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Even the way you get her phone number can reveal a lot about your game. For example, when I first started the game and would get a phone number, I’d go into panic mode when a pen could not be found (I didn’t always take a cell phone out), and frantically ask strangers around me for one. By doing this I showed that I valued her much higher than myself, that her number is such a big deal that I’m prepared to act like a hyper puppy dog trying to get it. It should have been the other way around where she has to panic trying to find a pen. Understand: if a guy she valued came through the door and all that stood between her seeing him again was a writing instrument, she would jump through hoops to find one. The more that you act like you have high value, by being reluctant to get the number or the pen, the more a girl will believe you have high value and jump through hoops for you. Later she will put in more effort and flake less. You are simply behaving in a way that people with high value behave, where your own value and worth can be as high as you want them to be. Avoid getting email addresses instead of phone numbers. They are a waste of time that reduce the likelihood you will see her again. The reason I used to get emails was because my phone game was terrible, but I ended up having to get on the phone anyway due to the very low conversation rate of emails. If a girl tells you that she can give you her email instead of a number, say, "Well that’s okay then because I don’t do email." She is not serious about seeing you again. Sometimes when a girl gives you a number, she adds additional information which is aimed to lower your expectations. A common thing you will hear is, "But I have a boyfriend so we can only be friends." You need to let her know that her attempt to steer the interaction is not going to fly with you. Say, "Well, how about you do what you want to do and I’ll do what I want to do. Hopefully it’s the same thing, but if not, then not. It’s not a big deal." Let her respond then add, "You can classify things if it makes you feel better, but I like to take thing only one step at a time, whether it is friendship or dating or anything else." This sends the message that you are going to do what you want to do, regardless of what she says. When a girl drops the "I have a boyfriend" line on you, fire off a cocky response that lets her know you don’t care. Say, "Good, he’ll give you something to do when I’m not around," or, "God I just met you and you are already telling me about your problems." Then continue the conversation like you didn’t even hear it. Never ask a girl whether she is single or not. If her status is important then she will let you know on her own.

One of the greatest fears men have is being "friended" by a girl he likes. This happens for three reasons. First, he is too nice to her. He treats her better than his guy friends without expecting anything in return. He gives her rides, helps her with her problems, and tolerates her flakey behavior. Second, he portrays a picture of himself that is not attractive. He talks about his past failures and problems with women. He shares thought and ideas on men, women, and relationships that reflect an insecure, needy reality. You should not break down or discuss your dating or relationship problems with a girl you want to bang. Also do not act like her buddy by giving advice, even if the solutions to her problems are obvious to you. When a girl asks you questions like, "How long was your longest relationship?" give short, vague answers. Do not let her piece together your dating or relationship history. Lastly, he gets friended because his intent is weak. You will not make out with a girl through sheer will and hope. From the moment you meet her, if you don’t possess the intent to sleep with her and perform the steps needed to accomplish that goal, you will get nothing. You start with The Vibe and alpha male attitude, then touching, then kissing, and so on. You do not simply spend time with her and talk to her for hours and hope that something will just happen. While something may eventually happen with this passive approach, there is also a chance that a comet will come crashing through the sky and land on your head this very second. You wouldn’t bet on that comet, so don’t bet on the do-nothing approach.

A very efficient way to ramp up touching is through dancing. Not only is dancing a good way to combat loud noise, but it’s also excellent at getting your hands all over her body and priming her for the kiss. If you can’t dance or don’t have natural rhythm then you should start learning by copying good dancers and practicing. When you are observing a dance floor, you will be able to tell who is good at dancing and who is not. Simply duplicate the moves of those who are good. Practice at home and within a couple months you will get to a skill level where dancing is able to facilitate your pick-ups. The point is not to be a great dancer, but to be good enough to use the touching benefits that dancing offers (dancing will get you to the kiss faster than other means). Because of this reason it is worth your time to learn it, especially since it’s a skill that will always be useful to you. Once you get her to the dance floor with "Let’s go dance," start it off slow. When you look around on the dance floor, you will see that every guy loves to jam his crotch on a girl’s ass, especially when hip hop is playing, and while you will be doing that too, hold off on it for a little bit. Dance in your own space in front of her and continue on and off with the hip touches. After a minute or two, move a little closer and put both of your hands on her hip, letting her gyrate very close to your crotch as you face her. Then step back and take your hands off hands off her. Treat dancing like a dance of its own, where you go back and forth to build a climax. Make her wonder why you aren’t constantly on her. After a minute dancing a couple feet away from her, gradually come back and bring her hips just a little closer than before. Then step back again. Just like with verbal conversation, it will be you who paces the interaction on the dance floor; she will not be stepping back from you because you will be doing it to her first. Keep repeating this cycle until both of you are very close and your hands have explored her hips, sides, lower back, and the top of her ass. The final non-kissing move you want to do on the dance floor is to get your head very close to hers, where your cheeks are barely touching, you can feel her heat, and she’s not pulling back. It is not surprising that dancing very commonly results in a kiss within a short amount of time. With dancing skills you can completely skip verbal openers and approach right on the dance floor. The first thing you need to do is to get comfortable dancing alone in a visible spot. You are just feeling the music and having a good time by yourself, showing others that you are fun guy who prefers not to hold up the wall. When you see a girl you like, decide if you want to approach from the front or from the back. If you approach from the front, position yourself in front of her, make eye contact with a slight smile, grab her hand, and then continue dancing. For instance, if you are right-handed, you will reach out your right hand to grab her left hand. Don’t grab it so meekly that gravity loosens the grip but also don’t give her a death squeeze. It should be like you are giving a handshake to a 10-year-old. You want to come across as assertive but warm. The moment of judgment comes when you grab her hand and she uses the next half-second to evaluate whether she wants to dance with you or not. Because the only component of your personality you can display in a dance approach is confidence, she is mostly going by your looks and appearance. Therefore dance approaches will serve you better if you are good-looking. Average guys will find better use of their approach time with verbal openers that use their personalities instead. A girl does not have to make a split-second decision on whether to accept your company or not if you make a standard talking approach. Since you are being indirect and conversational, she will give you a chance even if the instant interest is not there. It’s this chance that gives us time to plant our personality seed to translate lukewarm interest into major interest. Because dance approaches do not give you this chance, you are playing more of a numbers game than tight game skill, but it’s still a tool worth experimenting with. When approaching her from the back, an approach popular at hip hop clubs, you simply rub your crotch on her ass while still dancing. She looks back to see if you are good looking enough, or she has her friend look, and then either moves away or continues dancing. As you can guess, the front dance approach has a higher chance of success because it’s less slimy. Dance approaches flip the standard approach. Since you start with the physical and then move into conversation, you actually end up using your opener well after you’ve already explored her body with your hands. While you are dancing, if she asks you any question at all, take that as a green light that she is very interested. (The first thing she will ask you is probably your name.) After a few songs, suggest she comes with you to get a glass of water at the bar, where you can start conversation like you would if you just walked up to her.