Ellen Fein - The Rules 2 - More Rules to Live and Love By

MORE RULES TO LIVE AND LOVE BY

Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider

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Title Page The Rules 2 MORE RULES TO LIVE AND LOVE BY Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider

Foreword: The Rules Phenomenon

Chapter 1: Why The Rules Work

Chapter 2: Rules for Turning a Friend Into a Boyfriend

Chapter 3: Second Chances— Rules for Getting Back an Ex

Chapter 4: Don’t Waste Time on Fantasy Relationships

Chapter 5: Don’t Stand by His Desk and Other Rules for the Office Romance

Chapter 6: Long-Distance Relationships. Part I: How They Should Start

Chapter 7: Long-Distance Relationships. Part II: Making It Work

Chapter 8: You Can Ask Your Therapist to Help You Do The Rules

Chapter 9: If He Doesn’t Call, He’s Not That Interested. Period!

Chapter 10: 25 Reasons Why Women Want to Call Men But Shouldn’t!

Chapter 11: Show Up Even If You Don’t Feel Like It

Chapter 12: Keep Doing The Rules Even When Things Are Slow

Chapter 13: Don’t Tell the Media About Your Love Life and Other Rules for Celebrities

Chapter 14: Don’t Be a Groupie and Other Rules for Dating Celebrities or High-Profile Men

Chapter 15: Observe His Behavior on the Holidays

Chapter 16: Don’t Go Overboard and Other Rules for Giving to Men

Chapter 17: Buyer Beware (Weeding out Mr. Wrong)!

Chapter 18: Closing the Deal (Getting Him to the Altar)

Chapter 19: Don’t Be the Rebound Girl and Other Rules for Dating a Man Who Is Separated

Chapter 20: A Rules Refresher for Married Women

Chapter 21: Rules for the Bedroom (When You’re Married)

Chapter 22: Starting Over— Rules for the Mature Woman

Chapter 23: Rules for Same-Sex Relationships

Chapter 24: Rules for Personal Ads and Dating Services

Chapter 25: Rules for On-line Dating

Chapter 26: Use a Rules Support Group

Chapter 27: Rules for Girlfriends, Bosses/Coworkers, and Children

Chapter 28: Don’t Worry, Even Men Like The Rules

Chapter 29: Rules Tips for Men

Chapter 30: The Rules Are a Healthy Way of Life

Chapter 31: Success Stories: Women Who Followed The Rules and Changed Their Lives!

Chapter 32: Last But Not Least—20 Extra Hints

Chapter 33: Answers to Frequently Asked Questions About The Rules

Acknowledgements

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About the Publisher

Four years ago, when we set out to write The Rules, we knew that we had an important message to share. We believed in The Rules. We had seen them work time and time again in our own lives, in our close circle of girlfriends and an ever-widening circle of friends and acquaintances, as well as coworkers and relatives.

When our phones began ringing off the hook with dating questions and (eventually) success stories, we knew we had to write The Rules in book form to make it available to all women.

Lo and behold, The Rules became not just a best-selling book, but a phenomenon, revolutionizing dating practices both here in America and abroad.

In fact, The Rules became so popular that it achieved a kind of pop culture status. It was spoofed on Saturday Night Live (“Get the ring!”), used as the plot for several TV sitcoms, and also inspired a number of parody books including Breaking the Rules (“Stare straight at men and talk incessantly”) and Rules for Cats (“Don’t accept a trip to the vet after Wednesday”).

Suddenly, The Rules was everywhere! A financial publication ran an article on the rules for investing (“Don’t buy on Friday if your broker calls after Wednesday”) and a political columnist wrote that one presidential candidate might have won the election if he had just tried to be a “creature unlike any other.”

Why all the fuss? Why all the interest in The Rules when there are dozens of other dating books on the market? Why has The Rules become such a phenomenon?

The answer is simple: The Rules work! Unlike other dating books that are therapeutic and theoretical—that sound good, that give warm ’n fuzzy, meaningless, and misleading advice such as be yourself, don’t play games, tell a man how you feel, but don’t work in real life— The Rules tell the truth about dating and help you get Mr. Right!

The Rules take the analysis and angst out of dating. It’s simple. If he calls you, he likes you. If he doesn’t, Next! What does be yourself mean if that’s calling a man three times a day or staying on the phone for three hours? Why would anyone want to read a dating book that didn’t help you get the man you want to marry you?

Many people ask how we wrote a best-seller. To be honest, we were not trying to. We wrote The Rules to help women date with self-esteem and get married. Period.

While we are naturally thrilled by the success of the book, what’s been even more rewarding is seeing how women of all ages and all walks of life use The Rules to love themselves and marry Mr. Right. After three decades of haphazard dating—dutch treat, sex on the first date, and living together—these women are delighted that such a dating book exists.

“I wish I had known about The Rules ten years ago,” is the most frequent comment we hear.

“ The Rules should be given out to all women at birth,” wrote another Rules fan.

The book hit a chord not only with single women in their twenties, thirties, and forties, but with mothers and grandmothers. “She won’t listen to me, maybe she’ll listen to you,” wrote one mom. Another mom told us she gave the book to her daughter and her daughter’s friends.

While many readers thanked us for the general guidelines provided in The Rules, just as many wrote and called asking for more specific answers to dating situations and problems—for example, rules for long-distance relationships, rules for getting back an ex-boyfriend, rules for dating a celebrity, rules for dating a coworker, rules for turning a male friend into a boyfriend, rules for dating services and on-line dating, and for advice on how to start a Rules support group, among many other topics.

We wrote The Rules II to answer all these questions—and to clarify any confusion you might have about rules in the first book, such as, “How will he know the real me if I do The Rules ?” and “Can I ever call a man?”

We have included some success stories in The Rules II that we hope will inspire you to do The Rules. We hope to publish many more—perhaps yours!—in the future.

We look forward to your comments, questions, success stories, and wedding invitations!

Ellen and Sherrie