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Don’t be too concerned with sexual technique. Porn is my teacher and all I do is pump away while changing the speed, depth, and force. Every few minutes I move her into a position I like. I relax, stay focused, and bang the hell out of her because that’s what I want to do. If you like it slow then bang her slow. If you like it rough then bang her rough. Keep doing what you want to do until she complains, which will be very unlikely. I am always surprised with how rough and dirty women really are.

I don’t go down on women before having sex because it’s not necessary and doesn’t guarantee sex will occur. If that is what you like doing then by all means go for it, but don’t do it because you think it will lessen resistance. You will be very upset if you do go down on a girl with the intention of having sex with her and then get nothing in return.

Since sex is supposed to be fun, don’t take it too seriously by questioning whether you are doing things right or not. Other than some typical dirty talk like, "You like that, don’t you?" don’t ask if you are pleasing her. Also, after sex, don’t ask if she came. If she cares enough about her pleasure then she will bring it up by telling you the things she wants or does not want you to do. It’s best to do your own thing and what you enjoy because if you are enjoying it then chances are she is enjoying it too. Worrying about her pleasure sacrifices your own, and in the end doesn’t guarantee that she will be pleased. Once sex ends, you are going to feel the urge to fill the silence with talk, but resist that and stay cool. The less you talk the better because she will wonder what you are thinking and feel a little insecure and vulnerable. Plus most of the stupid things I’ve ever said to girls have happened right after I had sex with them. Instead of talking, touch her, stroke her hair, cuddle, or go to sleep. Remember: sex isn’t a big deal―it’s a natural act between two people who like each other. How you treat her after sex should be the same with how you treated her before. The last thing you want is get needy and act like you are falling for her.

So that’s how you bang a girl. The toughest part of late game is getting to the point where you can get her into a bedroom, but with the methods previously described that’s only a modest challenge. The real challenge is getting a girl interested enough to make late game possible, and that stems from the approach and your first thirty minutes with her. When it comes to getting laid, it’s that early game that is really going to determine the quality and quantity of the girls you bang.

To keep it easy on myself, I have the first three dates pre-set regardless of what kind of girl I’m dealing with and if sex occurs. The first date is the café then bar on a weekday night. The second date is at a club on a weekend night, and the third date is sushi with sake on a weekday night.

If the first date didn’t result in sex and you expect a second one to occur, tell her at the end of the date that you want to take her out on the weekend to somewhere cool. Joke with her that you think both of you are ready for a date on a "primetime" night. Tell her to keep one weekend night free and that you will call her soon. If she is not free on the upcoming weekend, have a phone back-and-forth until the next weekend. Doing back-to-back dates on weekdays is not optimal if she has to get up early because you are not taking advantage of a possible sleepover which would make sex more likely to happen. Always leave a message when you are calling her, and don’t drag out phone conversations for too long. You should still be the one to always end the conversation first by making up an excuse about how you have to go do something like your laundry. Date two should be something fun and loud. I take my dates to house clubs. If there is not a real connection between me and my date, I take her to the loudest place possible to avoid having to talk to her and make our incompatibility obvious. Don’t worry about having to dance too much; lean against a bar or column and let her dance in front of you. I take her to a place that I like so that no matter what mood she shows up in, I’m going to have a good time and hopefully run into other people I know.

On date three, if I’m concerned that sex may not happen soon, I hit her with the "passion" routine when the topic of sex or dating comes up. Sometimes I do it on the phone before date three. This routine is tricky to fit into conversation but is an important way to let her know what you expect. Say:

I noticed that with girls I get into a relationship with, intimacy happens pretty fast. I guess it’s because if two people really like each other, and are comfortable with spending time together, they will find it impossible to keep their hands off each other. If a girl doesn’t want to get intimate with me soon then I just assume we are not physically compatible, or she has some type of issue that I’m not aware of.

This routine is an indirect, subtle way to let her know the clock is ticking. We never directly ask or cajole her into having sex because then that would just be whining, a tremendous turn-off. On each subsequent date, you should get much closer to sex than the previous one. Simply start from the top and work to the end. If you don’t have sex with her by date three, as long as it’s not because you didn’t push hard enough, don’t over-analyze why you couldn’t break down her resistance. Just like how you don’t analyze your game if a single approach goes wrong, don’t sweat it if one particular girl won’t open her legs. If you got pretty close by date three (fingering her, oral sex), then that probably means you will bang on date four or five. While it is okay to go past date three to get sex, you should be reluctant to do so. We’re living in a day and age where three dates is more than enough time for a girl to prove to us that she is worthy. If she’s not giving us sex, she needs to either put in more effort by offering to take us out or to do a bang-up job pleasing us orally. Don’t get caught in the trap of continuing to date her just because you invested some money and time into her. If she doesn’t play by your rules and give you what you want, drop her. No matter how far down the wrong road you go, turn back―there are other quality girls that will bang you without giving you a hard time. Whenever I’ve broken my rule and gone past date three into dates four or five while still not getting sex, I’ve always been disappointed. Make a rule and stick with it. Again, three dates is ample time for a modern woman to be comfortable having sex with an high-value male.

If she still likes you after sex, she will play fewer games and give you more attention. The pendulum swings to where she puts in as much effort as you. Always be conscious of whether she is reciprocating or not. Is she still offering to pay? Is she initiating conversation and intimacy? Is she doing things to make you comfortable and happy? The chances that a relationship will continue after sex depend on interest levels and effort. If you like the girl, put in the same amount of effort you did before sex until hers matches yours. Then start to gradually increase that amount of effort and let her catch up to you, repeating this until you take the relationship to the next level. It is okay to put in just a little bit more effort than the girl, but it should never appear that you are doing significantly more work. A common way guys blow it after sex is by abandoning their phone game. They think that they can call her whenever they want, have long, boring conversations, and always pick up the phone when she calls. But you still want to keep her in a state of doubt where she wonders, "Does he really like me?" If she takes two hours to call back, then you take almost two hours too. If she picks up the phone half the time, so do you. If she doesn’t leave messages, then you don’t either. Once she picks up the pattern that you are simply mirroring her disrespectful phone game, she will start acting better if she does like you. If after sex you freak her out by sending a mushy text message or call immediately after, she may peg you as needy and go cold. After sex I like to call a girl on the second day to instill just a little bit of doubt, but not so much that she is completely freaked out. For example if I have sex with her on Friday night but sleep over and leave Saturday afternoon, I will call her on Monday night. But if I leave on Friday night, I will call her on Sunday night. Stay clear of drunk dialing girls. It’s hard to keep your game tight by calling a girl drunk and saying stupid things that negate the good work you have put in. Drunk dialing is a behavior of the horny man who can’t even plan a few hours in advance. If I was a girl, I wouldn’t respect a man calling me at late hours talking about horny nonsense. If you are prone to drunk dialing then I recommend you leave your phone in the car.