Violet Blue - The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio - How to Go Down on a Man and Give Him Mind-Blowing Pleasure

Needless to say, when you begin to put his penis in your mouth, you aren’t going to begin ramming up and down, as fast as you can—take it slowly. Put him in, then back out, and repeat the process as an intermediate stage of oral foreplay. How you play around with this initial in and out is up to you. When his penis starts making the first dips into your mouth, try choosing among these suggestions:

• You can gradually work in the sensation of going into your mouth, alternating sliding the head just between your lips, and other licks and kisses you’re already doing.

• You can stick your flattened tongue out, hold it perfectly still, and slide him slowly in, then wrap your lips around and apply a little suction.

• Run the tip of the head around your moistened lips (as if it were lipstick), pausing to push him in, around, back in, repeat…

• You can, of course, shove him in suddenly. This works well if you hold still for a few moments after shoving to let the sensation sink in.

• Begin pulling him in with your lips, moving forward and back, but go farther down with each forward motion.

• Try wrapping your hands around his hips or buttocks, with the tip of his cock held in place with your lips. Pull him in and out with these “handles.”

If I gag, I just jack him off for a minute.

At this stage, you’ll be liberally using your hands not only to maintain sensual contact with your partner but also to keep the stimulation going on his penis as your mouth leaves and returns. One or both hands will hold him steady as you put him in and out of your mouth. You can also rely on your hands to stroke him and duplicate your mouth’s movements if your jaw needs a rest. Use your hands to guide his penis, and always keep both hands on him somewhere; hips, butt, stomach, thighs, balls, chest. You can lightly run your fingernails over non-ticklish areas such as his thighs or chest, tease his pubic hair, and stroke or massage the line from belly button to pubic bone. You can also reach up and caress his neck, face, and lips, and some guys love it when you slip a finger or two in their mouth to lick and suck.

The way to deal with big dicks is to use your hand as an extension to your mouth. Lots of saliva. Then keep stroking him and lick his balls. And below his balls. Back up for more sucking, then back down for more ball licking. Perhaps tickle his asshole if he likes that.

One time I asked her to look at me, and she did so while continuing to give me head. I told her how good it felt, what an incredible turn-on it was to watch her suck my cock, and how it was even more of a turn-on to look into her eyes while she did so.

We’re visual creatures by nature. Blow jobs can take this principle to delirious heights. Since the person receiving head can watch the action, why not crank up the volume by putting on a show? Eye contact is where it’s at when you want to heighten the sexual tension. You can stare intensely into his eyes as you go at it, or punctuate your activities by stealing coy glances now and then.

Touching his testicles enhances what you’re doing to his penis, and to the rest of him. The balls are often neglected in oral sex, even though they’re a major pleasure zone. A few men will dislike having them touched at all, but most will appreciate having them included in the fun. Touch them lightly at first; if the response is positive, you can cup and hold them, give light squeezes or tugs, caress them with your fingertips, lift them slightly and hold them still, or reach behind them and massage or stroke his perineum. Prolong these initial stages of having him in your mouth for as long as you want, and remember that the longer you make it last, the more turned on he’ll get.

Whenever I feel horny and want to get off, all I have to do is close my eyes and think back to that day. I can still feel her mouth around my cock and the way she never neglected my balls. It was amazing.

Her head was bobbing up and down, one of her hands was in my mouth, and the other one was massaging my balls! I mean, I was in ecstasy!

Some people spend years using a single blow job technique on their lovers—and there’s nothing wrong with that, as long as everyone’s ecstatically happy with the results. But not every sexual encounter is the same in tone or duration, and not all men respond overwhelmingly to cookie-cutter oral sex formulas. It’s a good idea to mix it up, and make the blow job match the man and the mood. There are many different strokes and ways to combine them with one another and with the techniques you’ve already learned. Using more than one, and going slowly through a catalog of moves, lends length and body to your session, while giving your lover an outstanding oral sex experience.

The crux of your oral technique is the way you use your hand (or hands) in accompaniment with your mouth. The key to doing this is to use a hand in tandem with your mouth on his shaft, as an extension of your mouth. Wrap one hand around his cock, with your index finger and thumb meeting at the top, and keep these fingers against your lips. Moving up and down with your hand locked to your lips, you make an intensely pleasurable, tight tube for him to slide in and out of. Most men like a firm grip, but not too firm; test your grip on two of your fingers to see how it feels before you get started. If you’re not sure, you can always have him put his hand on yours and show you.

He would take the tip of his tongue, run it along the length of it for a while, very sensually, always varying the pace but never feeling out of rhythm. He also did the one thing I enjoy the most when a man gives me head. He grabbed the base with one hand, grabbed the middle with the other, and then sucked the head while stroking the rest of it with both hands…

Using your hands along with your mouth is an important technique, and it has several beneficial side effects. Besides making your mouth into a pleasurable space that he can slide entirely into, your hands can also enhance his pleasure by moving in different ways or adjusting constriction at any point in your up-and-down motions. And it can provide a way for you to minimize how deep he goes into your mouth, so if you’re concerned about gagging or hip thrusts, you can use your hand as a buffer. If your jaw, neck, or anything else gets sore or tired, you can rest your mouth and keep the stroking and rhythm continuous, not breaking contact. In fact, you can give yourself a stealthy rest by moving back and stroking him while looking at him seductively, and he’ll be none the wiser. Your hand-and-mouth motion comes into play when you “deep throat” him; read about how to do this in chapter 9, “Deep Throat.”

Survey your choices when it comes to strokes and the combinations you can create with other sensations. Pick some and try them in combination to see what he likes; you’ll notice that a particular way you are going down on him will turn him on more. Then begin to focus your energy on the type of stroke he responds to pleasurably, and establish a rhythm. Always keep your upper lip curled protectively over your teeth—a nip at the wrong moment is unsettling. When he starts to respond to a particular technique, you’ll begin your rhythm. Establishing a rhythm is your goal, but be sure to stay with each technique you use long enough for him to get used to it. Don’t rush through changing techniques, or change what you do with each stroke—this is frustrating for the recipient, who is trying to focus on arousal and orgasm. The following strokes are your road to rhythm:

• To do the master stroke, the basis for fellatio, keep your hand against your lips, and bob up and down.