Diana Richardson - Tantric Sex for Men

them to drop down a few inches. Continue on down through your body, taking particular care with

classic tension spots such as the solar plexus (take a deep and conscious breath here), let go of the

belly, relax the buttocks, and release the anus.

Breathe gently and deeply through the diaphragm and into the belly, infusing the floor of the pelvis

with vitality. Maintain awareness of your breathing whenever possible and for as long as possible.

Whenever you find your attention drifting, shift back to your own body and breath. Keep scanning

upward and downward and notice where (and how easily) habitual tensions reassert themselves, and

relax! Make scanning and consciously relaxing tense parts an ongoing process. Notice how every “let

go” is usually followed by a sense of inner cellular expansion. Men report that consciously relaxing

the anus and buttocks repeatedly while making love reduces the pressure to ejaculate. More “space”

is created internally, and the life force is able to circulate and expand through the rest of the body.

Position for Rest and Relaxation

Aligning Your Spine for Presence, Awareness, and Sensitivity

The ideal horizontal position for relaxation is with the head, neck, and spine aligned in one straight

line, not even a few millimeters out of alignment, and with the head centered and not rolled to one

side. Your legs should be straight and slightly apart, and the ankles should not be crossed. Place a

narrow, soft pillow (or rolled blanket) directly under the crease behind the knees to create a slight

curving and softening of the knee joint. Place a flat, firm, small pillow (or folded towel) under your

head. Tuck your chin to your chest and straighten your neck before placing the pillow in position. The

pillow should support the lengthening stretch of your spine so there is not too much of a curve in the

neck. If the chin is pointing almost directly upward and not tilted toward the chest, use a slightly

deeper pillow (or give the towel another fold) to lift the head an additional few inches and create

length, which reduces the curve in the neck and brings the level of the chin down. Place your open

hands palm down on the groin area, on either side of your pubic bone. Allow your breathing to

become deep and slow. Scan the body and relax tensions. Rest quietly with your eyes softly closed

for at least twenty minutes, holding awareness in your body generally, or in the home in your body as

discovered in the first exercise.

Tantric Meditation

Peace Pervading Armpits

Lie in a relaxed position, as suggested in the alignment exercise above, for twenty minutes or more.

Close your eyes, taking your awareness into your body. Start just between the two armpits and with

your total attention “pervade an area between the armpits into great peace.” Forget your whole body;

remember the heart area between the two armpits and your chest, and feel it filled with great peace.

When the body is more relaxed, peace automatically happens in your heart; it becomes more silent

and harmonious. Done frequently, this practice will establish peace within you and make you feel

more independent, and love will be more of a giving; you’ll have so much peace, you’ll want to share

it. You will be returning to a source in yourself that is always there.

Extending Awareness of the Physical and Energetic Bodies

Tantric Meditation for Growing in Consciousness

As you lie in the aligned position already described, you can deepen your experience by closing your

eyes and imagining yourself looking backward into your body. Imagine that vision is reversed and

your eyes can look inward and downward into yourself, even as far as your genitals. Breathe deeply

and slowly into your belly, as if the breath is massaging your insides and touching your genitals.

Continually pull your attention back into your body and use the subtle sensations in it as an anchor.

Deliberately disconnect from distracting thoughts when they pop into your mind. Let them float away,

and instead return home and immerse yourself in the body so that you feel a sense of resting deep

within. The sensation of being submerged in yourself. Travel with your awareness to any places in the

body that are tingling, pleasant, alive, or warm, or where fine vibrations are present, and be with

them, dissolve into them. Notice how inner sensations expand when you take the time to feel and

acknowledge them.

At a certain point, once the practice of immersing into and merging with your senses takes root, the

feeling of your having physical boundaries will disappear; you will feel as if you dissolve and

become as light as a feather, bathed in golden light, floating suspended in the universe. You are, but

you are not. In this way you can grow in consciousness until every cell is penetrated with light. The

moment consciousness touches the cells, they are different. The very quality of the cells changes.

Sensuality is gradually awakened as consciousness filters through the body.

You can set a clock alarm for the amount of time you wish to devote to the experience, or you may

leave it up to your inner clock to spontaneously return you to normal consciousness, with the sense of

having lost all track of time. You are likely to notice that afterward you feel refreshed and

rejuvenated, as though you have had a drink directly from the source of life. It is also beneficial to

practice this meditation before sleeping at night and at any time during the day when you need to

recharge your energy.

Awakening the Rod of Magnetism

Bringing Attention from the Head to the Perineum

This visualization will help you shift attention away from the head of the penis, where it goes

automatically because it is there that intense pleasure is experienced. Envision your penis as a

channel or conduit, and refocus your attention on the base of your penis, in the area of the perineum.

The perineum, a small, coin-sized area of knotty muscle lying directly in front of the anus, is virtually

the root of the penis and is its energetic source. It is where the muscles and tissues that form the penis

initially emerge from your body. Begin to visualize your penis as a channel for potency, warmth, and

love. Imagine it to be a wand or fountain of light and liquid gold that emanates from the perinium and

streams along its length.

When you begin to make love and feel the heat rising, bring your attention to the perineum.

Consciously relax the entire area, including the anus. When you notice your attention start to drift—

there are, after all, abundant distractions—you may notice that the pelvic floor area once again

contracts and tightens. Repeatedly relaxing the anus and maintaining awareness of the base, the

perinium, will give you an inner feeling of your penis as a complete unit, rather than a disembodied

tool for thrusting. It instead becomes a divine instrument capable of channeling subtle energies that

flow or stream from the root upward to the radiant head and beyond into your receptive partner. Be

aware of your breath and of the subtle sensations deep within your physical core as your inner rod of