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To open, simply walk up to a girl, stop two feet away from her, look in her eyes, and say the line. She will see you as you walk towards her and expect you to say something once you stop. Your body should face her at a slight glancing angle to show that she still needs to prove herself before you give her your complete attention. If you are planted and she is walking by you, make eye contact and deliver the line as she is still moving, understanding that it may take a second or two for her to realize you are talking to her. In both cases, speak loudly. Many times a girl seems to ignore you not because she was trying to snub you but because she didn’t hear you or didn’t know you were talking to her. In clubs, I practically have to yell the opener. You want to speak loud enough so that there is zero doubt in her mind that you are talking to her. There are two multi-purpose openers that you can use almost anywhere. The first: "Hey. You look like you are having the most fun here out of anyone." When used in a bar or club, it is said with enthusiastic sarcasm to match the mood of the venue. When said everywhere else, it is said with relaxed sarcasm, unless she really is having lots of fun then you can just say it straight. In both instances you crack a very slight smirk to let her know that you are being sarcastic. Say the "Hey" with a healthy volume to get her attention so that she makes eye contact with you. Once she does make eye contact, deliver the rest of the line. She will respond back with laughter or something simple like "Really?" or "I know, I am!" She is now opened. The reason this line works well is because you are joking that she appears boring, so you the interaction often starts with her qualifying herself to you. (By "qualifying herself" I mean she is explaining or rationalizing a perceived flaw.) The advantages of this opener are that it is very easy to deliver and doesn’t need adjustment based on where you are. The disadvantage is that you still need something else to continue conversation. When you are opening a group of girls, simply add the word "guys." Say, "Hey guys, you look like you are having the most fun here out of anyone." Again, I must stress to get your volume up there to make sure they all hear it―you don’t want the conversation to start with "What did you say?" When I use this opener, I either follow by making a comment about our shared environment or something situational, or I stack another opener after it, such as this second one.

The second opener: "Hey. Let me guess. You are from ________." Like in the previous opener, you also wait until eye contact is established before continuing after the "Hey." Make sure you do a dramatic two second pause after you say "Let me guess." Feel free to add a slight squint as if you are thinking. Here you are going to guess where she is from, whether it be a city, state, or country. I like using this opener on girls who are obviously not American because you dive into a guessing game of what country she is from. It’s win-win for you because if you get her country wrong then she usually wants you to keep guessing, continuing the interaction, and if you get it right then she is impressed and asks you how you knew. To double my chances of getting her country right, I cheat a little with something like, "You are either from Argentina or Mexico." Even with girls who are not ethnic and just white, this opener still works well: just guess that they are half German or Norwegian. There is a good chance her ancestor will be from somewhere in Europe. And then for girls who are acting snobby, show that you are not impressed with their demeanor by guessing they are from a place like Romania or West Virginia. As long as a girl doesn’t blow you off after you say "Hey," this opener leads to conversation. If your girl is in a group then say either, "Hey, let me guess… you guys are from Argentina," or, "You guys are from Argentina and Colombia," or, "I have a feeling that at least one of you is from Argentina." This opener works because of the guessing component, so it can easily be modified to start a conversation about almost anything. For instance if you see a girl writing in a bookstore, you can say, "Let me guess. You are writing the next great American novel?"

If you are at a music concert you can say, "Let me guess. You have been a fan since before they became big?" You can tone down the initial phrasing of this opener if you are in a more relaxed venue. In a coffee shop I’d say, "Hey, I’m just curious… are you from Argentina?"

Can you see yourself saying these lines to girls? A monkey could do this! While they are powerful, even the best opener is not going to work all the time, but these two are the most effective openers I’ve used. Not coincidentally, they are also the simplest. As for which one to use in certain situations, you can’t go wrong with either. These openers take away the "What am I going to say?" excuse that prevents so many guys from talking to a girl they like. Even if you completely freeze after the opener, the fact that you opened and made yourself a presence in her world dramatically increases your chance of getting something.

Understand: a successful opener only serves to start an openended conversation. They don’t have to be lengthy or complicated. I prefer short and simple openers as my heavy guns because they are more genuine and easy to deliver. If you need to spend time memorizing your opener, then what you have is a routine, which will be discussed later.

A very important type of opener is the environmental opener. This is when your opener is based on something in the surrounding environment. They take improvisational skill to come up with but open better than their scripted counterparts because they have a very natural feel. Often times you will be somewhere and have thoughts to yourself about what you are seeing or experiencing. All you have to do is use that to open a girl near you. For example, one night I was riding in a quiet subway car when a drunk man started singing to himself. I looked over the girl next to me and said, "I think everyone here needs some of what he’s having." I ended up getting her number. Another example was at a wine festival where I was sampling a wine and sarcastically told a girl, "This is the best wine I have ever tasted in my life!" Asking about something unusual or unique she has on with

"What does that mean?" is also very effective. These openers work because they describe her current reality. I end up saying stupid things all the time but as long as a conversation results, my opener is a success. The bar for environmental openers are much lower than for scripted openers―they can be far from perfect and still be very effective. But even if you can’t think of one, you have the two scripted openers to use.

There are some additional bar openers worth mentioning. The first makes fun of the nightlife scene where people try hard to be cool. It works on girls who are standing alone or in large groups. Say, "Hey, I was wondering if you can help me out. My friends and I are looking for the best spot here where we can pose." Whenever you are dealing with more than one girl, say "Hey guys" instead of "Hey." Unless she is walking past you, always wait for eye contact acknowledgement before continuing the line. They will ask you to clarify and you’re going to repeat "to pose" until they get it. Then add, "Yeah, because I’ve been working out a lot at the gym. And I just wanted girls to be able to see my new muscles." This is when a slight smirk develops on your face and the girls let out a laugh because they get your joke. This opener allows you to go into conversation about the things guys and girls do in clubs to get attention and win approval from others. A close variant to this opener is when you use dancing instead of posing: "Do you know the best spot here where me and my friend can dance, a place where the lighting is good? My friend is a club dancer and he needs a good spot to show off his moves." You can add: "And I’ve been practicing a little bit in front of the mirror myself." Once the joke is over and a humorous opener plays itself out, say, "All kidding aside," and then follow with the "Let me guess" opener (which technically would not be an opener now), or the female opinion routine described shortly. Running openers or routines in sequential order is called "stacking."