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You can mold your girl into your ideal by criticizing her negative behaviors. If you criticize her on something too early, she may write you off as bossy and demanding, but after sex she can’t be quick to do that because, after all, she did have sex with you. It is after sex where she is much more likely to take your criticisms to heart. This often results in your first real argument, something that actually helps because it engages her emotions. Your enemy is boredom, not conflict. I have a problem with girls not putting in enough effort, so that is what I criticize them for. I tell a girl, calmly, that I think I’m putting in more effort than her, and that I can’t make this work entirely on my own. She will then flip it back to me and tell me instances where I’m not putting in effort, and we end up having a back-and-forth where there is much disagreement. But now she understands that I expect to be treated in a certain way. She knows that I will not accept mistreatment. You can also criticize girls for not being adventurous enough in bed or being too flakey. Bring these up in a casual way but stay firm and let her know your concerns. Instead of giving her ultimatums, let her know what’s on your mind. If she doesn’t change her ways, don’t be afraid to hint that friendship may be best instead. There are some general guidelines you want to follow for date four and beyond. The most important is to be unpredictable. Always keep her guessing by randomizing behaviors such as when you call and when and where you take her out. Don’t have a standing date where she knows every Saturday you will take her to the club. Don’t see her more than twice a week. Don’t talk on the phone every day. Prevent conversation from degrading into a pattern where you talk like old school chums instead of lovers. Choose silence instead of banal conversation. Don’t fall into a boring "So what did you do today?" pattern. Surprise her sometimes with a call where you ask, "What are you doing right now?" Take creative risks and research interesting date ideas. The reason slot machines are so addicting is because the payouts are unpredictable. Be the slot machine. If at any time she pulls back from you, pull back from her even more. This is true regardless of how long you have been dating. If she’s giving you a hard time, give her a harder time. If she’s acting cold in the bedroom, act even colder. If she’s giving the silent treatment, give her a more silent treatment! Human instinct is to neutralize tension by apologizing or making nice, but you will do the opposite. You will fill the situation with even more tension to show that you are immune to her high school psychology games. She will feel a strong urge to make nice.

Delay commitment as long as possible, because it only makes it more difficult to bang other girls. I wouldn’t be concerned about your girl sleeping with other men because girls naturally move towards monogamy and will not be interested in other partners if she has real interest in you. But of course she will insinuate that other men are interested in her so you do commit. If you’ve been dating the same girl for several months and she’s about to leave you if you don’t commit, you have to decide if she’s worth it or not. If she’s pleasant to be around and easy on the eyes, I would maybe give her the commitment but be open-minded about other girls if you are not trying to get married soon. Cheat if you want, but odds are you will eventually get caught. Remember: a woman exists to find a man and make him commit to her. Commitment is for her benefit, not yours. Think long and hard before you sign away your freedom for only one girl. And when it comes to marriage, unless you want to have a child within the next year or two, don’t do it. Almost any positive thing you can get from a woman, whether it be physical or emotional, can be had without getting married to them. The great thing about being a man is that we are relationship worthy at any age. In fact, you will be valued more by women at an age that is well past the physical peak of your early twenties. While many commentators say it’s because of our increasing wage-earning potential, I think it’s mostly because of our experience. With time, study, and constant practice, we get very good with meeting, attracting, arousing, and handling women. Long-term relationships are dangerous when you are developing your game because you miss out on that important practice. While you should definitely grab onto a girl who is quality, I think it’s best to stay clear of relationships until you play and learn enough to know what quality is. The girls I had crushes on back when I was younger are girls I wouldn’t even give a second look to today. By not meeting a large number of girls, you sell yourself short in discovering the type of woman that will bring you the most happiness.

Once you get into a relationship, chances are you’ll eventually want to get out of it. If you think a relationship is stalling out, it is better that you dump the girl before she dumps you because it gives you the upper-hand to return for casual sex. Never let a girl dump you. Girls are very predictable so you should know well in advance if she is preparing to do it.

The first method of breaking up is the cold cut-off, where you simply never contact her again and don’t pick up the phone when she calls. I usually go for this method if we don’t make it past the second or third date, since it’s so early that she probably doesn’t expect me to call her back anyway. I know guys who do this on girlfriends they’ve gone out with for months, so it’s more of a personal choice and what you feel comfortable with. The second method is the fake fight. This is where you get overly sensitive about something she did and show extreme displeasure. For example, if she criticizes you about anything, use that to tell her that you don’t know if you can handle someone who is constant complainer. If she takes an extra day to call back then tell her you want someone who is willing to put in more work than she does. Once you end the awkward conversation where you had the fake fight, simply never call her again. She will attribute your not calling to the phone argument, even though it wasn’t the real reason you broke up. I’m a fan of this technique if we haven’t passed date three because it’s easy to do and takes very little time to execute. The third method is the return of the ex-girlfriend. This one takes a bit of planning and time to execute but it does a good job leaving the door open to have sex with the girl again. One day casually mention that your ex-girlfriend is back in town and you are conflicted because she wants to see you. Keep it vague and tell the girl that you are over your ex and don’t plan on seeing her. Then let one week pass and have another conversation where you tell her that you did indeed see her and you "don’t know" what’s going on but you feel "weird." This is the seed that sets up week number three, where you tell her that you and the ex-girlfriend want to give it another chance. Tell her that you really like her, but the history with your imaginary ex is too strong to let go. This is a very painless breakup because she will understand your predicament.

The final method is an elaborate form of "it’s not you, it’s me." You can knock this one out on the phone in under thirty minutes. This method is the closest you can get to honesty without hurting the girl’s feelings. It is often the real reason I break up with girls. Start off by telling her that it felt "weird" the last time you hung out, and that the last encounter was mostly physical for you. Tell her the problem is not about her because it’s always physical for you, and you have trouble connecting to girls on an emotional level. You can bring up some relevant story from your childhood and how you think that made it hard for you to connect to girls like other guys. Tell her that you want to take a step back and be friends. Add: "I don’t expect you to wait until I figure things out, but I do think a break is best for now." It’s not her, it’s you and your issues. The advantage of using this break-up method is that it will be easy to return for sex. A couple weeks later you can tell her you miss hanging out with her, go to her place for a movie, and bang. This method is slightly uncomfortable to do but it leaves the door open while getting out of any relationship of any length.