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Men with The Vibe appreciate and value life. This appreciation leads to desirable qualities that women find attractive, such as acceptance of who you are. You look at the big picture and become indifferent to life’s trivial nature. You’re in control of your emotions and do not let any one person or event break you down. If you believe that your time here on Earth is limited and your destiny is what you create, it is impossible to treat approaching and dating and banging as more than a fun diversion to entertain yourself with. When something doesn’t go your way, you respond with humor and wit instead of anger and emotion. You understand that your energy is better suited for the big battles, for the job layoffs and the family deaths, not rejections from strangers. You are a surfer riding a wave, adapting to the wave’s energy instead of fighting it. You adjust to your environment, getting the most out of the situations you face, whether you are riding small East Coasters or the monsters of Hawaii. Emotional control is the most important component of The Vibe. With it, your intellect and logic will always be dominant over the more primitive areas of your brain to better enable you to solve problems and make rapid adjustments. It is hard to make the strategic decisions required of the game if you get easily upset or angry. You don’t have a deep concern over the interactions you have with women (if you are doing things "right" or not) because you know this one interaction does not determine your value as a human being. Indirectly, having emotional control shows you are not needy. You don’t cling to a girl early on when you have your emotions in check. You show that you are not counting on any one person or event for your happiness. Women you meet will play their games and wonder why you aren’t reacting like all the other guys. In the process of trying to get you to react and respond, she gives you enough attention needed for you to tighten the attraction hold and move things forward. Appreciating life means you are more likely to spend your free time educating yourself with books, travel, and unique experiences. As a result, you will always have something interesting to say when you meet a new girl. A desire to becoming more cultured and mentally sharp gives you an unlimited supply of topics you can discuss with intelligence and wisdom, a quality that women find attractive. You don’t ask the same boring questions that all other guys ask because you understand that to be an interesting person you need to say interesting things, and to say interesting things you need to experience them firsthand.

Another result of appreciating life is that you place high value on your time. You do not waste it with people who are not fulfilling your needs. You are choosy about the friends you hang out with and the women you date. You have no problem walking away from a girl who is not your type, whether it be three minutes or three months into the interaction. You know what quality is and you feel you deserve to have it in your life. A girl is lucky you selected her to hang out with you because you will give her the best of what your personality and experiences have to offer. While it’s okay to have fun in the bar and talk to average girls for fun and practice, you commit the bulk of your time and energy to girls who are worth it. Selecting for quality displays that you are quality. A final component of The Vibe is having a playful nature. It is present in people who have the ability to quickly develop connections with others. Being playful with a sense of humor attracts girls like a magnet because of the positive atmosphere it creates. While you do not want to be a clown, understand that playfulness is an extremely effective human bonding technique. Your sense of humor can be dry, sharp, or sarcastic, as long as it accurately describes or pokes fun of the world we live in. Being playful doesn’t mean you have to be loud and attention-seeking―it means you put a fun spin on all types of situations you find yourself in. The Vibe uses a strategy to build attraction using your personality instead of factors like status, looks, and money. Even if you possess those things it is still best to use personality to attract women because it offers a stronger hook to catch less superficial women. There is always going to be another guy with higher status, better looks, or more money than you, but the odds he will have your same awesome personality are miniscule. Three years after getting into the game, I had my shit together. I had a successful career and lived in a large house in a good neighborhood; I had a motorcycle and bartended part-time at an upscale venue; I had a respectable, brand-name wardrobe; and I just ended a short but successful club DJ career. When I met a new girl, I would not-so-casually tell her how cool I was by bringing up my motorcycle, my bartending gig, and my experience as a DJ. On paper I thought I had all the cool qualities a girl needed, but I proceeded to have the worst slump since getting into the game. The reason was because I stopped using my personality to attract girls―I was using accomplishments or status instead to try to impress her like every other guy. After I realized what I was doing, I went back to depending on The Vibe and started withholding information about myself so she would have to dig to find out more. I went back to being an interesting, mysterious character instead of another guy who owns a sportbike. You must resist the temptation to brag about all the qualities you think are positive. It’s much better if she finds out on her own and wonders what else could be buried inside. Be like a Russian doll, with layers upon layers of substance. By the time she has sex with you, she will only know maybe less than half of all your positive qualities. As time goes on and she learns more, she will get even more hooked onto you because you did not blurt out your positive qualities in a fast and obvious attempt to impress her when you first met. The Vibe possesses qualities that are indirectly communicated to the girls you meet. In other words, it is subcommunicated through exposure to your words and body language. You never say that you value your time or are playful―it becomes a part of your essence that leaks out to those who interact with you. For example, men who value their time tend to be selective with girls they choose to spend time with. This attitude manifests itself in words when he says things to girls like, "You’re pretty weird," or, "You’re too old for me," without conscious effort on his part. It just comes out―and she will be more into him as a result. Instead of teaching you a hundred different lines, it’s more effective to teach you the mindset that produces them. Once you have mastered this mindset, talking to girls will be easier, and more of them will be interested in you.

One of the biggest problems guys have is running out of things to say after the approach. This is a real problem because a prolonged silence less than thirty minutes into the conversation is almost certainly death. I know if I pause for longer than ten seconds during those initial thirty minutes, the pick-up will die. The good news is that later on in the night and on the first date and after, silences are not only accepted but welcome; they display that you are not trying too hard to please her. But this is well after she has decided she wants to spend time with you. There are two reasons why silence early on is bad. First, girls don’t have many things to say to people they are not sure about. Until she feels attraction for you, she won’t feel the need to work through an awkward silence. Second, most girls believe that if two people have instant chemistry, there is no reason to run out of things to say right after meeting. To her, both of you should be tripping over each other in deep conversation. While instant chemistry does happen, most of the time you will grow on her after a period of time. Therefore, you will be doing more than 70% of the talking for at least thirty minutes after the approach. Once she becomes comfortable with you and decides that she is interested, there will be less pressure to come up with things to say.