Gael Lindenfield - Self Esteem Bible - Build Your Confidence Day by Day

gael lindenfield

self esteem bible build your confidenceday by day

365 tips from the UK’s no. 1 confidence expert

Dedicated in love and admiration to Mari Macauley

Who has triumphed over innumerable internal and external challenges to her self-esteem and is now dedicated to helping others do the same

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Title Page

Dedication

Introduction

Part 1 – Health

1 Transform Your Home into a Health Farm for a Weekend

2 Beat the exercise excuses

3 Take De-stressing Action Before You Become Stressed

4 Use Meditation to Clear Your Mind at Least Once a Day

5 Cut Down Your Intake of Stimulants and Depressants

6 Aim for Quality Sleep, not Just the Proverbial Eight Hours

7 Clear Your Kitchen of Temptation

8 Get Marching!

9 Prescribe Yourself More Fun

10 Buy or Pick Yourself Fresh Flowers Once a Week

11 Get Dancing!

12 Timetable 45 Minutes of Deep Relaxation into Every Week

13 Release Pent-up Emotions

14 Have a Professional Health Check

15 Don’t Skip Your Dental Check-ups

16 Give Yourself a Fitness Lifestyle Check Once a Month

17 Watch More Comedy

18 Keep Up-to-date With Health Research

19 Go Green With Your Own Energy

20 Identify your body’s stress warning sign

21 Know How Your Behaviour Changes Under Stress

22 Know Your Emotional Stress Warning Signs

23 Cut down rather than Cut Out During Times of Pressure

24 Don’t Sit Still for More Than an Hour

25 Respect Your Own Biorhythms

26 Go Easy on Yourself in Times of Change

27 Avoid Overdosing on Media Models of Perfection

28 Find quick-fix relaxation techniques that work for you

29 Rebalance Your Energy Levels Regularly

30 Build Your Inner Strength

31 Watch Yourself in Supermarkets

32 Give Yourself a Health Warning When You Get Irritated

33 Be kind to yourself when you have reason to be sad

34 Use Your Imagination to Take Yourself on a Mini-break

35 Supplement Your Diet at Times of Pressure

36 Replace Gloomy Predictions with Motivational Statements

37 Get in a Sweat Three Times a Week

38 Don’t Ignore Everyday Encounters With Hassle

39 Chemical calmers can’t change your life

40 Stick to Your Bedtime Hour

41 Watch What You Eat at Night

42 Keep a Worry-pad by Your Bed

43 Get to Know Your Genes

44 Clean Up the Air Around You

45 Ensure that Your Furniture and Equipment is Taking Care of You

46 Test Out Alternative Therapies and Trust the Ones That Work for You

47 Keep a List of Favourite Re-energizing Activities

48 Beware of Treats With a Health Sting in Their Tail

Part 2 – Personal Development

49 Don’t Stay too Serious

50 View Your Life as a Biographer

51 Always Have at Least One Treat to Look Forward to

52 Give Your Home a Major Clear-out

53 Take Up a New Hobby

54 Set Goal After Goal

55 If You are Unhappy, Give Something Up

56 Timetable Self-reflection into Your Schedule

57 Use Strangers’ Eyes to Watch Yourself

58 Keep Your Senses Stimulated

59 By Being Kind to Yourself, You also Open Doors

60 Rediscover the Joy and Satisfaction of Creativity

61 Visualize your life dream

62 Talk about Your Dream

63 Steer Clear of the ‘Deep End’ of Challenges

64 Don’t Wait Until You are Feeling Ugly to Enhance Your Beauty

65 Keep Stretching the Strengths of Your Intellect

66 Turn the Clock Forward to Check You are on Track

67 Know What Lifts Your Spirits – and Do More of it!

68 Keep Humour Handy

69 Use Your Heroes’ Wisdom to Inspire You

70 Secretly Record Compliments that Move You

71 Try, Try and Try Again

72 Give to Others and Feel Connected

73 Don’t Over-commit Your Caring Side

74 Monitor Your Self-loving

75 Talk Encouragingly to Yourself

76 Do a Dare a Day!

77 Formally Forgive Yourself for Bad Decisions

78 Convert Today’s Regrets into Tomorrow’s Goals

79 Stay Face-to-face With Your Values

80 Visualize All Options Before Making a Choice

81 Start a Savings Plan for ‘Rainy Day’ Treats

82 Read Inspirational Life Stories

83 Buy Yourself a Small Book of Motivational Quotes

84 Keep Your ‘Change Muscles’ Exercised

85 Set Yourself Conversation Homework

86 Write out your life dreams in the present tense

87 Battle With Your Bad Habits, One at a Time

88 Use Your Personal Strengths to Overcome Bad Habits

89 Formulate Strategies to Break Bad Habits

90 Commit Your Plans to Paper

91 Share Your Good Intentions With a Supportive Friend

92 Carry a Symbolic Reminder

93 Celebrate Overcoming a Bad Habit in Style

94 Make Public Announcements When You Kill a Bad Habit

95 Be on Guard for Your Habit’s Early Warning Signals

96 Use Affirmations

97 Don’t Over-conform

98 ‘Anchor’ Your Good Feelings in Your Body

99 Think of Yourself as a Product for Sale

100 Exercise One of Your Strengths Each Day

101 Talk about Times When You Felt Good about Yourself

102 Start having an ‘Affirmation of the Week’

103 Don’t Deny Your Weaknesses to Yourself

104 Pause the moment a guilt button is pushed

105 Don’t Unnecessarily Highlight Your Weaknesses to Others

106 Don’t Compare Yourself Unfavourably to Others

107 Classify Your Weaknesses

108 Look for the Positive Aspects in Your Weaknesses

109 Make a Resolution if you Start Wishing you Were Different

110 Stop Exaggerations of Your Faults with Reality Checks

111 Don’t be Afraid of Mistakes

112 Acknowledge the Positive in Every Mistake

113 Acknowledge the Things You do Better than Other People

114 Notice Your Small Kindnesses to Others

115 Deal With the Fear and do it Anyway

116 Take More Initiative

117 Like Celebrities, Transform Your Appearance Regularly

118 Think Big While Getting on With the Small

119 Imagine that You Have Only Three Weeks to Live

120 Check You Give Your Needs Appropriate Attention

121 Start Each Day by Feeding Your Mind with Positive Food

122 Keep Yourself Well Informed about Current Facts and Trends

123 Value Your Simple Successes

124 Count the Cost of Wasting Today

125 Listen to Your Intuition, but Check it Out Too

126 Develop Your Intuitive Powers

127 Analyse Your Hunches

128 Keep The Serenity Prayer in a Handy Place

129 Don’t be too Proud to Fix Other People’s Messes

130 Give Your Perfectionism a Constructive Outlet

131 Take Responsibility Readily and Willingly

132 Watch and Listen to Your Concentration

133 Make a Daily ‘To Do’ List and Monitor Your Results

134 Let Yourself be Disorganized Sometimes

135 Don’t Expect Decisions to Make Themselves Magically

136 Wait Until You are Calm Before Making a Decision

137 Learn a Strategy for Making Decisions

138 Reclaim the Forgotten You

139 Remember Your Sins Could Make a Saint of You

140 View Yourself as a Team

141 Write an Advert for Your Inner Team