Diana Richardson - Tantric Sex for Men

loving embrace, looking into each other’s eyes, and sharing joy about life and about this moment cause me to laugh and

cry simultaneously. It is coming from a deep place. I feel it streaming through my heart as it opens and laughs, closes

down, and starts to cry.

Now I am sitting here and my heart is wide open, and in this moment I feel in touch with the silence, the joy, the love.

Here, I also feel like opening and sharing it. Slowly the pain about things I did not do, about the love that was not

expressed, dissolves. Yes, I am bringing light into the darkness, into the fear, and it is disappearing. Now I also

understand that you can show me the way, but I have to walk it. Yes, I am walking, and sensing, and enjoying. Life is so

beautiful and I am a part of it.

LETTER SHARING (MAN)

Finding a Deeper Connection

The days with you have been a refinement for us on all levels. Our lovemaking has become slower, more energetic, and

less athletic. I did not have any physical discomfort with conventional sex, but often felt energetic conflict before, during,

and after the sex, which had led to weird moodiness.

Now that we have become more conscious and slow, I feel more balanced, ever more often finding that relaxed,

flowing, powerful quality of being that I have always looked for on other paths, but never found so easily and naturally.

In our hearts we are more deeply and softly connected with each other, while on the level of personality there is more

space between us, which reduces the emotions.

LETTER SHARING (WOMAN)

Making Time for Breasts

Over Christmas and New Years we had a difficult time. I was not really centered and our old issues about closeness and

distance resurfaced. Many emotions came up and it was not easy to get out of them. We had a shift and then we had an

extra long, very relaxing time. Tantra has become a familiar form of lovemaking, and for me it is a beautiful key to come

into my body, open up, and connect. If we succeed in meeting in the cool love-zone and really drop into it and connect

there, I feel very nourished on a deep level and I am in bliss.

I experience our encounters as always different and sometimes very intense. I feel a lot and I’ve ridden the waves of

energy. And then sometimes it is totally different, subtle, and relaxed. I feel very clearly how my body responds, opens,

and relaxes on a cellular level, and sometimes this happens when we are simply connected, as if that is the call for

relaxation. Hot love is still an issue, and if I succeed in engaging with it, staying in contact with myself, my energy, and

mostly with my heart, I do enjoy this as well. The afterward time is our teacher, a beautiful experience.

I am just reading your book for women and I thank you here for it. It is really good to get background information

that relates to my experiences, or to let myself be inspired by the exercises and explore them. I’m giving more attention to

my breasts and I’m very happy to experiment alone with myself or during lovemaking. I have made extra time in my

calendar for my breasts, and I want to deepen the connection.

LETTER SHARING (MAN)

Happy to Be Present

It was a revelation for me to finally find out how I can integrate spirituality in my relationship and my sexuality, and

thereby heal myself and my partner.

I feel as if I arrive much more at home, and as if I found my true calling: to learn and live playfully and joyfully, and

to share how we love and find fulfillment on Earth, thereby overcoming separation and freeing ourselves from the

illusion of the ego.

It was an important part of my healing to watch how loving and respectful you two are with each other. Since I

originally come from a family within which an extreme amount of fighting went on, it was very healing to see how love

and respect can be practiced between a man and a woman, if we learn to understand our deeper essence. My

relationship has become much deeper and more fulfilling. I am free of performance pressure and happy to see and live

my part as a man—to be present.

LETTER SHARING (WOMAN)

You Have to Make a Lot of Love

I keep remembering your advice. When I said good-bye I was in great fear that at home everything would be different,

and that all our problems would come up again. You felt my fear and said, “You have to make a lot of love.” I did so, and

something wonderful happened. My husband is more loving, mellower, and more tender in his whole being. The wrinkles

in his face have disappeared and his skin is very soft. I believe that he let go of his difficult upbringing and conditioning

during that week. I am very grateful that you guided us on this beautiful and sunny path. That’s exactly what we have

been looking for after our thirty-nine years of marriage.

LETTER SHARING (MAN)

The Bliss of Full-body Orgasm

For our love session (during the seminar) we retreated to our bungalow, which helped us to explore a totally new and

healing closeness, and a new expression of our love. Since the beginning of the seminar we had been in close contact

with our emotions and feelings, and we felt much more porous and sensitive than before the course. After a shower we

cuddled and rested for about twenty minutes in deep relaxation. We looked long and deeply into each other’s eyes. Then

we put ourselves in the scissors position and connected without having an erection, and without feeling any lust.

We closed our eyes and took a deep breath in the direction of our genitals, while each of us tuned in to the inner

polarity—calmly, without expecting or intending anything. After a while my woman felt very fine, short pulses of lust. My

soft penis started pulsing very softly in her vagina. We both did not move. As we looked into each other’s eyes, I felt as if

the energy circuit between us had completed. We felt a ball of energy in our genitals. I could not tell anymore where my

being, my penis, stopped, and where she started. Penis and vagina felt like one shared whole, like pure energy. Warm

waves were running through my body and I thought, “This is it what it means to melt into each other.”

We sensed subtle energies pulling my penis deeper inside her. She felt soft and velvety, both of us pulsing softly with

each other. My penis curled deeper and deeper into her vagina, without my moving at all. We both experienced a new