Helen Phillips - Some Possible Solutions

20.

I’ve thrown up three times since I’ve known him:

(1) The night before he proposed, in Guatemala, black bean soup/Montezuma’s revenge.

(2) The night before the miscarriage and the apartment closing, which happened, impossibly, to fall on the same day. The baby fell into a toilet designed by a designer to conserve water. He said: “If by ‘baby’ you mean ‘minuscule bundle of cells,’ then I’ll let the above sentence slide.”

(3) Last week, for no reason at all, after eating Thai Iced Tea Ice Cream, which is quite an orange color if I do say so myself. Of course I was thinking about the invisible baby the whole time, and the way it would be three months old by now, and the way my grief exceeded his by so much, and the way I don’t want to be filled with vitriol, a word thank God I learned when I was studying for a standardized test. God it was so hot the night of the Thai Iced Tea Ice Cream Sickness, and my beloved was so good to me that night, so exceedingly patient.

21.

Our friends admire our marriage and ask us for advice.

When I think about the phrase “hitch our wagons” it almost makes me cry because it is so beautiful, so accurate, so beautiful.

22.

Once something I wrote made the judge of a contest indignant. He wrote, “This is something that this woman should share with her husband alone, if with anyone, and probably not even with him.”

23.

He’s always called me his “Little Try-er.” He says: “You are always try, try, trying to make things good.” This is both a compliment and an insult.

24.

Lightbulbs make me feel peaceful these days, as do water glasses.

Wikipedia makes me feel safe and newspapers make me feel guilty.

Facebook makes me want to change my life and Twitter makes me want to stay the way I am.

25.

The person with whom I used to have the joke about never saying I love you to anyone else recently told me: “You would have been happy no matter who you married. You always loved everyone. I mean that as a compliment.”

We had not seen each other for many years. We were walking the hills of San Francisco that day and truly everything seemed possible.

26.

The Guy Who Has Urges Impossible to Satisfy comes up to the bar and grabs my ass. He’s very predictable but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t scare me.

At night, together, in bed, sleepless, we’re more in the same boat than we’ve been in a long time.

Boat, that’s good too, a helpful image. But when I try to picture it what I see is fog, a wooden boat with old oars, the desperate expressions on our faces.

27.

“I’m a monster, I’m a monster, I’m a monster, I’m a monster,” he says four times in a row, just like that, and I can’t tell if he’s joking or serious.

28.

He says, “You are like, you are like, you are like a glass of cold water that I drink from every morning.”

He’s always coming up with these extremely useful metaphors. He’s the best decision I ever made.

He says, “Why are you always saying that language falls short?”

29.

On nights when I can’t sleep I dream that our apartment is way larger than I ever realized. It has nooks and crannies and lofts I never knew about. In fact, there is a section of our apartment where an entire forest could be planted!

30.

I had this plan that I would be happier this year than ever before. That day by day, twig by twig, I would construct my inner nest, and meanwhile my skin would be better than ever and my patience would be infinite and I’d be able to talk easily with strangers, and maybe even would finally learn how to whistle, and wouldn’t be scared of driving.

If only that famous person hadn’t written me to say: Happiness in marriage is an illusion . Jesus Christ, who puts that kind of thing in an email?

31.

When he pointed at me and shouted, “You!” I couldn’t tell if I was being singled out for love or scorn.

32.

“All I want is X,” he says. “That’s all. Just X.”

“X,” I say. “Jesus Christ.”

“Please,” he says, “stop calling me that.”

I wonder if it’s a technical thing, hitching your wagons, something involving rope and a metal loop, or if it’s merely a turn of phrase.

You’ve just got to disconnect your happiness from my happiness, okay? Okay?

33.

What’s with this feeling of dread? Two weeks ago I wrote an email to an old friend proclaiming my transcendent happiness, or at least the promise of it.

Seven fireflies, a pink evening, whatever, there was cause for confidence, and there still is, hello, it’s not as though we’re doomed.

34.

We turn the air conditioner off.

We turn the air conditioner on.

We close the door.

We open the door.

We think of our parents and their deaths.

We think of our children and their births.

It is hot yet I need hot milk. I understand that it’s disgusting to drink milk intended for the young of a different species, yet I can never get enough of it.

35.

“You’re being so nice to me right now,” The Girl with the Hot Milk says. “Thank you.”

“No, thank YOU,” The Guy Standing by the Air Conditioner says.

“Oh,” she says, “oh, I hope we’re always this nice to each other.”

36.

In the grocery store I see a woman with an infant. She reminds me of me. She’s even got a zit where I’ve got a zit. When I approach her, she smiles.

“Hey there,” she says.

Why am I not surprised to see milk, limes, a jar of golden balls in her cart?

“What’s your baby’s name?” I say, realizing as I say it that my voice sounds ferocious, as though it’s been ages since I used it in polite company.

But the young woman just winks at me. “You know what,” she says, “I haven’t even given her a name yet.”

This one day my sister and I were walking in the park when something happened. We saw or felt or heard or smelled or sensed something we’d never seen or felt or heard or smelled or sensed before. Due to our inexperience with this kind of experience, we had no vocabulary for it, though we tried.

“Soft,” my sister said.

“Powerful,” I suggested.

“Perfume-y,” my sister attempted.

“Redolent of dirt,” I embellished.

“What does ‘redolent’ mean?”

She was a less devoted student of the Internet, and thus still ignorant.

The park stretched before us and behind us. From this vantage, I could hardly believe in the city that smushed up against its concrete borders. The park’s groves had been planted with precision, yet at this time of year the variety in the leaves’ shades of orange and pink lent them a satisfying randomness.

In any case, this thing my sister and I encountered in the park changed the park. The park was always utterly still, its gleaming lawns green and unmoving, its groves brilliant and still, its ponds still and green with algae, clouds of purple asters hovering still and silent. Sure, there were bits of movement here and there — a white swan stroking its way through the black water, or a squirrel with a singed tail moving ratlike toward an overflowing garbage bin. A handful of birds taking flight from a chokecherry bush; an abandoned eighth-of-a-sandwich moving wondrously on the backs of a thousand cooperative ants. But other than these few gestures provided by the innocently exuberant creatures of the park, who seemed to exist in complete ignorance of the raging city beyond, there was never any movement in the park. People, yes, of course; dogs, yes; a hired dog-walker with a herd of pure breeds; packs of children. Beyond these living beings, though, nothing in the park had ever moved or been moved. We had always cherished this stillness.