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Find your way back to happiness from wherever you are with self-help guru Barbara De Angelis.• We all encounter unforeseen obstacles in our lives, as a relationship or a job we were counting on vanishes. This book will teach you how to escape the past and navigate the unexpected to find a life of more purpose, contentment and joy.• Even when a person’s life seems perfect from the outside, they can often feel dissatisfied; that there is a gap between the life they mapped out and the life they ended up with. Bestselling author Barbara De Angelis teaches us how to combat this feeling.• Discover how to deal with personal crisis, both dramatic and gradual, including divorce, unemployment, boredom and restlessness.• If you have realised that the life you have doesn’t fulfil you, this book gives you the practical tools, wisdom and inspiration to turn it around.

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Barbara

De Angelis Ph.D.

HOW DID I GET HERE?

Navigating the

Unexpected Turns

in Love and Life

How Did I Get Here Navigating the unexpected turns in love and life - изображение 1

In memory of Luna my moon goddess my ancient friend my love teacher

CONTENTS

Cover

Title Page Barbara De Angelis Ph.D. HOW DID I GET HERE? Navigating the Unexpected Turns in Love and Life

Introduction

Part 1: How Did You Get Here?

1: Digging Deep for Wisdom

2: Turning Points, Transitions and Wake-up Calls

3: Getting Lost on the Way to Happiness

4: Playing Hide-and-Seek with the Truth

5: Turning Off and Freezing Up

6: Will the Real Me Please Stand Up?

Part 2: Navigating Your Way Through the Unexpected

7: From Confusion to Clarity, From Awakening to Action

8: Mourning the Life You Thought You d Have

9: Proceeding Without a Map

Part 3: Roads to Awakening

10: Finding Your Way Back to Passion

11: Coming into Your Wisdom Time

12: Arriving at the Placeless Place

Acknowledgments

A Special Invitation from Barbara De Angelis

About the Author

Also by Barbara De Angelis

Copyright

About the Publisher

Introduction

I don’t know a soul who’s not been battered Don’t have a friend who feels at ease Don’t know a dream that’s not been shattered Or driven to its knees.

—Paul Simon, “American Tune”

All of us find ourselves, at one time or another in our lives, facing the unexpected. We arrive at places we never planned to be, confronting obstacles we did not expect to encounter, feeling emotions we did not expect to feel. We don’t recognize the destination at which we find ourselves as one we chose to travel to, yet, inexplicably, there we are. Somehow our plan for how we intended things to turn out seems to have been replaced by a set of circumstances we could never have imagined, let alone wished for:

A relationship we thought would last forever ends, and we are suddenly and painfully alone.

A job we counted on vanishes, and we feel lost, with no purpose or direction.

Our health or that of a loved one, which has always been good, becomes threatened by illness or disease.

Events beyond our control destroy our financial well-being.

Or perhaps a moment comes when we see our life as it really is instead of seeing it as we want it to be. To our great dismay, we realize that it is time for a change:

Our relationship has become passionless, and sex is something we remember doing months or even years ago.

Our job has turned into something we are utterly bored with or, worse, that we dread.

We have the house, the family and the business for which we worked so hard, but somehow we feel a sense of deep dissatisfaction and disconnection.

What is happening? We are standing face to face with what amounts to a gap— the gap between where we thought we’d be and where we actually are, between our expectations of what we hoped would happen and what has actually happened, between the life we planned and the life we inhabit.

What makes these moments so difficult and disturbing is not simply that we are facing problems or emotionally rough times. Each of us has braved, battled and survived many challenges in our lives. What’s different about these particular experiences is that along with the pain there is a sense of bewilderment, a sort of shock, a disconnect between what we thought we knew to be true and what is actually occurring. We feel as if we are waking up as a stranger in our own lives. We don’t recognize the landscape, the emotions, the circumstances as anything vaguely resembling those things we had expected. And so we find ourselves asking: “How did I get here?” No immediate answer comes to us. It is the presence of this question and the absence of answers that plunges us headfirst into a spiritual and emotional crisis.

“Last month my husband told me he wants a divorce. After fifteen years of marriage, it’s over. I can’t believe I am losing him, that our family is being torn apart. The house, our friends and the life we built—it’s all going to vanish. I am so furious at him for destroying my dream. What am I supposed to do now? How can this be happening to me? How did I get here?”

“I’ve been dreading going to work for a while now, and I finally admitted the truth to myself: I’m miserable because I hate what I do for a living. I don’t understand how this can be happening—I spent years in medical school studying to be a doctor, and I have a really successful practice. This is what I planned to do since I was a teenager, and I’m good at it. But I just don’t want to do it anymore. I’m really frightened—I can’t start over at fifty-six with two kids in college. How did I get here?”

“I just bought my first house, but it’s thrown me into a deep depression—I’m forty-two years old and still single, and here I am living alone in this beautiful home. This is not the way things were supposed to turn out for me. I was supposed to be with the man of my dreams and have had children by now. How did I get here?”

“From the outside, my marriage looks perfect. I have a wonderful, successful husband and two terrific kids. But I feel like I have this awful secret—my husband and I haven’t had sex in two years. Somewhere along the way, we lost our passion. Now we’re living like two polite but celibate roommates. I’m too young to have no sex life. How did I get here?”

Perhaps as you read this now, the same question resonates with something inside you. Perhaps it is a question that has not yet been formed into words in your consciousness. Perhaps it is more of a feeling, an unnamed anxiety, an undefined restlessness, a confusing sense of discomfort with your life, your work or your relationship. Something doesn’t feel quite right, but you don’t know what it is.

Or perhaps there is no mystery about what is bothering you. Perhaps like the people quoted here, you, too, are facing an unexpected turn on your life journey. You remember starting out with a clear idea of where you wanted to go, but now you look around at where you’ve ended up, and it’s nothing like what you’d expected. This is not the way you thought things would turn out. This is not the way you thought you’d feel about your husband or wife, your marriage, your job, your life. Whispered to you from the depths of your being, you hear the question:

“How did I get here?”

This book is about that question, and it is a guide to help you discover the answer.

It is a book about the power this question has to profoundly transform your life and your relationships.

It is a book about recognizing and understanding these significant transitions, turning points and crossroads on your path, so that you can move through them with less fear, confusion and guilt, and more grace, dignity and vision.

It is a book about the suffering you unknowingly create for yourself and the price you pay in work or relationships when that question calls to you from within and you ignore it. It is about how to find the courage to ask yourself that question and to pay attention to the answers you receive.

It is a book about how to avoid getting stuck in places and phases that are meant to be temporary and how to use those places as a springboard for regeneration and rebirth.

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