Right now, describe someone you enjoy working with. What makes them a great coworker? Jot down your description below, underline each blur word you used, then convert them to specific language.
To hone the DeblurringBU faster, check back in with Mia's adventures in making her first hire:
Mia: |
So what did you both think of Kofi? |
Luca: |
I like that he brings a different professional background, but he wasn't a culture fit. |
Mia: |
Oh, really? What did you think, Liv? |
Olivia: |
Yeah, I agree. He was nice, but I think we need someone quicker on their feet. |
Luca: |
Right. He was friendly, but I also got the sense that he wasn't that interested in the job. |
Mia: |
Okay. Let's move onto the next candidate, I guess. |
When the debrief ends, Mia is left with a nagging sense that they may be overlooking a terrific candidate. She remembers the team saying something about him not being a good “culture fit” and realizes she made an assumption about what that meant. So, Mia takes a deep breath and uses her Do-Over Button to go back in time and Deblur:

Mia: |
So what did you both think of Kofi? |
Luca: |
I like that he brings a different professional background, but he wasn't a culture fit. |
Mia: |
Hmm. Can you share what you mean by “culture fit”? |
Luca: |
He had low energy. To be honest, I couldn't even tell if he wanted the job. |
Mia: |
Okay, so it sounds like two things: energy and interest. Is that right? |
Luca: |
Yeah, I think so. Well … I guess I felt like he wasn't all that interested because of his energy. That's probably me jumping to a conclusion. |
Olivia: |
I agree about his energy, though. He was just so mellow. |
Mia: |
Was it his talking speed? |
Olivia: |
A little bit. But he also took these long pauses before answering each question. |
Mia: |
Got it. So he speaks slower than we do and pauses longer. What do you see as the negative impact of that? |
Luca: |
Well, it makes me wonder about his sense of urgency. |
Mia: |
I think I know what you mean by “sense of urgency,” but can you clarify so we're definitely talking about the same thing? |
Luca: |
Things like responding to problems quickly, meeting tight deadlines. |
Mia: |
Was there anything else from his interview that gave you the impression he doesn't have that sense of urgency? |
Luca: |
Well, no. Actually, he has a really impressive track record of getting things done. I don't know. Maybe it's just a cultural difference. We all grew up in New York City. He didn't. |
Mia: |
Yeah. And on the flip side, I wonder if either of you can see a benefit to that difference? |
Olivia: |
Well, yeah. Actually, it might be nice to have someone who makes us slow down and think things through before making a decision. We can go a little too fast sometimes. |
This do-over conversation wraps up with a different conclusion. After Deblurringseveral other concerns as well as their positive reactions, the entire team agrees that Kofi is the right choice. What's more, they are all more confident in their decision because they took the time to Deblurand understand one another's perspectives. Mia can now make her very first job offer.
Later that day, Mia has another opportunity to practice her DeblurringBU when Luca vents to her about his career frustrations. Listen in and try to spot the blur words:
Luca: |
It's just frustrating. I'm not growing in my career anymore. |
Mia: |
Oof. That's not a good feeling. |
Luca: |
I'm not trying to make you feel bad about the manager thing. |
Mia: |
No, no. It's okay. This isn't about me. Is being a manager still one of your career goals? |
Luca: |
I guess it should be. There aren't many other paths for me to take, and the manager job seems … interesting. Maybe I can be a manager if our department keeps growing. |
Mia: |
I think that's realistic. Would it be helpful to come up with a plan for how you could prepare for that opportunity if or when it comes up? |
Luca: |
Yeah, I guess that's the responsible thing to do. |
They schedule a time to talk more, but then Mia notices that she's more enthusiastic about this plan than Luca is. Did she miss something blurry in the conversation? She decides to go back in time and try again, this time Deblurringthe spots where she made assumptions:
Luca: |
It's just frustrating. I'm not growing in my career anymore. |
Mia: |
I appreciate you talking to me about it. So we can figure this out together, I'm curious to hear: what does “growing” mean to you? |
Luca: |
I guess it means having new experiences. Learning new things. I think that's what was most interesting to me about the manager role. |
Mia: |
Yeah, I get that. And just to make sure we're talking about the same thing: what's an example of something you have learned that felt good? |
Luca: |
Hmm … Well, I had to learn about data visualization to be able to present our research. That was fun. I wish I had a lot more of those types of opportunities. |
Mia: |
How do you picture “a lot more”? In other words, how often do you wish you were learning new things versus using the skills you already have? |
Luca: |
I think having a new skill to work on every six months or so would be good. |
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In summary:Blur words are words that could mean different things to different people. Mentally underline blur words and ask Deblurringquestions. Does it make sense to Deblurevery ambiguous word you hear? “Good morning! Wait … what does ‘good’ mean to you?” No. Plenty of communication falls in the “clear enough” category. But when your goal is to give instructions, diagnose a problem, give or receive feedback, make a decision, delegate, or set a goal, Deblurringis the way to go. And by “way to go” we mean that you should definitely do it.
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