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"I’ve been working for six years and while I like my job, I’m really curious on what else is out there. I don’t want to be 70-years-old and on my death bed, wondering how my life would have been if I didn’t take a chance." Maybe you want to start an interesting business or do something creative like paint or write. These are great things to tell a girl because it shows you have a passion that you are working on, that you aren’t someone who just fills spare time with expensive, meaningless hobbies. Bring these up in a casual way that fits naturally in the conversation. A heavy but thought-provoking question I like to throw out after I talk about my plans is, "So what do you plan on doing with your life?" When it is obvious that you are both single, say, "I prefer a fantasy relationship like I see in movies instead of one where I have to, you know, sacrifice. I don’t know anyone who wants to sacrifice in relationships anymore." By now you’ve probably noticed I like asking questions or bringing up topics that stir up a little insecurity or doubt. This is because I want her to focus on her flaws and problems instead of my own. She’s on stage being evaluated, not me, increasing the likelihood she will do things to impress me. Then we have the qualification theme. The threads here will be about her and whether she is capable in a way that you desire. You won’t come out and say, "So do you possess the qualities I want in a woman?"―but you will insinuate it. She will assume you are selective and know what you want. Ask her if she cooks. I say, "I had a female roommate once and she was great at cooking frozen chicken nuggets but nothing else." If she can’t cook and you love home-cooked meals, say "Minus a million points!" as if you are keeping a running tally of her worth. Change cooking with a skill that is important to you. If you are an artist you can ask her if she draws. An important one for me is if she takes care of her body. I asks girls if they go to the gym, and almost all of them, regardless of weight, says yes. Then I dive into a fun bit where I ask her to flex. She will flex her bicep and I gently squeeze it to size up her muscle. Then I say, "Okay go ahead flex… any time now." Since she is already flexing, the joke is that her muscle is too small. (Credit goes to famous pick-up artist Mystery who I think came up with it first.) Then I flex for her and tell her how I dominate in the gym and scare little children. Feel free to add, "Actually I got so big that I had to stop going for a while." This works especially well if you are not huge. Then you have threads where you peg her on something that is not entirely favorable. "You seem like the kind of girl who likes reality television. Am I right?" I add, "I don’t watch TV anymore. I’ve weaned myself off the glass teat," with a smile. The questions you ask will depend on what you want in a girl. Just like when a manager interviews you for a position and asks about your experience, you will ask a girl in a fun and indirect way about the qualities you desire. Ask her if she has them and then provide an interesting explanation about that quality. I also ask a girl where she lives because I’m not trying to spend hours on the road to date her. I would go into a story that longdistance relationships are a myth, like the yeti. If she grew up from a different city, state, or country than you, ask her about the differences she has noticed. It would be a good opportunity to explain what you like or don’t like about the city you two are sharing right now, which makes interesting conversation easy. Bring up qualification questions at about the 10-20 minute mark. They will have more impact if you’ve been talking a short while. Finally you have the screwball theme, where you throw out odd questions when the conversation is stalling despite your best attempts. Here you get a chance to experiment with exotic material that teaches you how women respond in atypical situations. Ask a girl what reasons she would attribute to the fall of the Roman Empire, adding "Well according to the movie Gladiator…." Ask, "What artistic period do you think best represented the humanity of man?" Ask her what "once in a blue moon" really means. If girls respond well to your screwball question, you may want to incorporate it into your standard game. These types of questions teach you to relax and not take the game so seriously.

I don’t recommend you talk about sex. Now you can still get laid by asking her questions about porno and her favorite sex positions, but I can’t help but shake something an old friend told me: "Those who talk about sex the most are the ones who get it the least." After you have sex with a girl I do recommend short exchanges where you tell her sexual things you like, but before that talking about it not going to help you. For all a girl knows, I’m a virgin who doesn’t even know what sex is. This is good news if you are sexually inexperienced because if you don’t bring it up, chances are she won’t either. Threads serve to help you keep the conversation going. Because conversations are not scripted or memorized, you will be going into approaches with just some ideas and key words of what to talk about. From that point you will need to use your brain to maintain interesting conversation in real time. These threads fill silences with material that builds attraction. While we want to naturally hop from one thread to the next, if you are facing a deadly silence then just blurt out whatever you have in your head. It’s okay to seem a little random for the sake of continuing the interaction. The guys who are fast learners at pick-up were already chatty beforehand. All they had to do was change a little bit of their content to optimize it for a different purpose and audience. If you aren’t chatty, you will need to get chatty because the game is more Night At The Im-prov than Swingers. Improvisational comedians never say the exact same thing twice, but they do go into their acts with a huge toolbox of staple jokes, facial expressions, and stock phrases. The only difference is their primary goal is to make people laugh while yours is to get laid. Even though most of the examples I’ve given you use humor, keep in mind their purpose is to hook her attention, make her laugh, and get ready for a conversation where you display value through your opinions, wit, and experience. Humor also helps us screen out girls who take themselves too seriously. Her failure to understand your humor is a shortcut that tells you when it’s time to move on to a girl who is more down-to-earth and open to your game. The threads I’ve shared so far have statements that you will be tempted to memorize, but even for me, they never come out the same way twice. They always change and evolve. Exceptions are scripted routines, which remain static because they are already well-optimized. If you have trouble remembering threads or routines you want to use, I recommend sending yourself a text message and locking it so it always stays in your inbox. No one will know what you are doing when you want to take a peek.

Routines are scripted material that are very effective at building attraction. Unlike conversation threads which are fluid and short, routines are longer, more static, and harder to deliver. In this section I will discuss two routines that are worth your time to study, ones that I have used hundreds of times. Additional routines that are best used on dates will be discussed later in the book. A popular routine that has been passed on since the turn of the century is the opinion opener. While many guys use it to open, I find that its effectiveness is maximized when used after the opener. The routine starts off with, "Hey I need a female opinion on something."

You ask your question and explain it thoroughly to allow for a rich answer. The impact of this opener is not the question, but the explanation you give where you display your humor and confidence. My default opinion concerns mustaches: "So I’m going to grow a mustache, and I know it’s going to be popular once I start the trend again, but I’m wondering what kind of mustache I should grow. Should it curl up or down?" The girl will laugh and tell me that I shouldn’t grow a mustache at all, and then I go on to say that a real man shouldn’t bring a razor to his face. Like usual, you say these humorous or sarcastic lines with a slight smirk. Pick a creative question that lets you go on about whatever it is you are asking. Another example of a fun opinion: "My friend has fallen on tough times and he is working for cleaning services at a local high school, and he doesn’t know how to bring it up to girls he meets. Should he lie?" You can add, "Would you date a school janitor if he had a great personality?" Playfully tease her if she hesitates with an answer. It’s okay if your opinion is not based on complete truth, but the more it relates to your life the more natural your delivery will be.