Ellen Fein - The Rules - How to Capture the Heart of Mr Right

The Rules

TIME-TESTED SECRETS FOR

CAPTURING THE HEART OF MR RIGHT

Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider

To our wonderful husbands and great kids

Special thanks to Connie Clausen, Anne Hamilton and Myndie Friedman

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Title Page The Rules TIME-TESTED SECRETS FOR CAPTURING THE HEART OF MR RIGHT Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider

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The Rules -at-a-Glance

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N o one seems to remember exactly how The Rules got started, but we think they began circa 1917 with Melanie’s grandmother who made men wait nervously in her parents’ front room in a small suburb of Michigan. Back then, they called it “playing hard to get.” Whatever you call it, she had more marriage proposals than shoes. Grandma passed on her know-how to Melanie’s mother, who passed it on to Melanie. It had been a family treasure for nearly a century. But when Melanie got married in 1981, she freely offered this old-fashioned advice to her single college friends and co-workers, like us.

At first, Melanie whispered The Rules. After all, modern women aren’t to talk loudly about wanting to get married. We had grown up dreaming about being the president of the company, not the wife of the president. So, we quietly passed The Rules on from friend to friend, somewhat embarrassed because they seemed so, well, ’50s. Still, we had to face it: as much as we loved being powerful in business, for most of us, that just wasn’t enough. Like our mothers and grandmothers before us, we also wanted husbands who would be our best friends. Deep inside, if the truth be told, we really wanted to get married—the romance, the gown, the flowers, the presents, the honeymoon—the whole package. We didn’t want to give up our liberation, but neither did we want to come home to empty apartments. Who said we couldn’t have it all?

If you think The Rules are crazy, don’t worry, so did we. But after much heartache we came to believe that The Rules aren’t immoral or outlandish, just a simple working set of behaviors and reactions that, when followed, invariably serve to make most women irresistible to desirable men. Why not admit it? We needed The Rules! Nineties women simply have not been schooled in the basics— The Rules of finding a husband or at least being very popular with men.

Soon, we got bolder and began to talk louder. These Rules —they worked! Although they were old-fashioned and unflinching, they were extremely effective!