Адам Грант - План Б - Как пережить несчастье, собраться с силами и снова ощутить радость жизни

во многих странах:Kevin Kinsella and Victoria Averil Velkoff, "An Aging World: 2001," U.S. Census Bureau, Series P95/01-1 (Washington, D.C.: Government Printing Office, 2001).

В некоторых районах Индии: Nilanjana Bhowmick, "If You're an Indian Widow, Your Children Could Kick You Out and Take Everything," Time , October 7, 2013: http://world.time.com/2013/10/07/if-youre-an-indian-widow-your-children-could-kick-you-out-and-take-everything/.

В некоторых нигерийских деревнях: Osai Ojigho, "Scrape Her Head and Lay Her Bare: Widowhood Practices and Culture," Gender Across Borders , October 28, 2011: www.genderacrossborders.com/2011/10/28/scrape-her-head-and-lay-her-bare-widowhood-practices-and-culture/.

Дискриминацию вдов отмечают: Haider Rizvi, "RIGHTS: Mistreatment of Widows a Poorly Kept Secret," IPS, June 23, 2008: www.ipsnews.net/2008/06/rights-mistreatment-of-widows-a-poorly-kept-secret/.

Во многих странах вдовам сложно: Mary Kimani, "Women Struggle to Secure Land Rights," Africa Renewal , April 2008: www.un.org/africarenewal/magazine/april-2008/women-struggle-secure-land-rights; UN Women, "Empowering Widows: An Overview of Policies and Programs in India, Nepal and Sri Lanka," по состоянию на 15 декабря 2016 г.: www.2unwomen.org/~/media/field%20office%20eseasia/docs/publications/2015/09/final_empowering%20widows_report%202014.pdf?v=1&d=20150908T104700.

блог Абеля Кеоха: www.abelkeogh.com/blog.

При сканировании мозга влюбленных людей: См.: Arthur Aron, Helen Fisher, Debra J. Mashek, et al., "Reward, Motivation, and Emotion Systems Associated with Early-Stage Intense Romantic Love," Journal of Neurophysiology 94 (2005): 327–37; Helen Fisher, Arthur Aron, and Lucy L. Brown, "Romantic Love: An fMRI Study of a Neural Mechanism for Mate Choice," The Journal of Comparative Neurology 493 (2005): 58–62.

Когда мы влюбляемся: Arthur Aron, Meg Paris, and Elaine N. Aron, "Falling in Love: Prospective Studies of Self-Concept Change," Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 69 (1995): 1102–12; Elaine N. Aron and Arthur Aron, "Love and the Expansion of the Self: The State of the Model," Personal Relationships 3 (1996): 45–58.

После операций пациенты, которые смотрят комедии: James Rotton and Mark Shats, "Effects of State Humor, Expectancies, and Choice on Postsurgical Mood and Self-Medication: A Field Experiment," Journal of Applied Social Psychology 26 (1996): 1775–94. Это происходит в тех случаях, когда они знают о положительном влиянии юмора на здоровье и сами выбирают фильм.

Солдаты, которые любят пошутить: Smadar Bizi, Giora Keinan, and Benjamin Beit-Hallahmi, "Humor and Coping with Stress: A Test Under Real-Life Conditions," Personality and Individual Differences 9 (1988): 951–56.

Люди, способные смеяться: Dacher Keltner and George A. Bonanno, "A Study of Laughter and Dissociation: Distinct Correlates of Laughter and Smiling During Bereavement," Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 73 (1997): 687–702.

У пар, которые смеются вместе: John Mordechai Gottman and Robert Wayne Levenson, "The Timing of Divorce: Predicting When a Couple Will Divorce over a 14-Year Period," Journal of Marriage and Family 62 (2000): 737–45.

юмор понижает частоту сердечных сокращений: Michelle Gayle Newman and Arthur A. Stone, "Does Humor Moderate the Effects of Experimentally-Induced Stress?" Annals of Behavioral Medicine 18 (1996): 101–9.

«если вы можете сделать их нелепыми»: Mel Brooks, цит. по: Forrest Wickman, "Watch the New Documentary About Mel Brooks," Slate , May 28, 2013: www.slate.com/blogs/browbeat/2013/05/28/_mel_brooks_make_a_noise_the_pbs_american_masters_documentary_is_now_available.html.

Шутки – обычное дело на похоронах: Blake E. Ashforth and Glen E. Kreiner, " 'How Can You Do It?' Dirty Work and the Challenge of Constructing a Positive Identity," Academy of Management Review 24 (1999): 413–34.

«Он вовсе не потерялся»: "Tragicomedia with Comic Janice Messitte on Being a Newly Wedded Widow," Art for Your Sake , March 20, 2014: http://artforyoursake.com/tragicomedia-with-comic-janice-messitte-on-being-a-newly-wedded-widow/.

«Смерть – это конец жизни»: Robert Woodruff Anderson, I Never Sang for My Father (New York: Random House, 1968).

когда люди влюбляются: Anita L. Vangelisti and Daniel Perlman, eds., The Cambridge Handbook of Personal Relationships (New York: Cambridge University Press, 2006).

сто тридцать пар новобрачных пригласили: John M. Gottman, James Coan, Sybil Carrere, and Catherine Swanson, "Predicting Marital Happiness and Stability from Newlywed Interactions," Journal of Marriage and Family 60 (1998): 5–22; John Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (New York: Three Rivers Press, 2000).

определяет стойкие отношения: Jane E. Dutton and Emily Heaphy, "The Power of High-Quality Connections," in Positive Organizational Scholarship: Foundations of a New Discipline , ed. Kim S. Cameron, Jane E. Dutton, and Robert E. Quinn (San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler, 2003).

пары нередко замечают, что огонек угас: Arthur Aron, Christina C. Norman, Elaine N. Aron, et al., "Couples' Shared Participation in Novel and Arousing Activities and Experienced Relationship Quality," Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 78 (2000): 273–84.

В парах, чей брак сохранился: John M. Gottman, Janice Driver, and Amber Tabares, "Repair During Marital Conflict in Newlyweds: How Couples Move from Attack-Defend to Collaboration," Journal of Family Psychotherapy 26 (2015): 85–108.

Всего трех записей, на каждую из которых отводилось семь минут: Eli J. Finkel, Erica B. Slotter, Laura B. Luchies, et al., "A Brief Intervention to Promote Conflict Reappraisal Preserves Marital Quality over Time," Psychological Science 24 (2013): 1595–601.

«Я не буду шокировать вас»: Allen Rucker, The Best Seat in the House: How I Woke Up One Tuesday and Was Paralyzed for Life (New York: Harper-Collins, 2007).

1. «Нет, это слон»: J. B. Handelsman, The New Yorker Collection / The Cartoon Bank.

2. Карточки эмпатии использованы с разрешения Emily McDowell Studio.

3. «Странно, я здесь, в комнате, но никто этого не признает»: Leo Cullum, The New Yorker Collection / The Cartoon Bank.

4. «Джошуа и Кейла», Тимоти Чамберс.

5. Доска сожалений: "We Asked People to Tell Us Their Biggest Regrets – But What They All Had in Common Was Heartbreaking," A Plus , January 22, 2016: http://aplus.com/a/clean-slate-blackboard-experiment.