Diana Richardson - Tantric Sex for Men

we are able to direct the sexual energy and be more in command of love and life. Man will be in

wonder, even a bit awestruck to learn how the same elements—the penis and the vagina—can

produce two such vastly different experiences.

MALE AUTHORITY THROUGH TAKING RESPONSIBLE ACTION

Many a man is interested in producing a peak orgasm for a woman because he believes it validates

him as a lover, but this attitude has grave consequences for both men and women. Until a man can

manage to fully satisfy one woman, he will never feel himself to be a true man, in spite of any other

achievements and successes. The need for man to feel himself as masculine, for woman to feel herself

as feminine, and for both to have orgasmic experiences through each other is a burning need for

humanity today. Without the generative, spiritual, sexual expression, the human race will slowly die

from love starvation.

Eliminating or reducing the usual orgasm-driven sex may sound like a loss, but this is truly

responsible action on the part of a man. With responsibility you gain freedom, higher sexual

experiences, and greater sexual fulfillment, and you transform from an emotional human into a loving

human. You lift yourself out of the cycles of unconsciousness that have been going on between people

for generations. Life changes its whole quality when the genitals are reserved to serve love, which is

their higher purpose. Reproduction is the lower purpose of the sexual interaction. Through

understanding the genitals anew and using them according to the inherent polarities embodied in male

and female, it is possible to create love in the here and now, with the person you are with today. You

learn to contain the energy, embrace it, expand with it, and melt into it.

When physical love reaches a refined level of exchange through polarity, love is generated as a

tangible reality between a man and a woman. In being profoundly touched, woman connects with the

source of her own love and showers man with her love, thereby completing the circuit of love and

joy. Remember again and again: any level of awareness brought into sex will begin to create love; it

is the awareness itself that transforms sex into love. Once again, it is not what we do but how we do

it. Woman is love, this is the quintessence of her very soul; thus, love to her is as essential as food.

She requires the opportunity to relax into her feminine nature and receive the contentment and

regeneration of ecstatic experiences to sustain her life. The sincerity and willingness of both parties

is clearly a contributing factor, but the responsibility also lies in the individual’s hands. Through

cooperation in sex we can regain power and balance as male and female forces.

Tantric Inspiration

There is certainly something very similar in very different emotions: the overwhelmingness. It may be love, it may be

hate, it may be anger—it can be anything. If it is too much then it gives you a sense of being overwhelmed by

something. Even pain and suffering can create the same experience, but overwhelmingness has no value in itself. It

simply shows you are an emotional being. This is typically the indication of an emotional personality. When it is

anger, it is all anger. And when it is love, it is all love. It almost becomes drunk with the emotion, blind. And

whatever action comes out of it is wrong. Even if it is overwhelming love, the action that will come out of it is not

going to be right.

Reduced to its base, whenever you are overwhelmed by any emotion you lose all reason, you lose all sensitivity,

you lose your heart in it. It becomes almost like a dark cloud in which you are lost. Then whatever you do is going to

be wrong. Love is not to be a part of your emotions. Ordinarily that’s what people think and experience, but anything

overwhelming is very unstable. It comes like a wind and passes by, leaving you behind, empty, shattered, in sadness

and in sorrow.

According to those who know man’s whole being—his mind, his heart, and his being—love has to be an

expression of your being, not an emotion. Emotion is very fragile, very changing. One moment it seems that is all.

Another moment, you are simply empty. So the first thing to do is take love out of this crowd of overwhelming

emotions.

Love is not overwhelming. On the contrary, love is a tremendous insight, clarity, sensitivity, awareness. But that

kind of love rarely exists, because very few people ever reach to their being.

OSHO, TRANSCRIBED TEACHINGS,

OM SHANTIH SHANTIH SHANTIH

PERSONAL SHARING

Tantric Sex Completely Changed My Life

It is unbelievable how much has changed in the past months since the “Making Love” retreat. When I think about what

has happened to me, tears start running and I am infinitely grateful for these experiences and for this gift in my life.

Again and again, I am confused and I keep thinking: “This can’t be true. I am for sure on some sort of trip.” But the trip

does not seem to end. For the very first time in my life, I realize that I have treated my body badly and that I can stop this

without effort from one moment to the other. The physical symptoms that come up are so strong that the beautiful

sensation of having an orgasm is nothing compared to it. It is good to know the price I pay for a beautiful orgasm, and

that I have the choice to pay it or not. Usually I do not feel like being totally worn out for two or three days due to having

had an orgasm. So many big and small things have happened that I have for sure forgotten some of them.

Most importantly, my partner and I have come closer than ever before. Emotional moments have become more and

more rare. We love to spend very, very much time with each other and have a hard time not being in each other’s

presence. That has been different in the past. We had moved into a bigger flat just because we could not stand living

together without each of us having a room of our own. Now we have reorganized the flat and the single rooms have

become a shared bedroom and office. This way we can always be in each other’s presence and feel the love flowing back

and forth.

My encounters with people are different. My heart is open. In the past I took a long time to develop trust in someone.

This now happens much more swiftly. My connections are less language-oriented. I don’t like talking as much as I did; I

prefer to be simply here, feeling inside of me and perceiving what is happening. A lot of talking is strenuous for me and

takes me away from myself. Whenever I used to meet a woman, an inner movie was going on: “We could have sex with

each other. Do I want her? Does she want sex with me? But I have a girlfriend. Bummer!” Now when I meet a woman I

feel that my heart is open, that everything is okay, that I can talk with her and feel good. I have no need for sex as my

imagination used to suggest. I encounter the person in a way that has not been possible for me before. I really see her,

instead of avoiding her in a way. Of course this does not always happen, but more and more often.