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This appendix discusses additional topics not included in the main text because of their detailed or specific nature. They serve more to round out the rough edges of your game than to help with the main foundation.

If she is on foot while you are inside a car, open her by asking for directions. Engage her in a basic conversation so she doesn’t think you are a kidnapper. Then, ask her opinion on somewhere to go, whether it be for food or drink. Follow with strong opinions about certain places in the area (e.g. "Yeah last week I went to Club Gay and it was a total sausage fest. I didn’t like it at all. I’m looking for something different.") Then shift the conversation to what she is doing. If she is about to get pizza, ask her what her favorite pizza places are. This is going to be strange to do as you are hanging out the passenger side of your friend’s car, but it’s the only way it has worked for me. Engage her in as long of a conversation as possible and then go for an instant venue change nearby, or a number if that is not possible. If she looks like she is in a party mood, ask her if she needs a ride. You’ll be surprised how many girls accept. If she is in the car next to you, start the approach the same way by asking for directions or a quick opinion. Before the light turns green, ask her where she is going and if it’s any good. Say, "Maybe I’ll show up," and gauge her reaction. If she seemed open to the idea and encourages you to come, then go ahead and follow her.

This is very similar to car approaching. In most cases you will be stationary while girls pass you by. The first thing you need to do is get her stop. Say, "Hey, do you know where/what/when…" and then ask her for information or an opinion, even if you already know the answer. As you open, she is going to keep walking, but you must keep talking while moving your body to face her. Don’t stop talking even if it appears that she is walking away because sometimes it takes girls a couple seconds to realize that you are asking them a serious question instead of hitting on them like a construction worker. Girls are very likely to stop if they think you need help. Once she stops, follow the same steps as the car approach, giving strong opinions and then asking what she is up to, trying to prolong the conversation so you get to the point where she starts asking you questions. What I like about street approaches is that you can venue change to a nearby bar. This is actually not hard to pull off and some nights I’m more content hitting on girls outside the bar than doing it inside.

Go to the most crowded coffee shop you can find, where it can be hard to find a table. Get your coffee or pastry and then look around for a table with the hottest girl. Go to that table and politely ask if you can share her table. Then get your book or whatever and do what you were going to do. Before five minutes pass, simply make a comment about something you noticed about her. Maybe she is drawing, reading a book, or studying a subject you took in college. It’s okay to hit her with something mediocre like "Is it usually this crowded here" than nothing at all. Don’t be reluctant to interrupt her work. If she’s hanging out in a public place then chances are she wants to be interrupted. After you open, gauge her reaction to see if she is interested in talking to you. Does she give a quick response and dive back into her book or does she keep her head up waiting for you to keep talking?

If you want to get her number or venue change to get something to eat, you can’t let the conversation die. If the conversation reaches a natural end and she goes back to her book and you go back to yours, the approach is over. You want to keep talking until you move her to another location or until one of you have to go. A good close here is,

"I think we should continue the conversation some other time. But not over coffee!"

If she is with at least one other friend, you are going to eavesdrop on their conversation, wait until you hear something you have an opinion on, and then say, "Sorry to interrupt but I couldn’t help but overhear your conversation." Follow with your opinion. This polite approach happens to be very useful if the girl is with an older relative like her mother. If the coffee shop is not crowded, simply sit at the table next to the hottest girl. This is just a little tougher to approach since you will be farther apart, but still very doable.

If a girl you like is friends with your friend, you don’t need to approach her at all ― simply get an introduction from your friend. If the introduction is delayed then go up with her with, "I don’t think we’ve met yet." Once you are introduced, simply game her like you would any girl. Don’t think you can skip the attraction building stage just because you have mutual acquaintances. With girls I meet through friends, I usually start with the opinion routine to put the interaction on a track I’m familiar and comfortable with. You will be tempted to take it slow with this girl since your friends know her and whatever you do will get out to everyone else, but if that’s the case then you shouldn’t be hitting on her in the first place. If you are not going to give every girl 100% either move on or use her to make other girls jealous. Don’t be passive and assume you will run into her again.

If you want to hit on girls in the gym then you will have to sacrifice the intensity of your workout to put mental energy into gaming girls. Say you are doing legs one day but the girl you like is doing chest. If you want to talk to her then you guess what―you will feel the sudden urge to work out your chest. Go to the machine she is working on and ask how many sets she has left. Don’t worry if the gym is empty and it’s obvious you are just trying to hit on her. After my first set working in with her, I joke and say, "Yeah usually I can do a lot more, but I was injured recently so I’m talking it easy." Or say, "I could do a lot more of course but I don’t want to embarrass the other guys here."

If she doesn’t laugh then there is something wrong with her sense of humor. Continue the conversation by hitting her with an opinion or comment on gym culture to see if she responds and helps you continue the conversation. Say: "I feel like in the American culture if you don’t come to the gym you will get fat" or "I hope you don’t mind if I grunt really loudly in this next set because it makes me feel stronger."

Throw something out there and see if he she engages you. Keep the conversation going as long as possible and fight the urge to end it early with "I’ll see you around." Segue the conversation into what you both do in your spare time. Remember you are not trying to be her gym buddy, so if you don’t close it this first time then your odds of longterm success will be low. You need to act as if you will never see her again. Try to venue change to the smoothie bar for a protein shake to continue the conversation. Otherwise just take a deep breath and ask her to hang out right there on the gym floor if she is responding to your game and asking personal questions.

The best way to meet girls while abroad is to stay in hostels. This is especially true if you are traveling alone. While hostels are usually sausage fests, most of the guys there are young and have weak game so you can blow them all away with average player ability. Your goal is to be friendly to everyone because those guys may have already got in with a group of girls you want to game. Get used to using the "Let me guess, you are from…" opener. It’s extremely effective in starting conversation with female travelers. When it comes time to seal the deal, you will have to get creative because hostels don’t have much in the way of privacy. If you can’t bang her in one of the rooms, or the bathroom, or the park outside, you can always try to upgrade to a private room (most hostels have them). If you do try to get her into a private room, let her think that you two are just going to cuddle and talk. We never let girls think we assume sex is going to happen, since it should be seen as spontaneous and random.