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The next routine is the most powerful I have. It’s something I make sure to do with every girl I talk to because it hits each positive component of The Vibe. It’s the "I want to break up with you" routine. The best time to do this is about 5-10 minutes into the interaction when you have already established stable conversation. First, set up the routine by asking a question that shows how you and your target are different. Because I like cats and most girls like dogs, I ask a girl, out of the blue, "Do you like cats or dogs?" If she likes cats like me, I postpone the routine. But if she says dogs (most do), I appear disappointed and say, "Oh, really. That’s not good because I really like cats." Then I begin the routine: "I have some good news and some bad news. The bad news is that I don’t think it’s going to work out between us… we’re going to have to break up." Have a disappointed look on your face. The average response will be laughter, but sometimes the girl starts role-playing as your newly-dumped girlfriend. She will say, "Oh no how am I going to go on with life?" Continue: "I know it will be very hard for you to move on because it will be impossible to find a guy like me, but I’m sure as the years go by, there may be a guy who is almost like me." Another thing you can say is, "I know we had a lot of good times together, so this really wasn’t an easy decision, but I know for me it’s the right thing to do." Then once you’ve passed the role-playing peak, hit her with the good news: "But then there’s the good news. Yesterday I saved a lot of money on my car insurance." If any one routine defines my game, this one is it ― optimized over years of practice. I cannot stress how important it is to include this routine in your game. If both of you like the same animal then you have to manufacture a quality where there is a difference in preference. Sometimes I use her age if we are more than a couple years apart. It doesn’t matter much what quality you use because you just want a plausible segue to get the routine going. You can also launch into this routine after asking her one of your qualification questions from earlier (e.g. "Can you cook?"). You may have an initial resistance to using scripted material, but chances are you’re using them already. If you’ve ever told a story more than once, you are telling a routine, a conversational piece that you know your audience will positively respond to. If you’ve ever repeated an opinion of yours with the same backing evidence, you’ve told a routine. Openers and routines come together to form a conversation that girls enjoy. You are giving them what they want: fun vibes from an interesting guy. The only problem with repeating the same thing over and over again is that you tend to go from telling to reciting―you begin to talk faster and limit eye contact while you stare off in space and speak from memory. As long as you keep your speech pace at a normal rate and maintain eye contact at all times, there is a very low probability that she will ever think you are using lines on her. And even if she does, as long as she is enjoying your company, she won’t care.

In threads and routines you will be saying a lot of funny things, but whatever you do, don’t laugh at your own jokes. The single unifying trait of lame men everywhere is that they laugh at their own jokes regardless of whether their audience thought it was funny or not. It’s a sign of insecurity. If you say a joke and the girl doesn’t laugh, then you shouldn’t laugh. Do not keep repeating jokes or sayings that people don’t respond to, a strong hint to drop it from your repertoire. Once you understand the structure of a good routine, you can create them on your own. A custom routine first has to start with an observation or realization about a topic that girls understand. For instance, let’s say I noticed girls look very attractive when the bar lights are turned down low and I wanted to see if this would be a good topic to introduce into my game. First, I would relay my observation to her in the form of a question. Then, after allowing her to respond, I would give explanation with added detail, humor, or story-telling. Example:

"I’ve been to a lot of bars and clubs in the area and have noted all the ones with the least amount of light. So what I do is only go to the dark ones so I can be surrounded by the most beautiful people in the world. It’s like I’m back in Italy. The only problem is if you meet someone in the dark, you have to only hang out in places that are dark as well."

Here I imply I am well-traveled, knowledgeable of the scene, and aware of female attractiveness. Routines are an indirect, non-bragging way to tell her how awesome you are. After I construct a new routine, I would try it out a few times and note if girls respond positively. Does the routine result in interesting conversation that flows? Is it easy to jump off this routine onto other topics? If so, I’ll add it to my routine collection. Otherwise I will drop it and experiment with another one. It’s great when you come up with a blockbuster routine that makes her cry from laughter, but a routine’s purpose is also to keep the conversation going, build attraction, and serve as a vehicle to share your opinions, wit, and humor. Some of your routines should be sedate, or else a nonstop barrage of exciting routines may cause her to see you as a performer. Pretend you are like a DJ who throws in a crappy song every now and then to make the good songs seem really good by comparison.

Routines are a necessary component of your game because they display your value while filling in those first 30 minutes. Soon you will speak in routine form because it is the most optimal way to present ideas, opinions, and stories.

None of the material I’ve discussed so far contains direct compliments. There is a time and place for simple compliments like "You look nice tonight" on dates when her interest in you is obvious, but compliments early-on are difficult to implement without appearing beta or too nice. This is especially true with regard to her looks. Never tell a girl that she is beautiful or hot, because what that does is increase her value relative to yours, unless you happen to be more handsome than she is beautiful. Not complimenting will help you because you are withholding a reward that all women want, one that they will stick around waiting for. As an extension to not complimenting a girl, do not discuss your feelings of emotion or attraction for her. Never tell a girl you like her or feel something for her. Beta males have a serious problem with telling their lady friends that they like them more than a friend even though they know nothing good can come out of it. Only in movies will discussing your feelings ever get the desirable female. We don’t use direct game where we walk up to a girl and tell her she is beautiful. We use indirect game without compliments where she is never completely sure about our feelings for her. She is always forced to interpret our words instead of being certain that she has our affections. You are not hiding anything―you are just being mysterious. But resist the urge to try to make your actions indirect by toning down the way you get her number or ask her out or kiss her. Do not get the barista’s email address by saying you want to send her a picture when what you really want to do is have a drink with her. Ask her if she wants to have a drink with you. Do not ask a coworker (who works in a very far-away department, I hope) out to lunch under the guise of talking about work-related matters when what you really want to do is eventually sleep with her. Ask her if she wants to have lunch, with no qualifications. We do not tell her we want to bang her but we do not hide it either. Our intent is strong in our heads, vague through our words, and assertive through our actions, a balance that is mastered with experience. I’m talking to this girl in the club imagining all the ways I’m going to bang her while my hand is on top of her ass, teasing her that there’s no way it’s going to work out between us. The opposite of a compliment is an insult, something you should also avoid. If you had a linear scale with a compliment on one end being a 1 and an insult on the other end being a 10, some of the material you’ve read so far reach into the 6 range. Their purpose is to let a girl know that you are not impressed with her, even if below the surface you really are. The more you show her you’re impressed, the more likely she will perceive her value as being too high for you. Sex withholding follows as a result. While saying "You’re too old for me" may seem like an insult on the surface, it is taken as a joke when you have already established a fun and playful vibe. Context here is important: if you were talking about something boring like politics all night and then all of a sudden you tell her she’s too old for you, she will get offended. But if you were already joking around with her for a while, she’ll know that it’s just a part of your personality. Regardless, some girls will get insulted by your humor and think, "Who does this guy think he is?" While I don’t apologize to any girl who takes my humor wrong, I definitely don’t continue to push her buttons once she is already upset. To me her annoyance is either a sign of incompatibility or a bad line on my part. Did I accidentally say the wrong thing or did she get offended at a line that girls normally respond well to? I make a judgment call if this interaction can be saved or if there is another girl around that my time could be better spent with. Because trying to convince her that you were joking is a form of beta male supplication, it’s best to move on if your material is poorly received. The goal of material in the middle of our compliment-insult scale is to make her aware of her own faults instead of yours. Once the focus is taken off you, she will be much more susceptible to game. A good way to disguise a compliment is through the "I thought you were" routine. It lets the girl know you are rating and evaluating her for negative qualities, even if in reality she doesn’t have any negative qualities. Use this on the cutest girls you meet, not average looking girls with low self-esteems because they will not be able to handle it. Here’s the structure: "I thought you were a little cold and unfriendly, but now that I got a chance to talk to you, I don’t think you are like that at all." Her eyes are going to open wide and she may tell you she doesn’t believe you think she is cold. Then say, "No that’s why I said I thought you were. That was my first impression, but I don’t believe that now, which is good."