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This early-stage conversation may seem random to an eavesdropping spectator, but it is actually structured and highly organized because you have a goal and an accompanying strategy in the form of The Vibe, tested material, and soon, specific moves that escalate the encounter. The tested material will be in the form of routines that are very effective at building attraction. No matter how smart or interesting of a guy you are, it is impossible to speak for those first thirty minutes without messing up, saying something stupid, or going into a completely lame topic. Luckily, girls will give you a pass on many of the foolish things you will say. They understand that not every sentence that comes out of your mouth has to be a blockbuster, but if you continue to bomb you will be booed off the stage.

When you first start talking to a new girl, you may be so pumped that you talk fast, interrupt her, and disregard things she has said because you had another line or statement in queue. You’ll have the urge to say things already marinated in your head even though the conversation is going somewhere else. Resist that temptation because it leads to choppy, disconnected conversation. Realize that the more she talks, the better, because she will give you ideas and material to continue even further. Talk at a normal, relaxed pace, like you would to a close buddy.

An entire conversation will have many threads within it―topics that often lead to other topics. Threads promote natural conversation because you can easily hop around without getting stuck on a path that leads to a dead-end. The conversation you have from using them are created on-the-fly based on the direction and energy of the interaction. Even though you will use the same thread repeatedly on different girls, there is no need to memorize their delivery word-for-word. Conversation threads can be categorized into themes. The first theme is people, which includes conversation about you, her, others, or groups. It concerns appearances, trends, rumors, gossip, and observations (people watching). For instance you can gently tease her, without making fun of her, about something she is wearing or something that is unique to her look. Example: "I noticed your shoes match your shirt. I think you did that on purpose." She will say she did. Your response, "I understand because it took me forever to match my outfit." Go on to give your thoughts about how people look in the environment you are both in and the patterns you’ve noticed. If she’s wearing a large, unique necklace, say, "Have you noticed that the things people are wearing on their necks are getting larger and larger?" Throw in a Flavor Flav reference and how he pioneered large neck jewelry. It’s okay to talk about clothing as long as you show basic fashion knowledge (if you start dropping words like "couture," the girl may think you are a homosexual.) I like going into a spiel about my four-year-old jeans and how the holes are "natural" and "cannot be duplicated."

Rumors and gossip are related threads that fall within the people theme. Take advantage of a girl’s addiction to both by using them in conversation. Example: "There is a rumor going around that you don’t like my shirt. Is that true? My mom helped me pick it out." Or point to the poorest looking guy in the place and say, "You see that guy over there. He’s the owner. He doesn’t look like it, does he?" Your friends are a great source to fabricate fun tales. My favorite: "My friend right here used to be a club dancer. He used to dance in those cages suspended from the ceiling. Not many people know this but he regularly wore costumes with feathers."

People watching is another thread you can use. Simply point out a couple and say, "What do you think about these two. Do you think they are friends, or more?" After she gives you her opinion, give yours with interesting analysis. Example: "They are definitely friends because their faces are more than sixteen inches apart, which according to psychologists is the intimacy threshold." Or say, "They are definitely going out because he appears to actually be listening to her."

The next theme is current state. You make fun observations or pose interesting questions about the current environment you both are currently sharing. If you are at a bar, say, "I really like how this loud bar makes it so easy for us to connect. Through the smoke, distractions, and loud music, our bond can’t be broken." Add, "It’s ironic that the place most people meet others in is a place where it is the hardest to do so." Maybe throw in your idea for the ideal way to meet someone that involves little pieces of paper that asks "Do you like me?" with answers, "Yes," "No," and "Maybe." If a girl looks a little bored, say, "If you’re not having a good time then I recommend you get on the bar and dance. Any time I see a girl dancing on the bar, she looks pretty happy. But it doesn’t work for me." If you are in a snobby environment say, "God this bar scene is so fake. Everyone is just about appearances and possessions. So what kind of car do you drive?" Another: "I’d dance but I don’t want to make everyone jealous of my skills. I’m not trying to brag or anything but I’m pretty good." Another: "I thought I’d get a private table with bottles of Grey Goose, but I think I’m going to keep it low-key tonight and mingle with the commoners." Another: "I hope this is a good place where I can find an older woman to wine and dine me and take me on vacation." Another:

"Hmmm the music here is kind of lame. I hope they put on some Madonna soon." Additional current state themes include talking about how the location reminds you of something else. If you are at a coffee shop say, "I only come here because people watching motivates me to work. At home I can’t get anything done." If you are on public transportation, say, "Doesn’t it look like everyone here is really sad? It’s like people make the effort to look mean or upset so no one talks to them." Do not ask a girl if she comes to a certain place often because it’s too cliché. If you are really curious, say, "I don’t think I’ve seen you here before." These types of statements have the potential to create interesting conversation, as long as both of you have opinions relating to that statement. They make it easy for her to talk. Things you observe about life and specific environments usually make for great threads. Threads about travel are highly recommended because they allow you to go into stories that reveal amazing things you’ve experienced. And it doesn’t have to be international travel―you can have just visited one city over and tell her something interesting you’ve observed. The basic formula for beginning travel threads is, "I was recently at _______," followed by a short anecdote. For example, "I was recently at this bar in Barcelona, and there was a main floor where everyone danced, and then a small room upstairs that only had men. It was so small that they were touching and grinding on each other. It was interesting." Or, "I was recently at this bar in York, Pennsylvania, where I learned to really appreciate the scene we have here." Then I went into the scene differences. You can also go into travel experiences with, "That/this reminds me of the time I was in _______." Another travel thread: "I read that over 98% of Americans don’t have a passport. I was pretty surprised because as the richest country in the world, you’d think that most people here would be interested in learning about other cultures." What’s great about a line like this is that it qualifies her―if she hasn’t traveled recently then her value decreases compared to yours. Travel threads work very well on girls who are adventurous and travel themselves.

The future theme is my personal favorite. Here you can be creative and really get her imagination going. Plus it’s more exciting than talking about the present, which is probably both of you wage-slaving away in some cubicle. I have an anti-corporation routine I use often: