Barbara Angelis - The 100 Most Asked Questions About Love, Sex and Relationships

I humbly dedicate this bookTo my beloved Teacher,Whose Light has kindled my own,Whose Love has made me whole,And Who, in a sublime and miraculous instant,Answered all my questionsBy revealing the Truth to me.

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Dedication I humbly dedicate this bookTo my beloved Teacher,Whose Light has kindled my own,Whose Love has made me whole,And Who, in a sublime and miraculous instant,Answered all my questionsBy revealing the Truth to me.

Dear Reader

Love and Intimacy

1 How do you convince a workaholic partner to put more time and energy into a marriage?

2 Is it natural for the passion to disappear after years of marriage?

3 If a relationship takes a lot of work, does that mean something is wrong with it?

4 How do you deal with a partner who is a flirt?

5 How can I stop mothering my husband?

6 How can I help my partner break through the emotional barriers she put up because of her painful childhood?

7 Is it possible to “fall back in love” with someone after years of feeling dead and disinterested?

8 How can I get my husband to pay as much attention to me as he does to our children?

9 How should you handle a partner who smothers you with too much love and affection and is too possessive?

10 How can a couple learn to trust love when they’ve both been badly hurt in past relationships?

11 What does it mean when your partner won’t introduce you to his family and friends?

12 How do you heal old emotional hurts from the past so you can have a healthy relationship with your partner?

13 How important is sexual chemistry in a relationship? If it’s not there in the beginning, will it develop over time?

14 How do you motivate someone to want to change and open up emotionally?

Compatibility

15 Why am I only attracted to the wrong, “bad boy” type of man, and feel no sexual chemistry with the “nice guys”?

16 Can a relationship work when you’re in love with your partner’s potential?

17 Is there such a thing as being too “picky” when choosing partners?

18 Can long-distance relationships work?

19 How important are cultural differences in a relationship?

20 Is it damaging to a relationship when one partner is still controlled by his parents?

21 Why do I always fall in love with people who need rescuing?

22 Can a big age difference between two people hurt the relationship?

23 Can a relationship with an addict (drugs, alcohol, etc.) work?

24 Why do I keep choosing unavailable partners?

25 What signs should I look for in the beginning of a relationship to make sure I don’t end up with someone who’s bad for me?

26 Can you ever be 100 percent sure that someone you’re with is the right one for you? What qualities should you look for in a partner?

Commitment

27 How long should you wait for a partner to make a commitment?

28 How soon in a relationship should you expect a commitment from your partner?

29 Should you stay with someone who isn’t over his ex-partner?

30 Is it right to stay with someone even when you know inside she’s not the right one for you?

31 How can you tell if someone is really committed to the relationship?

32 How can I tell if I have “commitment phobia”?

33 Is there such a thing as falling in love too quickly? What does it mean if a person experiences this often?

34 Should you wait until you are 100 percent sure that someone is right for you before you make a lifelong commitment?

35 Should a couple live together before marriage?

Communication and Conflict

36 How can I get my partner to express his feelings to me?

37 What do you do with a husband who refuses to discuss problems or work on the relationship?

38 How can I get over my fear of conflict and be more honest with my partner?

39 How important is it for a couple to be totally honest with one another? Is there such a thing as too much honesty?

40 How can I learn to control my temper?

41 Why do my wife and I fight all the time? How can we stop?

42 What can I do about a partner who is mean?

43 How do I deal with a partner who is physically abusive?

44 What does it mean if a couple never fights? Can this hurt a relationship?

45 How can I ask my partner for what I need without sounding like I’m being too demanding?

46 How do you handle a partner who is very critical of you?

47 Is there a way to detect symptoms of trouble in your relationship so you can solve the problems before they get too serious?

48 Is it possible to have a good marriage when your partner is a control freak?

49 Should you tell your mate bad things from your past even if you’re afraid it will hurt the relationship?

50 Shouldn’t my partner understand how I want him to love me without my having to explain it all the time?

51 Why do men hate talking about emotional issues late at night?

Sex and Physical Affection

52 How can I get my partner to give me more physical affection when we’re not having sex?

53 How can I get my partner to initiate sex more, instead of waiting for me to always be the one who wants it?

54 Is it okay to have sexual fantasies about someone else when you’re making love to your own partner?

55 What should a couple do when one wants to have sex much more often than the other?

56 Why can’t my wife just have spontaneous sex sometimes?

57 When is the right time to start being sexually intimate with a new partner?

58 Is it possible for a couple to rediscover their sexual desire for one another after it has disappeared?

59 How can a couple with children maintain a spontaneous, exciting sex life?

60 How can I overcome some childhood sexual trauma and have a normal sex life?

61 How can I tell my partner I don’t like the way he makes love to me?

62 Why is it that men don’t know how to touch women the right way and in the right places?

63 Why do men experience premature ejaculation?

64 Is it okay for my husband to look at porno magazines?

65 How can I get my partner to slow down during sex?

66 How can I get my partner to do more than just lie there during sex?

67 How can I learn to have an orgasm when my partner and I make love? What does it mean if I can’t?

68 How can I get my wife to give me more oral sex?

69 What can I do to really please my husband in bed?

Cheating and Infidelity

70 How should you deal with a cheating partner who denies having an affair?

71 Should you give a cheating partner another chance?

72 Do one night stands mean anything?

73 Should you continue an affair with a married man who won’t leave his wife?

74 After your partner has an affair, should you just forgive and forget? How do you learn to trust again?

75 Is it acceptable for a cheating partner to still see the person she cheated with after the affair is over?

76 Is there such a thing as an emotional affair? Is it as bad as a sexual affair?