Joseph McElroy - Women and Men

She didn’t hear the rhyme till later. She didn’t ask whence came it. She said the goddess sent it to her, though if she’s a myth in her own time Grace (who for a time is all things to her intimate Maureen, who calls her Kimball) would not find in any rhyme we carried into her the answer to Where, who, what was she?

Who and what was she? — that sounds like a Lesbian question, she says — heavy duty, heavee—’cause Lesbians (if there are Lesbians) some of them her best friends, are into Romance, the Devotion Trip, and Relationships, though Grace will call herself bisensual and at an orgy good-naturedly swing both ways getting bulletins, my dear, against the warm inner thigh of Other space in her days of swings which one newspaper with her in its mind called group sex, which swingers of her acquaintance might some of them call "orgies," and where in the clean, deviant funs of three-on-one almond oils, laurel incense, pear or apple juice, a supple supply (and friendly!) of small-of-the-backs and hips and supportive parts, plus a less than at-large ratio of kissing to other acts other hugs other moists and ins, room could still be found at Grace’s for shy non-participant members who’d traded their underwear for Swedish blankets, their forethoughts for a fleshed-out evening with people, hear the noise, it is music from the wall, music to our rear, our vaunted groin — it’s breathing to music which drowns out history if you want — and across the openness of our frank rape-safe room see a bunched towel, two towels, yr prayer rug, yr bowl of apricots, yr plastic bag of grass fridge-fresh, a naked hand flat down on the carpet wrinkled at the wrist (a prop), freckles across a shoulder, a massage waiting for a back, all this across a thick and mirrored room-to-room carpet, a band of healthies, a party to fuck, kid to kid, even man to man, to swap experiences, to shed a good tear if it happened, to lay around, to reach, to reach and accept a No thanks if it comes — and to put peer bandhood before pair bonding in order to — to save us a chance: but a chance to do what? to demarry but keep it secret, or remarry our true friends with whom for too long we’ve been one times one, to make a bisexual capitalism to replace war?

She once learned, having said No (but this time not at a swing), that when it comes to real sleeping she likes to do it alone, and in those days she still maintained a bed (the bed), but found she had stopped crying, the little crying she ever had undertaken.

She learned what it was like to fuck someone before she knew him, to fuck on very first — and as the first — acquaintance, and much later, after playing with two or three others, find who this was when she left the easygoing orgy with him, and talk to him now sister to brother on the sidewalk. In a cab, beyond sex, and be properly introduced to each other and to a long talk in that diner that once existed — now mere history! — in the quickening and multiplying overlook of the century in question at Sixth and Twelfth, remember?

There he drank two heavy glasses of buttermilk and ate with magic speed (however slowly he chewed) two toasted BLTs; and she learned what he did and what he was coming off of and again what his last name was.

They had fucked around on a first-name basis back at the mutual friend’s swing and she had heard herself let go with all the regular party noise from her raucous years (high school and other) embedded in the West—"your infinite Southwest M/dwest," the guy drinking buttermilk softly said, who was very very quietly high on her or the night or the music or the imagination of a continent that’s not New York.

Upon which their laugh merged with her ongoing life story told like the wondrous confession of a once upon a time (if you believe it) inhibited American gal — or one of his confessions at his regular Alcoholics Anonymous meeting — well you can see they both of them laughed at his friendly three-o’clock-in-the-morning compass putting her on the map some lapsed, marginal map of mood-"infinite Southwest Midwest." And they held hands across the waitress’s Formica finding that in their respective marriages they had felt to blame and had assumed for ages that the about-once-a-month commemoration of their vows was like the way it was supposed to be even if there were better ways of doing things in poor urban Hispanic families or in Hollywood, Malibu Beach, or anthropologists’ tribes.

Until, like making love after breakfast, poached eggs, coffee, stacks of toast, cigarette smoke, apricot jam in the fridge, Grace and this guy’s long night’s swing wound down with a one-on-one at Grace’s place and such inflamed joy in him that, observing over his furry shoulder a Plains Indian print on her dusky bedroom wall, she might not have found her recently discovered No, had he wished at four a.m. to spend the night; but before she knew it he was gone and she was staring at the Kiowa baby carrier, its hooded purse on the wall a shape seen anew, until she didn’t know she was asleep and didn’t know and didn’t know she was asleep when in daylight she became aware of her hand reaching for the phone receiver to phone that guy with whom she was rehearsing her life and still in sleep laying out to him her new vista of sex-positive economic history.

But she had had this new vista in her anyway; but he got her started on the way home by quoting the philosopher who asked what would you do if you found you were going to repeat your life from start to finish, every fuck-up, with every pain, every downer you’ve endured already, what would you do? And so with a pang unusual in that it seemed to come also from someone else, she halted in mid-roll as she moved to extend her other hand to dial the number she’d anyway have had to get up on her elbow to see on the bedside pad where he’d written it: for she had learned this very little bit so far, which was as real as knowing — with a No — that she liked to go to sleep alone, and it was that this guy she’d gotten it on with at the party and later (harder to recall), here at home after her tea and peanut butter and English, and his buttermilk and BLTs at the diner, was doing that same old winged thing in her head that she knew so well, right? And her own leaden wrongness — she saw it from one half sleep to another — seemed to hold her hand back, that leaden wrongness, as the hand’s fingers went for the phone dial knowing his number after all without looking at the pad, until this leaden drag passed and she fell into a feeling like she’d had after she said No about sleeping and at once had seen that even more than she’d known it was what she had wanted just to say, and perhaps with all our help she found her younger brother absent from the life she had told that guy last night, and as she thought and thought and thought, and the bed drifted to where she recalled last night’s quite magical carpet, she caught herself hoping this two-way phone of hers would ring with the voice of the guy, who had not asked, "When can I see you?" but the phone silence got into her Sunday breathing and she was elsewhere — not (or not yet) Aphrodite dispersing herself far from where Emperor Theodosius’ temple-demolition crew could reach her — but in her very own breathing, which she’d discovered sometimes just stopped like her former husband Lou’s breath, and she would correct this.

And in that breathing with our help she heard her and her little brother’s silence amid the interrupted silences of their parents’ morning bicker. Her brother at that moment not so big as when we saw him previously. But now arising out of maternal fixity amid his parents’ purely verbal but sticky inquiry into whether the owner of a local auto-repair shop had taken up flying to get away from his wife who worked with him and answered the phone and did the paperwork. This issue between Grace’s parents was as outlandish as the earliness of the hour, for they were all of them too damn early that morning. As if by some accident of independently planning to do something private. Meet someone or something. But they must have made a mistake and communicated, and were in the kitchen, battling spouse-parent versus spouse-parent; and Grace’s little brother, when his mother saw the milkman out the window, got told to take two empties out before the man got away, bolted, but Gracie ran after him though mainly into the empty release her mother had created in saying to the boy, put on your jacket, mister!