Leil Lowndes - How to Make Anyone Fall in Love With You - 85 Proven Techniques for Success

How to Beef Up Your Odds on Making the Kill

27. Pursuing Rich and Famous Prey

The Look of Money

The Sound of Class

What Does the U Crowd Talk About?

Use Status Words with Status Prey

28. Upping Your Ante in Other Assets

Knowledge, Social Graces and Inner Beauty Are Tangible Assets

29. Help Them Convince Themselves That They Love You

Let Your Quarry Do Favours for You

Hey! What About ‘O Lyric Love, Half Angel and Half Bird’?

Part Five: Early-Date Gender-Menders

30. ‘I Hope He or She’s Not an Idiot Like All the Others’

‘I Want a Man I Can Talk to, a Woman Who Thinks Like a Man’

31. What Is ‘Man Talk’ and What Is ‘Woman Talk’? (Do They Exist?)

32. ‘How Do You Feel About That?’

33. ‘Excuse Me, Could You Tell Me Where …?’

34. ‘Please, Spare Me the Details’

35. ‘Tell Me (Don’t Tell Me) About It’

36. ‘What’s the Best Way to Get from A to B?’

‘A Straight Line!’ He Declares; ‘A Gentle Curve?’ She Asks

37. ‘Could You Give Me a Hand with This?’

38. Little Words to Win Your Quarry’s Heart

39. Are There Dangerous Waters Ahead in the Gender Gap?

Part Six: ℞ for Sex

40. Your Quarry’s Hottest Erogenous Zone

41. No Two Sexualities Are Alike, as No Two Snowflakes Are Alike

How Do Men’s and Women’s Sexual Desires Differ?

Why Are Men’s and Women’s Fantasies So Different?

Yet More Differences

How to Use Differences to Make Your Quarry Fall in Love with You

42. Forget the Golden Rule between the Sheets

Men in Lust, Women in Love

43. Hunters, Make Love to a Woman as a Woman Wants It

The One-Hour Lesson That Will Change Your Life

Another Crash Course in Steamy Sensuality for Men

44. Huntresses, Have Sex with a Man as a Man Wants It

Let’s Go to the Videotape

Additional ‘Coarse’ Materials for Your Raw Sex Curriculum

45. A Quiz: Who Loves More, Men or Women?

Who Falls in Love Faster? Men!

Who Is More Idealistic About Love? Men!

Who Usually Initiates the Break-up? Women!

Who Suffers More from a Break-up? Men!

Who Loves Their Lovers More? Men!

46. Your Quarry’s Sexual Desires Are as Individual as a Thumbprint

Sex Is Like a Steak

The Number One Sexual Wish

‘Why Did He or She Lose Interest?’

‘Is This Woman Enough for Me Sexually for the Rest of My Life?’

47. Huntresses, Become a Sexual Sleuth

Let Your Quarry Know You Are a Sexual Adventurer

Uncover His Core Fantasies

Make Your Quarry Feel Safe Sharing His Deepest Desires

The Hot Purr Follow-Up

Do All Men Have a Sexual Secret?

Ask Knock-His-Socks-Off Details Questions

Huntresses, Discover His Trigger Words

Give Your Quarry Good Bed Rap

48. Hunters, Do These Techniques Work with Women?

Peel Back Her Layers and Lay Bare Her Deeper Fantasies

Love Her as She Needs to Be Loved

Magic Words to Make Her Love You

Huntresses, Relationship Trigger Words Work for You, Too

49. Finally, Snaring the Confirmed Bachelor

Why Do Jerrys Want Such Far-Out Sex?

A Walk on the Weird Side

50. On Looking at Other Women

51. The Final Stone Unturned

Afterword

Also by Leil Lowndes

Notes

About the Author

Copyright page

About the Publisher

‘I don’t understand. I’m attractive, intelligent, sensitive, accomplished. Why doesn’t he or she fall for me? Why can’t I find love?’ How many times have you beaten your fists on the pillow asking yourself this question?

You open this book sceptically, yet harbouring hope, for the solution. You read the title: How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You.

‘That’s a big promise,’ you say. Indeed, it is. But the promise of this book is yours if you are willing to follow a scientifically sound plan to capture the heart of a Potential Love Partner.

Why, when history is strewn with broken hearts, do we now claim the means to make someone fall in love with us? Because, after centuries of resistance, science is finally unravelling what romantic love actually is, what triggers it, what kills it, and what makes it last.

Just as ancient tribesmen saw an eclipse and thought it was black magic, we looked at love and thought it was enchantment. Sometimes, especially during those first blissful moments when we want to stop strangers on the street and cry out, ‘I’m in love!’ it may feel like enchantment, but, as we enter the 21st century, we are discovering that love is a definable and calculated blend of chemistry, biology and psychology. (And, well, maybe a little black magic thrown in.)

As science sets sail in previously unknown seas, we are at last beginning to understand the rudiments of that ‘most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions’, as George Bernard Shaw described love. And what makes people want to stay in that ‘excited, abnormal and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part’? The question, and the quandary, of ‘Precisely what is love?’ is not new. It is one that has been given serious consideration throughout the ages by cerebral heavyweights like Plato, Sigmund Freud and Charlie Brown.

In the darkened Broadway theatre in 1950, the audiences of South Pacific were in total harmony with Ezio Pinza when he pondered, ‘Who can explain it? Who can tell you why? Fools give you reasons. Wise men never try.’ Well, recently, many wise men and women have tried, and succeeded. Don’t blame Rodgers and Hammerstein. When they were composing romantic musicals, the scientific community was as perplexed about love as Nellie and Emile de Bacque singing their bewilderment about some enchanted evening.

Long before Sigmund Freud tackled the subject, analytical scientific minds agreed that love was basic to the human experience. But their rational brains also deemed that evaluating, classifying and defining romantic love was impossible and therefore a waste of time and money. Freud went to his deathbed declaring, ‘We really know very little about love.’

His dying words remained the scientific doctrine. At least until the early 1970s when a pioneer-spirited band of social psychologists took up the scientists’ constant cries of ‘why?’ and ‘how?’ They began asking themselves – and everybody they could lure into their laboratories – questions about romantic love.

Two women psychologists made a breakthrough by inadvertently focusing the attention of the modern press on the ancient question of ‘What is love?’ Ellen Berscheid, PhD, with a colleague, Elaine Hatfield, managed to wangle an $84,000 federal grant to study romantic love. Berscheid convinced the National Science Foundation to open its coffers by declaring, ‘We already understand the mating habits of the stickleback fish. It is time to turn to a new species.’

Berscheid’s study, like others before, might have gone unnoticed and unpublished, except for a dozen or so pages in an obscure professional journal. Fortunately for love-seekers everywhere, one morning on Capitol Hill former United States Senator William Proxmire of Wisconsin was going through his papers. Buried deep in the pile was the NSF’S frivolous grant to two women to study relationships.

Proxmire hit the dome! Eighty-four thousand dollars to study what? He dashed off an explosive press release announcement that romantic love was not a science and, furthermore, he roared, ‘National Science Foundation, get out of the love racket. Leave that to Elizabeth Barrett Browning and Irving Berlin.’ Proxmire then added a personal note: ‘I’m also against it because I don’t want the answer.’ He assumed everyone felt the same. How wrong he was!