Leil Lowndes - How to Make Anyone Fall in Love With You - 85 Proven Techniques for Success

To fulfil the promise of the title,

How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You offers 85 techniques based on scientific studies into the nature of romantic love.

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1. Anyone? Yes, Practically Anyone Chapter One Anyone? Yes, Practically Anyone ‘I don’t understand. I’m attractive, intelligent, sensitive, accomplished. Why doesn’t he or she fall for me? Why can’t I find love?’ How many times have you beaten your fists on the pillow asking yourself this question? You open this book sceptically, yet harbouring hope, for the solution. You read the title: How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You. ‘That’s a big promise,’ you say. Indeed, it is. But the promise of this book is yours if you are willing to follow a scientifically sound plan to capture the heart of a Potential Love Partner. Why, when history is strewn with broken hearts, do we now claim the means to make someone fall in love with us? Because, after centuries of resistance, science is finally unravelling what romantic love actually is, what triggers it, what kills it, and what makes it last. Just as ancient tribesmen saw an eclipse and thought it was black magic, we looked at love and thought it was enchantment. Sometimes, especially during those first blissful moments when we want to stop strangers on the street and cry out, ‘I’m in love!’ it may feel like enchantment, but, as we enter the 21st century, we are discovering that love is a definable and calculated blend of chemistry, biology and psychology. (And, well, maybe a little black magic thrown in.) As science sets sail in previously unknown seas, we are at last beginning to understand the rudiments of that ‘most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions’, as George Bernard Shaw described love. And what makes people want to stay in that ‘excited, abnormal and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part’? The question, and the quandary, of ‘Precisely what is love?’ is not new. It is one that has been given serious consideration throughout the ages by cerebral heavyweights like Plato, Sigmund Freud and Charlie Brown. In the darkened Broadway theatre in 1950, the audiences of South Pacific were in total harmony with Ezio Pinza when he pondered, ‘Who can explain it? Who can tell you why? Fools give you reasons. Wise men never try.’ Well, recently, many wise men and women have tried, and succeeded. Don’t blame Rodgers and Hammerstein. When they were composing romantic musicals, the scientific community was as perplexed about love as Nellie and Emile de Bacque singing their bewilderment about some enchanted evening.

Science ‘Discovers’ Sex

How More Research Was Compiled

How the Techniques Were Developed

How I Tested the Techniques

2. What Makes People Fall in Love?

1. First Impressions

2. Similar Character, Complementary Needs

3. Equity

4. Ego

5. Early-Date Gender-Menders

6. ℞ for Sex

3. The Physical Side of Falling in Love

‘Why Do My Insides Go All Funny?’

‘Does Somebody Have to be Pea-Brained to Fall in Love with Me?’

‘Why Do We Fall in Love with One Person and Not Another?’

‘How Can These Little Things Start Love?’

4. Where Are All the Good Men and Women?

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

5. Does Love at First Sight Exist?

Part One: First Impressions

6. How to Make a Dynamite First Impression

First Impressions Last Forever

Be Ready for Love – Always!

Stay Psychologically ‘Fit to Kill’

7. How to Ignite Love at First Sight

How Much Eye Contact Does it Take to Imitate Love?

How to Get Sexy ‘Bedroom Eyes’

How to Awaken Primal, Unsettling, Sexy Feelings in Your Quarry

Naughty Eyes Are So Nice

8. Your First Approach

The Gentle Art of Pickup (Not for Men Only)

Hunters, Make the First Move … Fast

Huntresses, Make the Fast Move … First

First Moves That Work for Women

9. Your First Body Language

Let Your Body Do the Talking

The Dance of Intimacy

When You Are Quarry

The Word That Can Save Your Relationship

‘But This Is So Basic!’

10. Your First Conversation

Conversation Is Making Beautiful Music Together

Conversation Is Like Making Love

Conversation Is Like Selling

How to Know What Topic Turns Your Quarry On

How to Fool Your Quarry into Thinking You Two Are Already in Love

Get Even Closer by Giving the Gift of Intimacy

Make Your Lifestyle ‘Fit’ Your Quarry’s Lovemap

11. Your First Date

The Game Begins in Earnest

‘How Soon Should I Make My Move?’

‘Playing Hard to Get – Should I, or Shouldn’t I?’

The Scientifically Proven Best First Date

Give Your Quarry First-Date Butterflies

Plant the Seeds of Similarity

First-Date Restaurant Smarts

Hunters, Some Spit and Polish for Your P’s and Q’s

Huntresses, Forgive His Foibles

First-Date Duds

‘I Haven’t Got a Thing to Wear’

Part Two: Similar Character, Complementary Needs

12. ‘It’s You and Me, Baby, Alone Against This Mad, Mad World’

Similarity … and a Touch of Difference (Just a Touch)

13. How to Establish Subconscious Similarity

How to Instantly Make Your Quarry Feel, ‘Why, We’re Just Alike!’

Words to Give Your Quarry ‘That Family Feeling’

‘We Even Speak the Same (Body) Language’

14. How to Establish Conscious Similarity

The Three Crucial Conscious Similarities

Let’s Talk About Our Relationship – Not!

15. How to Establish Complementary Needs

‘I Got Just What You Need, Sweetheart’

Part Three: Ego

16. The World Revolves Around You, My Quarry

Ego Massage Is a Highly Skilled Craft

17. Step One: Silent Praise

Let Your Body Do the Praising

18. Step Two: Empathy

‘I Can Identify with That!’

Lovers Share Intimate Details

Lovers Have Private Jokes

19. Step Three: Admiration

‘Oh, Darling, You Did an Absolutely Superb Job Slicing These Mushrooms’

20. Step Four: The Implied Compliment

‘You’re Much Too Young to Remember This, But …’

The Bull’s-Eye Booster: ‘I Just Love What You Like About Yourself’

21. Step Five: The Big Guns

‘YOU Are the Most Fascinating Person I’ve Ever Met’

‘What Does Giving a Killer Compliment Do for Me?’

22. Fine-Tuning the Ego-Machine

‘Wait a Minute. Does Everybody Like Compliments?’

Knee-Jerk Praise: ‘What You Just Did Was Fabulous’

Have the First Laugh

Lovers Give Each Other Pet Names

When Your Quarry Praises You

23. Keeping the Love Coals Warm

‘I Love the Way You Wrinkle Your Nose When You Laugh’

Part Four: Equity

24. Everybody’s Got a Market Value, Baby

Why is Finding Love Like Horse Trading?

What Currency ‘Buys’ a Good Partner?

25. How Can I Use the Equity Principle to Find Love?

‘You Really Don’t Want to Marry the Handsome Prince or the Beautiful Princess’

‘Why Don’t I Want to Get Married?’

‘What Happens if Inequity Strikes After We’re Married?’

26. How Important Are Looks?

What Types of Looks Do Women Like?

What Types of Looks Do Men Like?

‘How Can I Make My Quarry Think I’m Better Looking?’