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Within two months of serious entry into the game, you will accomplish many things you haven’t done before. Maybe you will do your first approach, finger a girl on the dance floor, or get a one night stand. If you are a complete beginner, within one year you will see your early game strengthen only for your mid-game to mess things up. Within the second year your early and mid-game will be much improved, but now your end-game will be begging for improvement. It’s not until after year two, with constant practice, where you will be proficient with all stages of game. At this point, other guys will notice your skill and you will begin to teach and advise a new generation of males who want to enter the game. Eventually you will reach end game, a game of no game. By now it may be hard for you to teach the minute details you once agonized over because you have internalized the best technique. You no longer notice the hundreds of small things you do to attract women. Keep in mind there are many ways to skin a cat. Often you will hear game advice that seems to be contradictory, such as to call the same night versus call in four days, to tell her you like her versus always be indirect, or to pay for dates versus never pay for dates. It’s not that any of these statements are necessarily right or wrong―what matters is what type of guy they apply to. For every man there is an infinite range of game he could play―but there is a small range that serves him best. This book presents an easily adaptable game that works well for most men, based on sound rules that drive human behavior and effective escalation steps that take you from one stage to the next. But ultimately it will be up to you to add to this game, injecting your own flavor to make it have the most impact for you. There is a point of diminishing return where learning new information without acting on it does very little to further your skill. If you give a basement boy one-thousand books on seduction, he will be no better in one year because he spent all that time reading instead of doing. It’s better to give him one resource and push him out on the field to get experience. You can read the complete works of Casanova but it still won’t put you at 1% of his game unless you get out and put his methods into practice. A book like this can only push you onto the field with enough know-how that allows you to master the game on your own.

Regardless of your current skill level or your past failures, consider this a new beginning. Not only will you get better results with women, but the confidence you gain will improve other aspects of your life as well. What you are about to read is a blunt and straightforward discussion on getting laid.

Internal game is the game that goes on inside your head―the thoughts and beliefs that affect your behavior, and ultimately how others respond to you. For example, if you have a belief that appearance is very important in getting laid and you are not a good-looking guy, then you will talk to fewer girls and get laid less. How you think about things like appearance, masculinity, and the concept of game will tie into your results. Before we get to actual game, let’s make sure your mind believes in a reality that will benefit you most.

I never considered myself a good-looking guy. In college I would look in the mirror and see big ears, acne, and a hairy, pudgy body. I didn’t like what I saw and I thought that most girls probably wouldn’t like what they saw either. As a result I didn’t even bother trying to get laid for most of college. Believing I didn’t have the right look paralyzed me from talking to girls, so I never even developed the basic skills to interact with them. I was easy-going and funny with friends, but nervous and awkward around girls. What I didn’t realize is that girls do not see me the same way I see myself. While there are consistent patterns for what makes humans attractive, your look is perceived differently in the eyes of different girls. This means that while Jane thinks you are a hideous beast, Stacy may think you have extra character. Rachel thinks you are big and awkward, but Lauren thinks you will be able to protect her. The first thing you see when you look in the mirror could be your big nose or balding head, but girls don’t zero in on these features―they absorb your entire look and presence. The insecure man, through his unattractive body language alone, is able to tell her that he is not a worthy sexual partner. His meek eye contact and slouchy appearance is a physical manifestation of his thinking about himself and the importance of appearance. Even if most females on the planet think you are a monster, it’s better to believe that looks don’t matter so that you are able to make a confident showing for the girls who don’t mind your appearance. With the addition of game, you will be able to sleep with girls whose first impression of your appearance is less than favorable. After getting into the game, I made some superficial changes to my appearance. I lost my fuzzy mustache and cut my hair, I bought trendy clubbing clothes, and I worked out at the gym to build muscle. But was I really becoming a better looking guy? I doubt it. When I compare pictures of myself now (shaggy, Jesus-looking) and one year after I entered the game, I looked more youthful, polished, and stylish then, during the time I got less sex. It’s your game that plays the biggest role in making you appear more or less attractive. It really doesn’t matter if you are putting gel in your hair or not. Now I get complimented on my appearance and approached fairly regularly even though I put less energy into looking good than my Nike sweatshirt days. If you think appearance is important and you consider yourself unattractive, you’ve basically doomed yourself to spending most of your time behind a computer. You need to have the belief that game, not appearance, is important, and proceed to go out there and play the hand you are dealt. It’s true that the better looking you are, the easier things will be―you will be able to pull girls on looks alone and say things that other guys would get drinks thrown on them for. The below-average looking man will have to work harder than the goodlooking man to get the same results. Instead of only approaching three girls to get a number, an unattractive man may have to approach ten.

While it isn’t fair that a man has to work harder because of bad genetic luck, consider the bright side: his game will be better and more honed than the good-looking guy who didn’t have to work for it. Once his look fades, he won’t have as much to fall back on. Let’s say you have bad genetic luck with your appearance. I’d compare you to a tennis athlete born with little natural ability. You have to practice six hours a day while the natural practices for two hours, only for him to cream you in most matches. But because you are committed and disciplined, you stick with the game and pull out enough wins to make money on the circuit. You will never be a superstar or top ten ranked player, but you will be able to do what you enjoy, make an upper class living, and enjoy sex from your stable of groupies.

You may have the belief that you have to be born with the ability to talk to women, that it’s either in you or not. When you go to a bar and see a guy having the time of his life, with both of his arms around beautiful girls, while you sit there in the corner with a warm beer in your hand having not said a word to a pretty girl all week, it can be hard to imagine yourself being just like him. One year after I got into the game I went to a wine festival with two female coworkers. I was approaching girls pretty regularly by then but it was mostly confined to loud clubs. Walking around this farm in Virginia on a 100 degree day, I saw a tall, juicy girl wearing high-heel cork sandals matched with a skimpy outfit. I noticed that girls were checking her out as much as the guys. I stalked her at this wine festival, fantasizing about her like any other guy. An hour later I looked to my left and saw her standing under a tent with her back towards me. I walked up to her from behind and touched her upper-back tattoo. I asked, "What does this mean?" I banged her three weeks later. I wouldn’t have believed you if you told me a year earlier that I would pull one of the hottest girls at a huge wine festival by sneaking up on her and touching her. To me that would be impossible, something that just isn’t in me, something that I wasn’t born to do.