Gael Lindenfield - Self Esteem Bible - Build Your Confidence Day by Day

142 Visualize Your Inner Team Working Successfully Together

143 Use Past Bad Decisions to Help You Now

144 Regularly Review Your Values

145 Have More Adventures

146 Don’t Appear to be What You are not

147 Keep Yourself Well Groomed

148 Challenge Your Perceptions

149 Limit Yourself to One Risk at Any One Time

150 Reward Every Risk However Small

151 Give Your Left Brain Regular Rests

152 Prepare for Tomorrow

153 View Your Life as a Movie

154 Remember it is not All Your Fault

155 Don’t Hold Back Your Opinions

156 Calm Yourself Before You Talk

157 Script Your Speech Before You Say Something Important

158 Challenge Your Own Rationalizations

159 Learn for Learning’s Sake

160 Renew your New Year Resolutions Three Times a Year

161 Surround Yourself With Stimulation

162 Trust Yourself to Know When You are Happy

163 Get Comfortable With Solitude

164 Keep a ‘Good Ideas’ Notebook

165 Defeat is a Perception not a Fact

166 Reward Your Every Effort

167 Give Yourself the Holidays You Deserve

168 Remember You are Defeating Yourself by not Trying

169 Celebrate the Uncelebrated

170 Give Yourself a Diversion Day Once in a While

171 Get to Know Yourself so You Can Get to Know Others Better

172 Distinguish the Hard from the Impossible

173 Know Who Knows 95% of the Real You

174 Acknowledge the Power of Your Emotional Wounds

175 Keep a Very Private Diary

176 Never Confuse Self-esteem With Arrogance

177 Exercise Your Right Brain Regularly

178 Use Your Dreams to Understand Your Needs

179 Write and Recite Your Own Credo

180 Own Your Fears

181 Identify the Root Triggers to Your Persistent Fears

182 Write a New Set of Ten Commandments

183 Treat Each Minor Loss as a Mini-bereavement

184 Let Others Help You Through Your Losses

185 Deal Openly With Jealousy

186 Don’t Shop Till You Drop

187 Say ‘No’ Simply, Firmly and Directly

188 Save for the Leisure and Pleasure you Deserve

189 Treat Problems Like Jigsaws

190 Take Regular Breaks When Problem-solving

191 Make a Contribution to The World

192 Think Before Delegating Your Difficulties

193 Watch Out for Double Standards

Part 3 – Relationships

194 Accept that to Love is to Risk

195 Think Before You Question

196 Deepen Your Special Relationships

197 Review Your Relationships Regularly

198 Agree With the Truth in Criticisms

199 Avoid Giving Unnecessary Justifications

200 Don’t Give Yourself a Put-down in Response to a Justified Criticism

201 Don’t Forgive Before Trying to Get Even

202 Spend More Time With Young Children

203 Release Your Tension Before a Confrontation

204 Worry Less about What Insignificant Others Think

205 Deal With Mini-frustrations Promptly

206 Test the Depth of Your Relationships With Your Faults

207 Use Friends With a Sense of Humour to Keep Perspective

208 Don’t be Afraid of Looking Back After a Rejection

209 Express Your Feelings After a Rejection

210 Keep the End You Want in Sight

211 Let Yourself be Comforted by Others After a Rejection

212 Compensate Yourself After a Break-up

213 Help Yourself Gain a New Perspective After a Rejection

214 Build Your Self-reliance After a Break-up

215 Empower Others to Reveal Their Preferences

216 Feel so that You Can Heal

217 Make Sure that Your Positive Friends Outnumber the Moaners

218 Know What You Expect from a Friendship Before You Foster it

219 If You Want Fun, Choose Fun Friends

220 Start New Friendships on a Positive Note

221 Improve Your Listening Skills

222 Be Fun to Be With

223 Keep a Balance in Your Social Life

224 Don’t Credit Luck With Your Successes

225 Repeat to Persist

226 Practise Responding to Criticism

227 Be More Generous With Your Compliments

228 Don’t Include a Self Put-down When Giving a Compliment

229 Avoid Gossipers and Backbiting

230 Don’t Encourage Others to Tell You How You Feel

231 Say ‘No’ as Though You Mean it

232 Remember, if You are Angry You could be Irrational

233 Smile With Your Eyes

234 Maintain Your Dignity When Treated Rudely

235 Script and Edit Your Requests

236 Expect Your Requests to be Met

237 Make a Habit of Telling People Your Good News

238 Keep Reminders of Others’ Special Days

239 Prepare for Your Anger Triggers

240 Fake Confidence Until You Feel it

241 Know When and When not to Use Advice-givers

242 Be Honest when Declining Invitations

243 Use Tricks to Remember Names

244 Practise Enjoying Praise

245 Limit Your Low Self-esteem Friends

246 Use Scintillating Small Talk to Protect Yourself

247 Beware of Boot-licking

248 Remember, the Company You Keep Affects Your Image

249 Be Aware of Hidden Manipulative Bait

250 Play Safe with Self-disclosure

251 Avoid jokes

252 Search for Similarities in People you Find Daunting

253 Hallucinate with Humorous Friends

254 Know the Rules of Your Relationship

255 Nourish Your Partnership

256 Don’t Let Love Excuse Put-downs

257 Don’t Expect Your Partner to Read Your Mind

258 Accept that Great Sex Doesn’t Necessarily Flow from Great Love

259 Be Prepared for a Break-up

260 Don’t Feel Obliged to Repay Every Kindness

261 Don’t Party if You are not a Party Animal

262 Keep Well Away From Dating Agencies Until You are Strong

Part 4 – Work

263 Start Each Working Day with an Enjoyable Activity

264 Aim for at Least One Laugh a Day

265 Ensure Your Work is Meeting Your Psychological Needs

266 Be Flexi-minded About Your Working Life

267 Check Your Contribution is Making a Difference

268 Do 3 Quick-fix Relaxations Every Day

269 Say ‘Yes’ to New Opportunities

270 Be Specific When Criticizing Others -or the Organization

271 Acknowledge the Positive Before Tackling the Negative

272 Be Happy to Work With People Who are Different to You

273 Empathize if You Want to be Heard

274 Calm Yourself Before Giving Feedback

275 Use Your Own Carrots to Motivate You

276 Keep a Watchful Eye on Your Body When Criticizing Someone

277 Place Your Fingertips Together for Composure

278 When Making a Point Keep to it

279 Avoid Using the Label ‘Difficult People’

280 Champion a Common Cause

281 Wind Your Working Day Down Gradually

282 Keep a Spiritual Presence Present

283 Make Your Journey Home as Calm as it can be

284 Remember Your Body Speaks Louder than Your Voice

285 Watch Your Adrenalin Levels

286 Think of Pressure as Positive

287 Get Inspired Before Cracking the Hardest Nuts

288 Insist on Quality Time for Difficult Decisions

289 Set Specific Dates

290 Nurture Yourself with Nature

291 Keep Reminding Yourself of Your Strengths

292 Aim to Use The Strengths that You Enjoy Most

293 Be Your Own ‘Head of Training’

294 Supplement Your Training

295 Ask for Feedback

296 Write a Reference for Yourself

297 Relax Before Going into a Meeting

298 Don’t Give Up Finding Your Dream Job

299 Ensure Your Environment is Helping You to Give Your Best

300 Think GEE to Check Your Rationality

301 Use Quotes to Top Up Your Optimism

302 Broadcast Your Deadlines for Decisions

303 Maintain an Upright Posture

304 Beware of Work Snacks and ‘Treats’

305 Do Early Morning Relaxations on Difficult Days

306 Carry a Stress Ball in Your Coat Pocket