boredom
bossiness, see power
bottom lines
discovery of
failure to acknowledge and act on violations of
following through on
“if this happens again” speech and
self-deception and
telling partner about
boundaries see also bottom lines
children
divorce and
closeness, see intimacy
Coming Apart (Kingma)
communication
alien
anger expression in
boundaries and
crazy
“difference” problems and
feedback in
lying in
nakedness and safety in
negotiation and; see also negotiation
“off-the-table-itis” in, see “off-the-table-itis”
regenerative property of
Conceptions of Modern Psychiatry (Sullivan)
control, see power
couples therapy
craziness
in communication
criticism:
intimacy and
in negotiation
respect and
denial
depression
diagnostic questions
on anger and criticism
on bottom lines
on desire to be in relationship in absence of problems
on differences
on disrespect
on forgiveness
on fun
on hurt and betrayal
on ignoring partner’s problems
on important need
on intimacy
on life choice that excludes partner
on lifestyle
on liking your partner
on lying
on “nasty-stupid-crazy-ugly-stinky factor”
on negotiation
on “off-the-table-itis”
on partner’s ability to change
on partner’s acknowledgment of problems
on partner’s importance in your life
on partner’s support and interest
on partner’s willingness to change
on permission to end relationship
on physical violence
on post-relationship options
on power
on remembering best times of relationship
on sexual attraction
on shared activities
on shared goals and dreams
on similarity
on touching
on unconditional love see also guidelines
differences
alienness and
basic similarity and
communication problems and
examples of
about intimacy
about lifestyle
negotiation problems and
power problems and
resolvable or ignorable
sexual
therapist’s perspective on
unbridgeable
disrespect
atmosphere of
avoiding partner because of
coping with
love and
normal
pollution image and
self-image damage from
sources of
see also respect
distance
touching and see also intimacy; mutual shutdown.
divorce
children and
differences and see also leaving
Divorce Busting (Weiner-Davis)
domineering behavior, see power
dreams, life, see goals and dreams
fantasies, violent
feedback
disrespect and
feelings, sequence of reality and perception in
fighting
holding on to anger after
pointless see also negotiation
forgiveness
ingredients for
freedom, bottom lines and
friends, advice of
Fromm, Erich
fun
Gestalt Prayer
goals and dreams:
examples of
meeting needs and
shared
Good Divorce, The (Ahrons)
Gray, John
guidelines
on anger and criticism
on best times of relationship
on bottom lines
on concrete expressions of love
on desire to be in relationship in absence of problems
on differences
on disrespect
on forgiveness
on fun
on hurt and betrayal
on ignoring partner’s problems
on important need
on intimacy
on life choice that excludes partner
on lifestyle
on liking your partner
on lying
mutual shutdown and
on “nasty-stupid-crazy-ugly-stinky factor”
on negotiation
on “off-the-table-itis”
on partner’s ability to change
on partner’s acknowledgment of problems
on partner’s importance in your life
on partner’s support and interest
on partner’s willingness to change
on permission to end relationship
on physical abuse
pollution image and
positive vs. negative, importance of
on post-relationship options
on power
on sexual attraction
sexual issues and
on shared activities
on shared goals and dreams
on similarity
on touching see also diagnostic questions
Hayes, Christophe
Hudson, Pat
humiliation
hurts and betrayals
affairs, see affairs
broken agreements
damage and healing after
examples of
forgiveness and
intimacy and
mutual shutdown and
in refusal to acknowledge problems
time and
touching and
intelligence, of partner
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