Laurell Hamilton - Affliction

Other people who surprised us by being happy until they found out they weren’t getting a ring: Cynric, Jade, Crispin, Envy, and Ethan. Nicky is okay either way; as he said, ‘I know you’re committed to me being in your life, Anita. I don’t need a ring to make me feel loved.’

Maybe the reason the others want a ring is that I don’t tell them I love them. If you don’t feel loved, maybe the outward trappings like weddings and wedding rings become more important? I’d always thought that the wedding stuff was just an outward confirmation of inner truths, but maybe not. Perhaps for some people the wedding is the beginning of the commitment, the promise of more, and by not wanting to include everyone they feel like it’s an ending, instead of a beginning. I don’t know, but for now we’ve put the commitment ceremony idea on hold while we try to work through the emotional land mines that blew up in our faces.

Love is not a one-size-fits-all emotion; there are as many different kinds of love as there are people. We’re trying to find a size that fits everyone in our life. Is there such a thing as an uber-ginormous-bigger-than-anything-else-in-the-world-large-size love? Sometimes you need to go big, or go home.