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After you hit the thirty minute mark, take a deep breath and relax because things are going to get easier. By now the conversational balance should start to shift where she is talking a lot more, probably more than you. Your main goal starting with the approach was to hook her attention and build attraction, but now it will shift towards making her feel comfortable with you, physically and emotionally. Let her talk without interruption about personal details of her life. Once comfort is established in addition to attraction―where she both trusts and likes you―escalating to physical intimacy will be easy and predictable. If you haven’t built up attraction in the first 30 minutes, there is very little chance you ever will. If she is not engaging you or asking you questions after 30 minutes of displaying your personality and value (indirectly through conversation and routines), move on. A good way to build comfort and trust is to display interest in who she is as a person. Be a good listener and show that you are mildly impressed in her most significant accomplishments. But be careful about bunkering down and making it seem like she has your attention for as long as she wants it. Instead, give the impression that your attention can be withdrawn at any moment. A good way to do this is to break eye contact every now and then to glance very briefly at something else that caught your attention. As long as you don’t overdo it, she will feel slightly insecure about being able to keep your interest and try even harder to do so. It’s okay to move into more "boring" topics to build comfort. You want to strike a balance between remaining mysterious and making her feel like she knows you. Accomplish this by revealing information about yourself in small morsels instead of large chunks. Other than to increase comfort, another purpose of personal information sharing is to find things you two have in common. Finding a commonality is a bonus that gives you something to talk about at length, though it is not needed to get her into bed. At thirty minutes, three options open up to you: getting her number, moving her to another venue where you escalate (physically), or remaining at the current venue where you also escalate. Getting her number is the least desirable option because it ends the current interaction with zero guarantee that it will continue again. Call-back rates, even for accomplished players, are pathetically low; if barely half the girls return your call, you are doing very well. This means that more than half of your initial game work will be a complete waste once you get her number. And even if she does call you back, there are many issues that can arise to prevent a first date from happening. The phone gives power to the girl while taking away yours because she can analyze the costs and benefits of seeing you again, screen your calls, and determine when she wants to call you back, if at all. Because you want her to make an impulsive decision to have intimacy with you, always choose to escalate the encounter as far as possible on the same day you meet her. The farther you get ― without creeping her out ― the higher the chance you will see her again because she invested more time and energy into you. The man who goes out to get a phone number does not go home with more than a phone number. Since your end-goal is sex, that is what you think about while talking to a girl. You should be thinking, "What do I have to do to get her in bed tonight?" Even though the odds she will have sex with you on the same day you meet are low, and you may not always be able to make a wholly sincere effort if logistics prevent you from escalation or if she simply isn’t that type, it’s better to have it on your mind than not because you will be constantly open to the opportunity. If you only care about numbers yet she is giving you a horny vibe, you are going to miss out on sex when the opportunity presents itself. When you train your mind to go for sex, you stay more open to its occurrence. Because sex is an impulsive decision, you must strike when the iron is hot. I used to think that if a girl wanted to sleep with me, all I had to do was sit back, take my time, and wait until sex falls on my lap. But sex with girls I liked never did fall onto my lap. When I was selling my motorcycle, a young man responded to my classified ad. He came over, sized my bike up, sat on it, blipped the throttle, and thought long and hard for fifteen minutes until he told me would buy it. He said he didn’t have deposit money with him but would be back in two days with my asking price in cash. I never heard from him again. A week later, another guy came to look at the bike. He was even more enthusiastic and told me he would be back the next day to buy it. He was grinning from ear to ear about owning my bike, but I never heard from him either. How can these two make final decisions to spend thousands of dollars on something and then change their minds so easily? If these guys could reverse their positions on a $3,000 purchase, imagine how much easier it is to change your mind on something more minor, like a single instance of casual sex. After a human being carries out a decision, their brain will do everything it can to rationalize that decision. If you bought a car only months before a newer, better-looking model came out, you will rationalize how the older model is in fact better. But before you carry out a decision, your brain will inject doubt to talk you out of it. Sales pitches are designed to make you act right away because marketers know that if you think about making a purchase for too long, you will not make the purchase. The same occurs with sex, a decision that depends on a girl’s state and environment. Therefore when a girl makes the decision to have sex with you, you must quickly capitalize on her decision before any variables change; before doubt kicks in, before her friend cockblocks you, before her ex-boyfriend from the Army calls to propose marriage, before she wonders if she’s already slept with too many men for her age, and before new things in her life distract her from you. Whenever she makes the decision to have sex with you, whether it’s when she first meets you or on a later date, if you are not mentally prepared and willing to take advantage of her decision, you may let the opportunity pass forever. Knowing what I know now, I should have told my bike’s prospective buyers to get the cash immediately because someone else was on their way. You have to always be pushing to complete the transaction, because nothing is inevitable and nothing "just happens." You are the one who makes it happen. There are going to be times when it will be impossible for you to escalate even though she is interested in you. Maybe her friend is in a bad mood and has to leave immediately, or maybe you are having an off night and ran out of things to say, or maybe her group of interrupting friends makes it very difficult to do anything. If you are in danger of completely stalling or the interaction has found an abrupt end, settle for the consolation prize of her number. When you want to get her number because you’ve exhausted all other options, say "I think we should hang out" or "I think we should hang out for a drink." If she gives you an excuse about how she’s busy or doesn’t usually go out, then she is not interested. If she responds with something like "Sure," "That sounds good," "We can do that," or anything similar, she is interested in seeing you again. Then ask her if she has a cell phone. After she says yes, pull out your cell phone, hand it to her, and say, "Why don’t you put in your number." Notice how you don’t explicitly ask her for the number; it’s implied and comes naturally as a result of two people wanting to see each other again. Donot give your number without getting hers. If she asks you for your number, tell her you’ll exchange, but if she persists in getting your number without giving hers, say, "Well I’m the man so I should call first." Sometimes you will get her number because you thought she was going to leave, but then she ends up staying. In that case proceed with escalation. Don’t think, "Oh I don’t have to talk to her anymore tonight since I already got her number," because odds are that number will not result in anything. And if you are still talking to her after you got her number, you probably got it too prematurely and should have continued escalating instead. An advanced technique is to terminate the interaction without trying to get her number. When the conversation comes to a close, say, "It was nice meeting you." You are making a bet that she will be upset you didn’t ask for your number and attempt to either offer it on her own or encourage you to get it by showing blatant interest. If she does offer the number, act reluctant, aloof, and slow, making her wonder if you really are interested in her. Number reluctance only works if you have spent a good amount of time with her (at least thirty minutes) and you are confident her interest is strong. If I'm at a coffee shop and only talked to a girl for five minutes, it’s almost a certainty that she will not offer her number without prompting. Less than half an hour is not enough time for a guy such as myself to display the glory that is my humor, personality, and intelligence. The point of this technique is to make her invest more energy into the interaction because the more she puts in, the less likely she will flake on you afterwards. The key is to pull back just enough to encourage her, but not so much that she gets insecure and does nothing. Use this technique after you have a few dozen numbers of experience, when your skill at judging interest levels becomes accurate. If you try this technique and she doesn’t take the bait, and starts to turn away, stop her and get her number like you normally would.