Violet Blue - The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio - How to Go Down on a Man and Give Him Mind-Blowing Pleasure

Whether you’re about to give a hot and nasty, on-the-fly blow job or are going to slowly and sweetly make love to his cock, you’ll really heat things up if you get him into as heightened a state of arousal as you can. Simply taking his penis and stuffing it in your mouth is fine if you know your partner likes this, but in most cases this approach will make the fellatio session a forgettable one and will leave your partner disappointed—or it may make him feel like you just wanted to get it over with, which hurts. You may feel like you’re erotically torturing him by prolonging his pleasure with some delicious foreplay, but the more thought, effort, and attention you put into arousing him, the more he’ll love how you give head.

Spend time kissing and nibbling all over his body, avoiding his genital area at first, tracing from head to toe with your mouth and your hands. Get him used to the way your hands, mouth, and body touch him, while you become accustomed to the way he feels and responds to you. Gently discover which parts he likes having licked, and which to leave out. He might really love it when you lick his neck but dislike it when you lick his thighs. Lick everywhere: hands, the hollow of his elbows, the nape of his neck. Caress his chest and kiss his nipples. Try licking them as you might lick the sensitive underside of his cock head.

She did the one thing I enjoy the most when a woman gives me head. She grabbed the base with one hand, grabbed the middle with the other, and then sucked the head while stroking the rest of it with both hands…

Throughout the entire blow job, use your hands as much as you can to increase his arousal and comfort, and to prolong the sexual tension. Touching other parts of his body such as his chest, squeezing his nipples, grasping his hips, holding his buttocks, and stroking his thighs and stomach are highly recommended for building arousal—and may help a nervous lover relax. Many men enjoy the following techniques:

• Insert a finger in his mouth for him to suck and lick.

• Run your fingers through his pubic hair.

• Gently pull his pubic hair.

• Try lightly tugging on his testicles—some men like having them pulled or squeezed, though you should never tap or spank them (unless you have agreed to this type of sensation play beforehand).

• Push or pull up the mons (the fleshy mound over the pubic bone) to heighten erotic intensity; try rubbing it in a circular motion.

• When he is aroused, squeeze or pinch his nipples; as arousal increases, he may ask for stronger stimulation.

• Caress his buttocks, the cleft between his cheeks, or his anus. This is an oft-neglected part of his body, and he might really cherish your attention to the area.

Now, this is the part that drove me crazy: she would put her ring finger and thumb together to make a ring and lightly stroke from the top of the head down to the midway point while caressing my balls with the other hand. I almost went ballistic.

Giving his entire genital area a sensual massage, or even employing just a few erotic massage techniques, can heighten any oral encounter. Whether you’re looking to add to a lengthy lovemaking session or want to knead and rub him into a frenzy before you go down on him, male genital massage will help you meet your desired goal. Genital massage, like a regular massage, is a very sensual form of contact and is very relaxing for the recipient. You can use erotic massage techniques during a full-body massage, to give him an appetizer before the main course of oral sex, or simply employ the strokes and combinations to give him a mind-blowing hand job.

You can give a dry massage, but using a lubricant is highly recommended. Oils are fine to use if you’re just giving him a hand job, but they aren’t recommended if you’re going to be putting him in your mouth or vagina, or are going to be using latex barriers such as condoms later. Oil will coat your mouth and will take a long time to clear, it wreaks havoc on the delicate pH in the vagina (and is difficult to flush out), and nothing breaks a condom like a little oil. If you do use oil, stay away from heavily scented products that might irritate his urethral opening or cause an allergic reaction: use sweet almond or olive. Water-based lubricants sold specifically for sex are best to use, especially if you want to keep your options open. If you know you’re going to transition from a genital massage to a blow job, select a lubricant that tastes okay—but know that you won’t find one that tastes great. For information on flavored lubricants, see chapter 4, “Know the Hard Facts: Health Considerations.”

When you take a moment to marvel at what can be done with a pair of hands, it’s easy to see what sensual tools they are. They can render touches that send shivers up spines, and with literally thousands of nerve endings, they feel , and transmit pleasure to us, their owners. Don’t be surprised if giving your male partner an erotic massage turns you on.

Make sure your hands are warm and the skin feels soft. Before you begin, take time out to make sure your fingernails are trimmed and smooth and you don’t have any rough spots. Remove rings and bracelets, or anything else that might get in the way or snag.

You can massage his cock in any number of places or positions, such as seated on the couch or standing in the shower, but you’ll have an easier time and better access if he’s lying down. Whether he’s lying on a massage table draped with towels or doing dishes at the sink, start with light touches and strokes all over his torso and abdomen, upper thighs, and hips. Cup your hand over his genitals and hold it still for a moment. Press lightly, and begin to knead your hand in a barely discernable squeezing motion. Press his cock against him with the flat of your hand, and push it from side to side. You can gently cup his balls, and you can also rub his mons with flattened fingers, where his penis meets his body (you might want to review chapter 2, “The Anatomy of a Man’s Pleasure”). Next, warm the lubricant between your hands (remember, there is no such thing as too much lubricant) and move on to these massage techniques:

• Press the palm of your hand on the shaft his penis and slowly squeeze repeatedly, staying in one place on the shaft. Try this at the base, in the middle, at the top.

• Try stroking with fingertips only. Stroke, pull, knead, or tap them lightly up and down along the entire shaft.

• Grasp his cock and pull it downward, and use your other hand to press on his mons. You can hold his cock in place and rub the mons in a circular motion.

• Circle your hand around the base, and pull it to the end in one long, continuous stroke.

• Reverse the stroke, starting at the head and going from tip to base.

• Try the long stroke from the base, and add a gentle twist when you reach the head. This might be too intense for some men (the head is sensitive to stimulation), but others will love it. Experiment to see if he likes the twist at the head only, or along the shaft.

• Using one hand, begin one long stroke from the base, and when you reach the head, use your other hand to follow behind the first in another stroke.

• With fingers circled around the shaft, knead and pull.

• Add your other hand to cup, fondle, or gently tug on his testicles.

• You can apply strokes with his penis pointed up, down, or in the direction of either of his hips. Many men enjoy having their penis pulled downward and back, toward their butt, but some guys will find this uncomfortable. When in doubt, ask.

• Using two hands, clasp your fingers and wrap your hands around his cock. Stroke up, down, or up and down. You can twist your hands right and left.