Norman Rush - Mating

I mastered his back. I developed a rapport with it, is the best way I can describe what I did. I dealt with his back as though it were an autonomous entity like a face or a frightened animal. For two weeks we had nightly sessions and at the end of it he was close to reborn. He had decent cervical mobility again, which meant he could look over his shoulder for the first time in years, which had to have professional value to him — as I was kind enough not to point out. He was overcome with what I was doing for him. He would do anything for me, I only had to say what, why was I refusing his gifts? I was the only American he had ever met who made him want to see America, no woman had ever done for him what I was doing and I was doing it during the hottest part of the year like an angel of mercy and on and on, and did I know that he himself had been very anti-American and did I know how very much anti-American feeling there was among British Overseas Territories staff, which they hid, and he had to confess he hadn’t been totally uninterested in America until me because he had always been curious to see the Grand Canyon, and on and on.

By about the third session I had figured out what the protocol needed to be. The frame around the process was that we should both understand his back as our antagonist. He had to grasp that the process was cumulative. I was assembling my mode from what seemed to work, unknown to him, and it was clear that an authoritative tone was a winner. There would be two things we were going to ignore during this intensive, as I decided to call it. First of all, I said, we are going to ignore any erections you get and call them manifestations and laugh at them. Second of all, there are going to be incidents of flatus and we are going to ignore them and refer to them as queries. There was a genuine therapeutic notion behind both maneuvers. I wanted to abort the tension that would come from his thinking he, in the circumstances, ought to be getting aroused. And also the first time I had sensed I’d gotten him deeply relaxed a fart had escaped him. He was horrified and got tense. I presented the protocol on erections as a coin with two sides in that I would also be ignoring any feelings of desire that transpired in me. The regulations were that he would be in his undershorts and I would be in my mom-type lentil-green one-piece South African bathing suit. Finally, because I was the one who was in communication with his back, I would control the rhythm of the sessions. He was a bystander. He might have to be silent sometimes, and if he spoke to me I might not reply, because my mission was to preserve my concentration.

I could do anything with him. I could sit on him. I could walk on him if I was careful. I could put my heels in the nape of his neck and grip his arms at the elbows and pull until he gave a groan of pleasure that was absolutely specific. There isn’t just one all-purpose groan of pleasure, as we assume. His back acclimated to me. There was something about being able to manhandle a male body without having to treat the experience as foreplay. I wasn’t rough with him. In fact it became very domestic. He was suddenly sleeping wonderfully, he told me. I didn’t mind this man. I gave myself to his back. Gratitude is a drug.

But what I do resent, still, is Denoon for trivializing the experience when I told him about it and he, in one of his litanies about the normalization of the bizarre in the U.S., asked if I knew that in sex tabloids there were ads from women making themselves available to men for wrestling purposes, no penetration involved. It seems men with a taste for being bested by big, strapping women had been allowed, through the magic of late capitalism, to constitute themselves as one market among others. I hadn’t heard about it. But it was worse when he tried to get away with the canard that what I had been doing was nothing more than soft core SM whether I knew it or not. And was I aware of some famous datum showing that the largest vocational category resorting to SM-specialized prostitutes was law enforcement personalities, not excluding the judiciary? I pointed out that Z had had nothing to do with law enforcement that I knew of, but Denoon insisted — out of jealousy, no question — that spies were in the same ballpark. I mocked him into retracting that, finally, as beneath him. I said something like I revere the level of argument you impose on others and now you come up with something like this? His real problem was that he thought my ministrations to him along the same lines were a pale reflection of what I had depicted myself as doing for Z. He was right, which I never denied. You are a different moment, I told him. Your back is fine, for one thing.

Denoon couldn’t understand that there was a feel almost of paradise about being absorbed so completely in a project of personal alleviation. This may be a strictly female view. And it is not the same as saying it wouldn’t be boring as a lifetime repetitive vocation. One difference between women and men is that women really want paradise. Men say they do, but what they mean by it is absolute security, which they can obtain only through utter domination of the near and dear and the environment as far as the eye can see, how else? Most men. In any case, aside from the exertion involved, which ultimately I was able to think of simply as good exercise, I liked the ordeal, down to the details — perspiration, flesh smells, towels all over, his rather charred breath, insects banging incessantly into the window screens.

It began to bother him that there was apparently nothing he could do for me in return. We had even stopped eating out, so that we could have longer sessions. He was grateful across the board. He was cutting back on his smoking, he noticed. It was a byproduct of feeling better and was something he had wanted to do for a long time. My merest hints were helping him. I’d advised him to stop his housekeeper from picking up vegetables at the prison garden, beautiful as they were, because night soil was used in cultivating them and he was running definite gastrointestinal dangers in eating them. Whatever his original interest in me had been, I had blasted it into nothingness with my attentions. Martin Wade never came up once.

I did accept one gift, a beautiful ethereal blue and white yakuta. I couldn’t believe it was cotton. But this was a bagatelle to him, and as I pounded and wrenched he would lie there free associating on my virtues and uniqueness and how hurtful it was that I was refusing his generosity.

As to secrets, I had more than I wanted on the personal side but nothing that counted from his professional side, yet.

Tell Me Something I’m Not Supposed to Know

I was liking Z. His improvement made him cheerful. We had certain things in common, such as both being natural mimics. After one particularly acute but cutting impersonation of his, I said Remind me to warn my daughter about going with someone who’s a good mimic, because they aren’t necessarily the kindest, as in my case. Ah, do you have a daughter, then? And I said No, I mean when I do, someday. And then he said So it wouldn’t be a good idea for two mimics to marry, would it? Even through his carotene I could tell he was blushing. I was touched. We both were.

I remember I was sitting on the back of his legs, resting, when I decided it was time to shorten the game. My Martin Wade fantasies were fading. I decided to be a little reckless.

You’re unique, he was saying, apropos his having come to the conviction that I could tell people’s nationality at a distance at a glance. Recently there had been a couple of lucky shots in the dark doing that. And then, at a tea the day before, he had asked what the nationality was of a rather Syrian-looking woman who was new in town and new to me. I’d said Oh, British, flooring him. But it had been easy because I’d overheard her say arvacado for avocado earlier, unbeknownst to him.