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Before we talk about girls who are interested in you, first I have to give you the bad news: most of your approaches will not fare very well. You may not be a girl’s physical type, she may have a boyfriend or crush on some other guy, she may not be open to meeting guys in bar venues, or she may not like your hairstyle. It could be one of hundreds of reasons, many of which you can do nothing about. Some nights you will have to approach over five girls until you come across one that wants to hear what you have to say. And even then, not every girl is going to be open to your game: she may call you out, make fun of you, or try to challenge everything you say. (If she’s being argumentative, say, "Wow, you are really feisty. Are you always like this?") If she doesn’t start acting the way you want, walk away. The last thing you need is for one girl with an agenda to mess up your state for the day or night. Just let it roll off your back and go find a girl who is more receptive to meeting someone new. In your development you will achieve micro-accomplishments over an extended period of time where you don’t get rejected as much. That sounds tough but it’s the only way to build a skill-set that will last. A girl who likes you will ask questions about yourself. This is the number one way to know if a girl is interested in you or not. It means she wants more information about the guy she is considering banging. Her questions serve as an indicator of our progress while also giving us the opportunity to build the attraction even further. The first question an interested girl will ask you is, "What is your name?" Give a straight answer to this question and ask for her name in return. I never ask a girl for her name first because then I’d lose an opportunity to gain information about how she feels about me. (If she talks to you for one hour and does not ask you for your name, that means she is just using you to entertain herself.) The fact that girls are predictable in their line of getting-to-know-you questions means you have the opportunity to deliver optimized answers in routine form. The second most common question is, "What do you do?" I hate this question because it shows a lack of originality on the girl’s part. Job titles should come out naturally in conversation over an extended period of time, at a point where you can almost guess what the other person does for a living. But girls want to quickly be able to judge your pecking order in society and possibly guess how much money you make. When asked this question, most guys do their very best to impress the girl by whipping out a business card or stating how many subordinates he has, but what he’s doing is seeking validation from her, hoping his job will get her panties wet. The only time it does is if you are a celebrity or famous artist. When a girl asks you what you do, give her an answer that shows very clearly you do not seek her approval, which will increase her attraction for you even more. I like to have fun with the answer to this question so I have a couple favorites. The first one: "Right now I’m unemployed. I sit at home in my father’s basement most of the day, surfing message boards on the Internet. Then I go to the bookstore and read books for free because the library is too dirty for me." She will ask if you are serious. Say that you are, then smile. Resist the urge to tell her what you really do, and bust on her if she persists, saying,

"You’ve only known me for so and so minutes―what about my job could possibly tell you more than a natural conversation with me?"

Now she thinks you have something to hide, but this is okay because you are putting out a mysterious and shady vibe that girls are drawn into. Answer number two: "I live off the land." Let her ask what that means. "I have a small plot of land where I grow organic crops. I sell what I don’t eat at the local farmer’s market. That’s how I can afford to drink here with you right now. I have a very simple life." Accuse her of judging you if she says she doesn’t believe your story. I go on to tell her about how I grow the specific crops (butter lettuce and on-thevine tomatoes.) Other than your name, you want to hold off for a bit until you give her real answers about yourself. There is a chance a girl with a princess personality will be turned off by the fact you don’t feed her information on demand, that she needs to know right now what you do for a living or else she can’t spend another minute talking to you. I let these girls go because if she needs to know what I do before she can talk to me, she probably isn’t all that interested in banging me anyway.

The next common question girls ask is, "How old are you?" Your answer to this question will be, "Guess!" Constantly giving straight answers sucks energy out of male-female interactions. Again, be the mysterious and shady character that she always has to work to get stuff out of. This technique also keeps the conversation going and steers you clear of an interview vibe. Other than the "Where do you live?" and "What’s your name" questions, your stock answer will be "Guess!" until you come up with something more fun. You will run into girls who respond to "Guess" with something like, "I don’t want to play games and guess." This translates to, "I want you to answer me in a way that I desire." Not only do these types of girls want their needs served first, but in a way that they dictate. It’s hard to tell where you stand with a girl until she starts asking you questions. Even though you must be chatty and dominate the conversation early on, you have to be able to pick up on whether she is enjoying your presence or not so you don’t waste your time. When you are talking to someone you don’t like, you probably give clear signals of disinterest: you turn your body away from them, maintain very little eye contact, and speak the least amount of words possible. You do everything you can to discourage the person from continuing. You rarely ask questions because if you did, the person would keep on talking and you definitely do not want that. In the first few minutes of an interaction, a girl may give off similar signs of disinterest. This is normal and does not necessarily mean she does not want to talk to you―she just may not be sure about you yet. To be sure you are going to continue for another few minutes until you are reasonably certain she is not interested. This prevents you from walking away too early if she is a little shy or if she is self-conscious about how she is appearing to her friends who may be nearby. If you are unsure of her interest level, ask yourself, "Is she engaging me?" Does she recognize you as an interesting human being with ideas and experiences that she wants to get to know? Is she maintaining eye contact and putting in effort to make it a smooth interaction? Is talking to her more enjoyable than having your teeth pulled? If not, walk away without doubt and move on to the next girl. It usually won’t get to that―she will just turn away from you without saying anything or let you know that she is going to talk to her friends.

If she is asking you personal questions, keeping eye contact, and assisting with the conversation, squash any doubt in your head about her interest level and proceed as if she wants to have sex with you. The one question you do not want to hear is, "Are you a comedian?" This may happen to you in early stages of testing material. When a girl says that, she is really saying, "You know I don’t mind you too much, but you are coming across as really fake." Either your material sounds too perfect, like it happened to someone else, or you are speaking at her instead of with her as if you are on a stage playing out a performance. This is a problem with guys who use all routines and no threads. Since you won’t have more than a few routines memorized, I don’t expect you to get this complaint. While you will say things that make her laugh, remember that humor is just a means to an end. If you feel like you are entertaining the girl, providing her with laughs and getting no real engagement in return, drop all routines and move towards casual conversation. Body language is sometimes a useful indicator of whether she is interested or not. If during the conversation you note a negative change in her body language where she appears to be closing off to you by folding her arms or turning away, it would be wise to change what you’re doing. But if all of a sudden she’s touching you more, you can take that as sign of serious interest where you can escalate the interaction. Remember that the only reason we care whether a girl is interested or not in the first place is because it acts as a green light for us to start driving the interaction towards sex. It’s okay if a girl turns out to be not interested in you because your willingness to approach means there will be more options before the day or night is over. Proper game is based on the model of abundance, where it’s understood that there are a surplus of single, quality women out there who want to have sex. Guys who do poorly with women have a reality based on a model of scarcity, where the world collapses upon itself if he didn’t get with that one "special" girl. When you have to eject from talking to a girl or group of girls because of disinterest, do not think about what happened until the night is over. The temptation to immediately figure out what you did wrong wastes valuable approach time, especially when it’s more likely you did nothing wrong at all. Do all your thinking at home when you are done talking to girls, where you look at each situation and think about what you could have done to have made it gone smoother. In some cases it’s going to be obvious when you said one thing that got an immediate negative reaction, but in most cases where it won’t be obvious, simply reinforce the things you did right. There are times when this reflection on a night out makes me see that I tried to be too funny, or I talked way too much. Sometimes I notice I ejected too soon, or I showed too much interest early on. Don’t beat yourself up about it, but make a mental note so you correct it for the next pick-up. Once this process is repeated hundreds of times, you will deliver an optimized game that you feel comfortable about.