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Another way to feel out the kiss is through the cheek kiss move. It’s an optional move I do if I want instant feedback on how I’m doing. To perform this move, first wait for a natural break in the interaction where she goes to the bathroom or to the bar for a drink. Then turn your head sideways, point to your cheek, and say, "Kiss on cheek!" If she asks why or says no, that means you have to keep working on her. Her refusal may be a cause for concern because, after all, it is only a cheek kiss. If she gives you a simple cheek kiss, take that as a neutral sign that means you’re on track. If she makes out with your cheek, then she is ready to make out with you. Keep the move going by asking her to give a kiss on your other cheek. Then say, "Alright I guess I gotta give you one now." Give slow kisses to both sides of her face and then make eye contact while you are still close. If she doesn’t pull back, you can go for the kiss right there. There are many ways to kiss a girl, and as long as you don’t ask for permission, tell her you want to kiss her, or make sudden movements, it’s hard to go wrong. There are a couple kissing technique tips you want to keep in mind. First, you get better at kissing by copying good kissers. Kiss alot of girls, note what they did that felt good, and copy it to try on the next girl. Chances are if it turned you on, it will turn someone else on too. Because girls are generally much better kissers than guys, it’s better to learn from them than from a guy. Second, ramp up contact gradually. When you first start kissing a girl, don’t immediately give massive amounts of tongue. As time goes on, slowly introduce more and more tongue and then some biting and then whatever other move you want to try. Third, keep your hands moving. Kissing is a great distraction to let your hands do some exploration. Let them slowly roam her body to amplify the experience. Cup one hand on her face like you see in the movies. Run your hand over her hair and hold the back of her head as you lead the kiss. If you are sitting down, start thinking about introducing your hand to her upper thigh, rubbing it slowly. This is an important move for later. If you are reasonably certain she is not going to kiss you on the same night (she keeps moving away when you get close), think about ending the interaction with a number before it gets stale. There is little benefit in continuing indefinitely without the possibility of physical escalation because more things can go wrong than right.

A venue change occurs when you move with her to another location. The advantage of moving is that it deepens your connection; now you two are together and technically on a date. But logistics can make this move hard to pull off. If she is with friends, it will be hard to get them all on board for the move because they’ll each have their own agenda. And if it’s late and you are already at the peak venue having a fun time, the likelihood of moving to another bar or club approaches zero. Venue changes are easier to pull when you are at places that serve as a night’s warm-up spot. If you are at a small dive bar and tell the girl about this really awesome club across the street, there is a good chance that she will come. This fact produces a possible strategy: start the night at a small place hoping to venue change girls into your main venue nearby. The likelihood of a one night stand goes up dramatically if you can squeeze in a venue change or two because they distort time and makes her feel like she has known you longer than she actually has. It’s a strategy we will use with dating. There are two main ways to execute the venue change. The first is selling the venue. Tell her that you and your buddy are planning to go somewhere else, and without trying to be too convincing, imply that it’s a good place you think will be better than the current venue. Example: "My friend and I are thinking of going to this bar a couple blocks away. We had a lot fun there last time so I think it’s going to be good tonight. Their music is pretty good." Keep it simple without sounding like an advertisement. If she wants to go but her friends don’t, she’s not going anywhere. It’s not a big deal and you can continue the conversation since saying "thinking of going" doesn’t nail you down to immediately leaving. Still, it’s a good idea to attempt the venue change only if there is a high chance of you leaving soon, because staying the rest of the night may send the signal that you are altering your plans because of her. The last thing you want to do is follow her around in the hopes of gaining her favor. She needs to follow your lead instead. If she doesn’t go along with the venue change and you are leaving, get the number. The second venue change technique is selling the possibility of good times. You usually use this at the end of the night when the bars or clubs are closing and you want to go for the one night stand. You let your girl know that even though the place is closing, you still want to continue the night somewhere else. You are going to put on the appearance that you are still full of energy and don’t want to go to bed yet. Start with your girl by saying, "Are you still trying to hang out? I mean, are you going home to sleep now or are you trying to keep the night going? I think I can use at least another drink." If you are with a friend, you can add how this night is important since you two haven’t hung out in a while or since you are celebrating something like a job promotion. Make it sound like this night is more special than normal. If you have recently traveled somewhere exotic, add, "When I was in Rome, the party didn’t get started until this time. It’s strange that here it’s the time when things end." Avoid the temptation to venue change into a place that sells food. Eating tends to dull the alcohol buzz and it makes girls tired, especially late-night food (pizza, gyros, burgers). That delicious grease acts like a tranquilizer. What you want to do is steer the party to her house. Set up a smokescreen by asking a lot of questions that give the appearance you are reluctant to go to her place. Ask her what type of music and alcohol she has and if her place is nice. Say you are a little hungry and ask her what type of food she has. Make it seem like her answers are barely acceptable to your discriminating tastes. Example: "That’s all you got? Hmm I guess that’s okay." It’s like she wants you to come but you are not sure if her place is good enough.

Now here is where it gets tricky: without asking if you can come over, assume that she said yes and start to work on the transportation logistics. Ask her how she got here and then plan aloud about ways everyone is getting back to her place. Say something like, "Actually my car is a block away―I can drive," or, "The subway stop is this way right? How many blocks away is it?" or, "Okay I can flag down a taxi. Let me see if I have some cash." At this point she may have a mini-conference with her friend, if she is still with one, to decide on the issue. Continue to stay relaxed about it and not seem like you are in a hurry―you are all just friends going to hang out at someone’s place, like it’s the most natural thing in the world. Friends don’t have to convince friends to hang out. If she doesn’t want you to come over, she will give you an excuse that lets you know her answer is a no, like her house is dirty or she has houseguests. She will never give an explicit yes―you must assume it unless she makes it clear otherwise. If you are trying to get her to your place instead, use the strategy where you say you have something in your house that makes continuing the fun possible. Then add a restriction that makes it seem like you are reluctant to have her over so it doesn’t seem like sex is inevitable. Say, "How about you come over for a little bit, we listen some good music, and have a drink. Nothing too late though cause I have to get up early." Tell her you will get her home after about an hour. But of course you go for it all once you get her in your bedroom. It took me some time to get comfortable with venue changing to her place or mine. I used to think not enough trust was established and there was no way she’ll let a strange guy she just met a couple hours ago take her somewhere alone, that I probably was going to murder or rape her. But this isn’t the case―if the girl thinks you are a murderer or rapist she won’t spend time talking to you. When a girl declines a venue change, it’s either because of logistics or because she doesn’t want to appear as a slut. The girls who do get turned off by your one night stand attempt are the ones who would take a long time to get into bed anyway. The attempt screens out those girls who aren’t serious about sex. Plus, having a sexual intent by using physical touching and the desire to isolate makes it clear that friendship is not in the cards. She will just walk away from you before settling into a friendship, which you are not interested in. Going for sex early is win-win: if she submits to your moves then you get laid, and if not then you can move onto the next girl without wasting valuable time. Let’s assume that you didn’t get the venue change and got the number instead. You give her a hug and maybe a kiss goodbye. Then you go home and think about her before you go to bed (because she’s hot), imagining how great it would be if you get with her. You even imagine notching up your belt since she showed so much interest in you with that "Don’t forget to call me" goodbye. It’s like your entire life can change from just meeting this one girl and getting her number. Then you call her, leave a message, and never hear from her again. Ah yes, welcome to middle game, the most frustrating part of game where sure things turn out to be nothings. If you were able to venue change into her place the same night, then advance to Boardwalk because late game awaits you.