Hot Monogamy (Love)

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independence

economic

emotional

infidelity. See fidelity

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mind-body continuum and

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“talk” intimacy and

intimacy, sexuality and. See also intimacy, pitfalls of modern

entrapment and

familiarity and

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separateness and

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love

anxiety and

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two pillars of

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marriage

absence of eroticism in

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intentionality and

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play and

spontaneity and

use of term

Melinda, childhood and desire

Men in Love (Friday)

Merkin, Daphne

Miller, Michael Vincent

mind-body continuum

Mindfulness Yoga (Boccio)

Mitch and Laura, intimacy and

Mitchell, Stephen

monogamy. See fidelity

Monogamy (Phillips)

Morin, Jack

Naomi and Doug and Zoë, fidelity and

Nat and Amanda, fantasy and

Nico and Maria, Puritanism and

Nin, Anaïs

Noriko and Eddie, intimacy and

O’Connor, Dagmar

Open to Desire (Epstein)

Paglia, Camille

parenthood

changes of

cult status of children and

cultural differences and

fathers and

mothers and

Stephanie and Warren and

parents, influence of. See childhood lessons

Paris to the Moon (Gopnik)

Passionate Marriage (Schnarch)

patterns, intimacy and

Paz, Octavio

Person, Ethel Spector

Philip and Jacqueline, marriage and

Phillips, Adam

play, marriage and

Polarity Management: Identifying and Managing Unsolvable Problems (Johnson)

power. See domination and submission

Proust, Marcel

Puritanism, hedonism and

cultural ambivalence about sexuality and

Maria and Nico and

Ratu and

teenage sexuality and

Quantification of sexuality

Raoul and Dominick, intentionality and

Ratu, Puritanism and

Ray and Joni, fantasy and

realists, security and

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Renee, parenthood and

Robbins, Anthony

Roiphe, Anne

romantics, security and

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Rubin, Lillian

Ryan and Christine, work ethic and

sadomasochism (S-M)

Saint-Exupéry, Antoine de

Salomé, Jacque

Scheinkman, Michele

Schnarch, David

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Charles and Rose and

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need for

romantics and realists and

uncertainty and

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autonomy and

James and Stella

ruthlessness and

selfishness and