Denise Kelly - The Art of Healthy Living

The one thing that drives me crazy is when people think this type of life is boring! I am not saying for one moment you have to give up all the things you love. NEVER! I am the most un‐nutritionist you will ever meet. Come party with me and I will show you! Drink your alcohol or eat your treats if that’s your thing … but if you know how to rein it in and keep it clean for the majority of each day you are going to feel totally in control of yourself, your life, your emotions, your sanity, your body shape, your body tone, your ageing genes, your greying hair, your spreading midriff, your saggy boobs, your drooping bottom, your eye bags, your breath, your teeth, your bones, and your muscles.

To be fair, the people that usually say to me ‘I would rather die having a good time, than have a life of eating lettuce leaves’ are usually the ones that have the most health problems and need to make the most changes. After all, we are often resistant to the things we need the most. Trust me, when you have been eating clean for a while and removed all your toxic substances, you will understand what I mean. You suddenly have so much energy you literally don’t know what to do with it. What’s that film where the guy takes a mysterious pill that enables him to access 100% of his brain’s abilities? Bradley Cooper stars as a struggling writer who, because of his new‐found intelligence, becomes a financial wizard. This puts him in a new world of success and danger, but also offers considerably more excitement to his life. That’s it … Limitless.

If you get the chance to watch it, I would highly recommend it. The comparison I am trying to make here, is that a life with true health and energy makes your life ‘limitless’. When you have enough physical and mental energy you can do whatever you want. All your ambitions, hopes, and dreams become far more reachable. Your every waking thought is more positive, and life becomes a magical journey of untold discovery and bravery. The better you feel, the more you do. Your confidence grows and so does your zest for life.

If you are familiar with The Secret you will understand that positivity creates and breeds yet more positivity. This best‐selling book written by Rhonda Byrne was released in 2006. It’s based on belief in the law of attraction, which claims that the thoughts we have every day can completely change a person’s life. It has sold over 30 million copies worldwide and been translated into 50 different languages. Its central idea is that everyone has the ability to create their own reality and that ‘thoughts become things’. The seven laws of attraction are widely used and I talk to my clients about them all the time as I feel they can be massively influential in setting your mind on the right path of positivity. The first is the law of manifestation. This means that anything we focus on constantly will manifest in our lives. So, you negative ninnies out there that think you are down on your luck and nothing good ever happens to you … well of course it doesn’t, because you always think it’s going to be bad. This is the number one rule in our house: don’t focus on your problems, just focus on your dreams.

When I was going through my divorce, I spent three years focusing on all the things I didn’t have. Three precious frikkin years manifesting a shitball of badness. And that’s all I got. Stress, worry, financial loss, crappy dates, awful fallouts, and tears like Tiny Tears on acid! Crying, moaning, hysteria, drama on a loop that went on and on and on. It wasn’t until I realized one day that I was surrounding myself, and just about everyone else that came into contact with me, with endless negativity that something had to change, or my life was going to be this hellhole existence forever. I was going to die in a pool of black sludge called self‐pity!

I rarely have any regrets in my life. I feel like everything I have ever done, good, bad, funny, naughty, ecstatic, sad, horrid, lovely, has all been one big learning curve leading to now. But I really do regret wasting three solid years of my life on something that could have been resolved in a calmer and more pleasant way, and possibly much more quickly. I am, by my own admission, a very ‘passionate being’. When I feel that I, or my family, have been betrayed or wronged, or that someone has behaved unjustly, I’m very unlikely to let that pass. As I mature, the ‘passion’ or the ‘fire’ is lessening, or perhaps I am simply more reasonable. These days I am far more grounded and try with true empathy to see situations from all angles. Now I listen to friends who sadly find themselves in the situation that I was in and try to advise them how little the small things matter and not to enter into the fight. But it’s their journey to learn from, so they may or may not be ready to listen. It’s the same when it comes to health. We cannot force, persuade, or dictate to anyone about getting their health back on track. Even those who can easily avoid suffering may not be ready to hear what you have to say.

The second law of attraction is the law of magnetism. Meaning that we can only attract the same kind of energy that we put out about ourselves. Our personal energy moves outwards from us and connects with others of like resonance, which, according to The Secret , determines both who and what we attract to ourselves in life. The people and situations that are drawn into our lives match our signals. Is it chemistry? Or more of a resonance, a matching signal due to personal vibrations? It’s a harsh reality, but if you don’t like the society, partners, friends, or success that you have attracted so far, or you have found real difficulty in finding your ‘place’ in the life that you desire, you will seriously need to consider what you are putting on your calling card to the world. I guess the good news is that since this frequency is something you produce yourself, it’s definitely something that you can change. Your personal resonance is created through your vibrations and your feelings and your emotional energy. It’s also crucial to change the vibrations of the very thoughts that go through your head every day if you know they are negative. Just because other people can’t hear what you are thinking, doesn’t mean you are not emitting them. Your physical energy and the vibrations of your body are crucial because us humans can pick up instinctively on how we think someone is feeling. Negative thinking is usually based on three fears:

1 Fear of the future: Even though it hasn’t happened yet, so logically why should we be afraid?

2 Fear of rejection: That inner voice that says we are not good enough, unlovable, not clever enough, etc.

3 Fear of failure: Why bother trying, right? We will just fail anyway.

Even as you say all this to yourself, you can feel your body sinking, can’t you? All fear is toxic to the energy of achievement, so it’s clear that when we think this way, we are creating our very own self‐fulfilling prophecy of doom. These negative thoughts destroy optimism and are our greatest challenge to overcome in reaching genuine happiness.

The other laws of attraction include unwavering desire, which is your constant and unwavering passion for a certain outcome. In other words, your total belief that this is what will happen. And the law of delicate balance, the law of harmony, the law of right action … in other words, making things happen in order to achieve your goals. So, for example, not taking action in the right direction for your nutritional goals would be … you have a sore throat and a cold and you feel terrible. To boost your immune system you could juice ginger, lime, oranges, cucumber, and garlic three times a day until your body has soaked that up and feels better again. But instead you choose to eat fast food, drink two bottles of wine, and feel shocking the next day, making your body even more tired and toxic, giving you five days feeling miserable in bed! You see how your choices and actions can seriously affect your outcome.