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A similar situation is buying drinks for girls on the same night you meet them. Don’t do it. First, is sends the message that the only way you can keep her attention is by purchasing something for her. It says that you are not confident of your own ability to get her interested and that you use purchases to break the ice or keep the conversation going. Second, there is a breed of girls who make it a competition to see how many free drinks they can get from strange men. When they go out they only take their ID and nothing else because there will always be a line of beta males willing to pay for their entertainment. Finally, buying drinks is too cliché. You might as well ask her how often she comes to the bar. Stay away from moves that have been done a million times before. A girl who asks you to buy her a drink is much worse than a girl who asks you to hold one. She didn’t come out to meet a guy―she came out to drink for free. These girls tend to be the biggest game players and attention whores. Reply to her question by saying, "Funny, I was about to ask you to buy a drink," "Yeah too bad I spent all my money on hookers and drugs last night, or I’d be more than happy to buy you as many drinks as you want," or, "Do I look like the kind of guy who buys random girls drinks? Come on now." I may point to a guy next to us and say, "He looks like a guy who buys girls drinks. You should go talk to him." These girls are wastes of time. There are some instances where it may feel natural to buy a drink for a girl who you have been talking to for a while. Sometimes you are having such a great time that you just want to buy a round for her and her friends. While this is a more acceptable situation to buy a drink for a girl, I still advise against it. No matter how pure your intentions, buying her things sends an early message that you are ready to give without receiving. She must do more to get something from you than just stand there and laugh at your jokes. There is a drink loophole I use to avoid buying girls drinks. If I am having a good time with a girl I buy one drink and share some with her from the same straw. I offer by saying, "I’m not trying to get too drunk tonight," to make it easier for her to accept. The message you send is that she can only share what you’re having. Every sip is earned because you can take the drink away anytime you want. Joke around with her by saying, "Hey, save some for me." If she’s feisty or a ballbuster, before you hand her the drink say, "Wait, you don’t have any germs right?" Drink sharing means you share saliva, which psychologically prepares her for a bigger fluid exchange down the road. For all other favors a girl may seek, ask yourself if she deserves it. Most of the time the answer will be no. Girls have a built-in program in their brain designed to get as much as possible from men while putting in the least amount of work. I believe they do this to tell if a guy likes them or not because they don’t trust their instincts when it comes to determining a guy’s interest. There are girls who get banged by guys but still ask friends if he "really" likes her or not. Do the least amount of favors for her as possible so she stays unsure of your interest level.

The concept of the wingman has been popularized somewhat recently. The idea is for your friend to occupy the ugly girlfriend while you talk to the girl you like. Some guys take an extra step and define a wingman as someone who helps them get laid. The problem with this second definition is if you don’t get laid, you will be tempted to blame you friend instead of figuring out what you could have done better. The purpose of your friend should not necessarily be to help you, but to not hurt you. It is much better to have a silent friend who just stands there like a cardboard cutout than to have someone who is not cool and says stupid things that disturb the flow of your game. Regardless of how good or bad of a wingman your friend is, success is determined by you alone. Any unfortunate mistake your friend makes is just another event in the fluid and unpredictable nature of pick-up. Be careful about accusing your friend of cockblocking. I find that those who are quick to make accusations of cockblocking have a scarcity frame when it comes to girls. So supposedly your friend blew your chance with this one girl you didn’t make out with and now your night is ruined because they are no more cute girls anywhere. Except in extreme circumstances, I think accusing someone of cockblocking is a cop-out for failure. The reason I don’t accuse guys of cockblocking is because I either do something about it when it happens or I admit defeat. If my drunk buddy is cockblocking me, I adjust on-the-fly by dominating the conversation and physically blocking him out. He can whine to me later on but he’s not getting in the way of what I want because he’s too lazy to approach his own girls. To crush him I will tell the girl to excuse my buddy because he’s just really drunk. So I cockblock my cockblocking friend and we’ll both get over it the next day. This is a much better way to deal with it then moping like a little bitch at the end of the night. The man with the best game gets the girl, and I see nothing wrong with competing with a friend who is not recognizing the basic rules of the game. If I approach a group then I get to pick the girl I want to go after, and if a friend bombs with a girl that starts showing me interest then she’s fair game. While it may be a good idea to give him hints about how you both can succeed better, you are not in the business of molding men. That said, it is important for you and your friends to have a way to determine who gets which girl. The easiest way is to establish a rule that whomever approaches the group gets to pick which girl he wants. This is fair because of the difficulty in approaching. If you and your friend go after the same girl, not only will neither of you will get her, but she will enjoy an incredible ego boost. Another important rule is to know when backup should arrive. I find one minute to be best, so help the guy who did the approach one minute after he makes it. When you do a group approach and your friend comes in one minute later, introduce him to everyone with, "This is my friend Stan, he’s the coolest guy I know." Then continue running game. You may want to turn an attractive lady friend into a wingman. The female wingman is supposed to let other females know that you are accepted on this Earth by at least one woman. But we use her differently than a male wingman. While your buddy is by your side to talk to the girlfriends and absorb distractions, the female wingman is there to increase your social standing. When you enter a venue, you want to talk to your lady friend long enough for other girls to see. Make the interaction ambiguous by talking close and encouraging her to touch you from time to time. Then, go approach girls on your own, who will now be much more receptive to your game. The purpose of the female wingman is just to increase the success rate of your approaches. While you can bring your lady friend along with you in the approach, I find that the girls tend to talk too much amongst themselves, severely limiting my ability to game. Don’t let a girl do the approach for you―approaching a girl you want to sleep with is your job and no one else’s.

Your lady friends help create jealousy, a powerful emotion that humans respond to more powerfully than logic. But many men continue to use logic to get women―they buy expensive clothes, pluck their eyebrows, buy a nice car, and get extra glossy business cards. They only see limited success using this strategy because they are not hitting a woman’s emotional buttons of jealousy, drama, and anger. You are much more likely to engage a woman if you make her jealous than if you impress her with a car that other men have. For example, a girl I used to date would always tell me about guys hitting on her, including where they hit on her and what they said. She would laugh off these stories but keep them open-ended. While I knew she was using a trick to make me think that she has high value, I could not help but conclude she was a desirable woman with high value. This means that even though a girl may know you are trying to get her jealous, she feels the emotion anyway. While it’s best not to cross the line and brag about girls who like you, don’t feel the need to hide it. She should know that you talk to other girls, and if she ever accuses you of being a flirt, just say you are an outgoing, friendly person.