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Two possible venues are bookstores and coffee shops. Every time I go into one there are maybe one or two girls whom I consider attractive. If she isn’t surrounded by her friends or a study group, she is probably wearing headphones, immersed in her studies, or far away from my table. While I wouldn’t recommend you take time out of your day to hit a bookstore to meet women, there is value if you already frequent these places. The key to these venues is proper positioning: if you are one table over to the girl you want to talk to, or better yet if you are sharing her table, there is a significant chance of something happening if you open. Openers, an initial line you use to start a conversation, will come naturally here because she is probably reading a book or working on something that you can comment on. There’s the Internet, which I don’t recommend, even for practice. It is very rare that trolling on dating or social networking sites will lead to anything besides wasted time. Internet pick-up turns you into a copy-and-paste monkey, where your skill lies in knowing how to blast dozens of messages in the hope of a single response. While men do get laid from the Internet, it is often from low quality women. If you were a desirable girl with value that many men wanted, why would you put up an Internet profile? The kind of woman who hangs around dating sites are ones who have trouble cracking it in a real social scene and would rather sit on some comfortable chair and click through hundreds of emails from horny men. The Internet gives them attention and validation without having to leave the house or take any risk. And with the disproportional amount of guys on these dating web sites, your message and picture will be lost in a sea of desperate men. There’s house parties. Parties will serve you best because a girl’s guard will be low as she is in the company of people she knows and trusts. When you approach here, girls will go out of their way to be nice even if they are not interested at first. Keeping conversation going is often easier too because your background or friends will be similar.

Always pick a house party over a bar, even if it’s a small one, because your odds will be more favorable. There’s organized settings. Things like wine festivals, music concerts, sporting contests, art festivals, dance classes, and fitness classes will all have women. These venues work similar to bookstores and coffee shops where good positioning is important. If you are in a speed-bike class, being on the bike next to the girl you like is better than being several over. While luck plays a part in positioning, it’s still up to you to open her. If you’re at a venue that is an extension of your hobby, chances are conversations will be easier since you already have something in common you can talk about at length. There’s the classroom. I wish I was in college again with what I know now. I would sit next to the hottest girl and start a casual conversation related to the class. Not only do you have something in common but you have a great excuse to take it outside of the classroom―"to study," where you can really game her. There’s the gym. The gym, while usually a sausage fest, could be a great place to meet fit girls. If you like to take it easy in the gym while talking to your friends, approaching may be a natural extension of what you normally do. But if you work out hard and regularly drown in a sea of your own disgusting sweat, changing gears to focus on approaching may be difficult. There’s the mall. While this is the last place I would go to meet women, you may live in a place where the mall is your only option. Under the guise of shopping for a female relative, you prowl stores asking female salespeople and girl shoppers for their opinion on various products Then there’s everything else: airplanes and airports, buses, subways, outdoor park, restaurants, and even the street. Wherever women are, it is possible to approach them. The only limits to where you meet women exist in your head. I remember one time I got the number of a 17-year-old girl walking with a pizza while I sat in the passenger side of my friends car. When it comes to finding girls, being creative is important because every man lives in a different environment. You may not live in a big city with a couple hundred bars, but you do have that old town center where there are crowded weekend concerts. The main idea is to go where the women are and figure out the best way to approach them through experimentation. To get you started, I’m going to share with you the best ways to approach for the most common venues.

It would make sense if I said that you should take baby-steps before you start approaching. First you should learn how to make eye contact with women. Then you should add a smile. Then you should practice saying "Hi." And while you’re at it, you should train yourself to be an outgoing people-person by chatting up random strangers in line with you at the convenience store. But I think all of that is a waste of time. You’ve probably been living in a nice social comfort zone for your entire life―there is little point to continue that by taking it safe and easy. You must dive right in and shock your system today. The next woman you talk to is one you want to have sex with, not one you want to simply practice conversation on. This strategy ensures that there will be no unnecessary lag until your first success, where you waste time on side missions that give you little preparation for the real thing. It starts now.

When you are first starting out, it is best to approach women who are not already connected to your life, so girls from work or in your social circle should be avoided for now. Fail with them and gossip ensures that everyone you know finds out about your attempt, something that may be traumatizing for a new student of the game. When I made my first few approaches, I had little idea and no practice on how to interact with a new girl, build attraction, or close, but I ended up talking to girls for an extended period of time and getting numbers based on what I already knew as a man. When you want to get into a girls pants and your intent is strong, you come up with ways in real time to keep the interaction going even though later on you may laugh at your attempt. You don’t need to be a game expert to get laid. You don’t need to master everything in this book to start approaching girls. All you need is a little bit of knowledge and the strong desire to succeed.

Realize that there will never be a perfect moment to approach. The idea of a "perfect moment" is a belief held by guys who never approach. If you sit there and wait until the moment is right, you only end up psyching yourself out while her group gets larger, the situation gets more complicated, or she ends up leaving. There is zero benefit to waiting more than five seconds when you spot a girl, unless she is running to the bathroom with her hands over her mouth. As Teddy Roosevelt said, "Do what you can, with what you have, where you are." I approach girls who just walk into bars, are on their way to the bathroom, or are fighting through a crowd to get a drink. When you see a girl you like, pick the opener you want to use, go up to her, and deliver it. Even if your mind is completely blank, just say "Hey" because there is a chance she will help you out with conversation. Some guys have the belief that girls don’t want to be approached, but it shouldn’t be up to her what you decide to do. If you like her, you go up to her and put in an attempt. What she thinks really doesn’t matter. An actual approach takes only a few seconds. You see a girl you like, maneuver close to her, and then deliver your opening line. When it comes to learning how to approach, success is not measured by whether you are able to get a conversation going, but whether you approach or not. It’s the attempt that is much more important than the result. Just say the words. In the grand scheme of things, no one approach is going to break you. Each one is just a drop in the bucket, so don’t let a tough rejection get you down or detour you from your final goal.