Leil Lowndes - How to Talk to Anyone - 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

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ALSO BY LEIL LOWNDES

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How to Make Anyone Like You

How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You

Contents

Cover

Title Page

Copyright

Also by Leil Lowndes

Preface: Having it all

Part One: You only have ten seconds to show you’re a somebody

The incredible, inescapable, unique essence ofyou

1 The flooding smile

2 Sticky eyes

3 Epoxy eyes

4 Hang by your teeth

5 The big-baby pivot

6 Hello old friend

7 Limit the fidget

8 Hans’s horse sense

9 Watch the scene before you make the scene

Part Two: What do I say after I say ‘hello’?

Small talk, your verbal welcome mat

10 The mood match

11 Prosaic with passion

12 Always wear a Whatzit

13 Whoozat?

14 Eavesdrop in

15 Never the naked city

16 Never the naked job

17 Never the naked introduction

18 Be a word detective

19 The swivelling spotlight

20 Parroting

21 Encore!

22 Ac-cen-tu-ate the pos-i-tive

23 The latest news … don’t leave home without it

Part Three: How to talk like the big boys ’n’ girls

Welcome to the human jungle

24 What do you do – NOT!

25 The nutshell resume

26 Your personal thesaurus

27 Kill the quick ‘me, too!’

28 Comm-YOU-nication

29 The exclusive smile

30 Don’t touch a cliché with a ten-foot pole

31 Use jawsmith’s jive

32 Call a spade a spade

33 Trash the teasing

34 It’s the receiver’s ball

35 The broken record

36 Big shots don’t slobber

37 Never the naked thank you

Part Four: How to be an insider in any crowd

What are they all talking about?

38 Scramble therapy

39 Learn a little Gobbledygook

40 Baring their hot button

41 Read their rags

42 Clear ‘custom’

43 Bluffing for bargains

Part Five: Why, we’re just alike!

We’re like peas in a pod

44 Be a copycat

45 Echoing

46 Potent imaging

47 Employ empathizers

48 Anatomically correct empathizers

49 The premature we

50 Instant history

Part Six: The power of praise, the folly of flattery

Praise reappraised

51 Grapevine glory

52 Carrier pigeon kudos

53 Implied magnificence

54 Accidental adulation

55 The killer compliment

56 Little strokes

57 The knee-jerk ‘wow!’

58 Boomeranging

59 The tombstone game

Part Seven: Direct dial their hearts

How to be a hit in another show

60 Talking gestures

61 Name shower

62 Oh wow, it’s you!’

63 The sneaky screen

64 Salute the spouse

65 What colour is your time?

66 Constantly changing outgoing message

67 Your ten-second audition

68 The ho-hum caper

69 ‘I hear your other line’

70 Instant replay

Part Eight: How to work a party like a politician works a room

The politician’s six-point party checklist

71 Munching or mingling

72 Rubberneck the room

73 Be the chooser, not the choosee

74 Come-hither hands

75 Tracking

76 The business card dossier

77 Eyeball selling

Part Nine: Little tricks of big winners

The most treacherous glass ceiling of all

78 See no bloopers, hear no bloopers

79 Lend a helping tongue

80 Bare the buried WIIFM

81 Let ’em savour the favour

82 Tit for (wait … wait) tat

83 Parties are for pratter

84 Dinner’s for dining

85 Chance encounters are for chitchat

86 Empty their tanks

87 Echo the EMO

88 My goof, your gain

89 Leave an escape hatch

90 Buttercups for their boss

91 Lead the listeners

92 The great scorecard in the sky

A final word: Your destiny

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