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The kind of guy who is willing to go after a friend’s ex-girl is one that needs to get there and work on his game the most. You want to build your game up to the point where you wouldn’t even consider sloppy seconds because you have other options on the table. The exception is if she is a doorknob and everyone is getting a turn for fun.

You may approach a random girl who takes an immediate dislike to your game. In most situations you can just walk away, but once in a while you will get a girl whose sole reason for existing is to make men feel small. She will make snide remarks, stalk you, get in your face, wave her hands in the air, or cock her head back and forth like a pigeon. It's important in these cases to always assert your dominance. You cannot let her think you will stand down even if you have no intention of fighting. You must go "over the top" and come back at her even harder then she came at you. This means you need to scare her into thinking you will level her. Say, "Get out of my face or I'm gonna knock you out." She will back down because there is no woman out there who wants to receive a punch from a man. Chances are this will never happen to you, but it is best to keep a plan of action in the back of your mind just in case.

This is not a big deal unless you also live with your parents and can’t bring a girl back to your place. If that’s the case then you are cockblocked until you can think of a creative solution. If the first time you sleep with a girl is in a car, public park, or some cheap motel, then so be it.

There is only one thing you need to know about a school girl: their behavior is driven more by her friends’ opinions then her own. She’s not doing what she wants to do, she is doing what she thinks her friends want her to do. If her friends don’t like you, then you are not having sex with her. Make a good impression on her friends by being the fun guy with a sense of humor who is cool to be around. If her friends see you as a cool guy then the girl will see you as a cool guy.

An au pair is a foreign girl that is in the U.S. for a limited amount of time, usually one year. She is hosted by an American couple who pays her to take care of their children. Often times she will go to school, but she is not allowed to perform any other type of work. These girls hang out with other au pairs and enjoy their American experience at mainstream clubs. I like au pairs because they are the closest you can get to a foreign girl without going to a foreign land. But they do make logistics difficult: they don’t have their own place, they have curfews that limit the times you can take them out at night, they don’t have a reliable means of transportation, and their money situation is so tight that you will always be paying.

You will be tempted to highlight your American qualities to make yourself appear exotic, but resist this urge and rely on your typical game; it’s almost a guarantee that she has already met a lot of American men by the time she has met you. If there is a language barrier then try some loud venues. Show an interest in her culture, let her teach you a couple curse words in her language, and treat her like you would any other girl.

Get it out of your mind that you are either too young or too old for any girl. Most girls have an age range in their head but it can always be broken. The only time you will really get complaints is from older women who say that you are too young. I don’t recall an instance where a younger girl said I’m too old and I’ve had experiences with girls nine years younger than me. Raise the objection before she does, like it’s a problem for you. If she is more than two years older than you, run the break-up routine with a reason that she is too old for you. Or out of the blue you can say, "I think you are too old for me." She will get defensive and say you are too young for her but it’s too late because you brought it up first and she looks like she’s playing catch-up. Now that you qualified her, she will say something like, "Age is only a number." You can also joke, "I don’t know if an older woman such as yourself can satisfy a young man’s needs." Switch it up if a girl is young by saying, "I don’t know if a young girl such as yourself can satisfy the needs of an older, mature man." Qualify the young girl by making it seem like you are unsure of her life experience. I used to have a hard time telling a girl she is too old for me. I used to think it was a mean thing to say and the older woman would get mad at throw her drink on me, but if you say it with confidence and a smirk on your face, she will respond playfully. Do it before she does!

These girls are bad news. They are the ones who go out at least three times a week and each time they do is such a big deal because her friends are celebrating something like a birthday or three month boyfriend anniversary. She will turn down your first date suggestion and instead ask if you want to come and meet her out with her friends. Say no. You will accomplish very little if her friends are watching. After you make two attempts to get her out alone, tell her, "I don’t think I can compete with your busy social calendar. How about you give me a call when you get some free time and you want to get a drink." You can usually find out about these girls early because she’ll give you her number but mention how busy she is. In that case, don’t get that number because she is basically saying she’ll never make herself available for you. Find girls who have less than three dozen active friends and are able to find a balance between friends and lovers.

One good thing about mothers is that you know they like sex. Even though she is easy, she will make it seem like she is looking for something serious and that she is tired of "boys" who play "games." What she is really saying is she wants another man to take care of a child that is not his. Give her the peace of mind that you are open to building something with someone you have a connection with, and then get her in bed like you would any other girl. I recommend you drop her immediately after sex. You really don’t need the drama or baggage that comes from single mothers who get knocked up by men who don’t care for them. And the fact that she has a child means she is more fertile than the Nile River.

Decide right now how far you are willing to drive or commute to a girl’s house. For me it is 45 minutes of driving. If she tells me where she lives and it’s farther than 45 minutes, I tell her that’s out of my range and I’m not good at long distance relationships. If she hangs around you then tell her she has to drive to your neighborhood for the first couple dates because you have to tendency to fall asleep on long drives at night and don’t want to die. Stick with the time you decide. There is going to be a case where you meet an especially hot girl who lives just outside your range. You will want to make an exception for her but doing so will cause you to unconsciously put her on a pedestal. Bad game will leak out as a result. If you do end up dating a girl who lives far but not outside your range, drive to her area half the time and make her drive to yours half the time. Driving is effort too.

A girl leaving town is always death, especially if you haven’t had sex with her yet. The best reason I can come up with to explain this is that it inserts an unnatural pause during the critical early stage of a relationship. Your best defense is to go on a date with her right before she leaves. It doesn’t have to be a long date. If you are already having sex with her, do the same thing but be sure to bang the hell out of her. Really let her have it. You want to be fresh in her mind while she is exploring this new world where exciting things "just happen."