Sue Campbell - The Parental Leave Playbook

1 Cover

2 Title Page

3 Copyright

4 Dedication

5 Author's Note

6 Introduction Understanding What You Face: Challenges Are Opportunities in Disguise Understanding the Framework The Playbook in Three Phases Notes

7 Chapter One: Parental Leave Is a Mess—Let's Fix It! Language Matters: Defining Parental Leave A Broken System: Parental Leave in the United States When We Get Parental Leave Wrong When We Get Parental Leave Right You Are the Way Forward Notes References

8 Chapter Two: The 10A Transition Touchpoints Framework The RETAIN Parental Leave Transition Coaching Model The Three-Phase Parental Leave Transition From Worker to Parent to Working Parent Roles and Identity Routines Notes References

9 PHASE ONE: Preparing for Leave Chapter Three: Phase 1: Preparing for Leave Overview The Emotional Passage to Working Parenthood Don't Expect Others to Have a Plan Frontload the Work Chapter Four: Touchpoint 1 Announcement When It Goes Badly … When It Goes Well … Preparing to Announce Key Elements of a Good Announcement If You've Already Announced Ongoing Communication When Someone Says the Wrong Thing The Broader Impact of Your Leave Take the Lead Notes References Chapter Five: Touchpoint 2 Assess Introducing the 6-S System for Parental Leave Transition Success Walking Yourself Through the 6-S System for Parental Leave Transition Success Take Stock Take Charge Using Your Assessment Results Revisiting Your 6-S Assessment Note References Chapter Six: Touchpoint 3 Action Plan Plan Overview Plan Elements Importance of Contingency Planning Phase 1 Planning: Preparing for Leave Phase 2 Planning: During Leave Phase 3 Planning: Returning to Work Final Thoughts on Planning Notes Chapter Seven: Touchpoint 4 Acknowledge the Transition to Parenthood Inner Work Letter Writing as Reflection At Work The End of Phase 1 Notes Reference

10 PHASE TWO: During Leave Chapter Eight: Phase 2: During Leave Overview Prepare for All the Feels Make Connection a Priority Chapter Nine: Touchpoint 5 Appropriately Keep in Touch General Considerations for Your Keep in Touch Strategy Keeping in Touch with Your Personal Support System Revisiting Your KIT Strategy After Your Child's Arrival Note Chapter Ten: Touchpoint 6 Advocate Having Difficult Conversations Self-Advocacy at Home Self-Advocacy at Work Sample Scripts for Self-Advocacy at Work Recruiting Others to Advocate for You Dealing with Unsolicited Advice Advocate for Others by Providing Feedback on Your Leave Experience Notes References Chapter Eleven: Touchpoint 7 Arrangements for Return Revising Your Return-to-Work Plan Return Logistics Arrangements at Home for Your Return to Work Arrange for Self-Care Note References

11 PHASE THREE: Returning from Leave Chapter Twelve: Phase 3: Returning from Leave Overview Your One Whole Life Self-Efficacy and Self-Evaluation Notes References Chapter Thirteen: Touchpoint 8 Acknowledge the Transition to Working Parent You Are New and Improved Identify Your Shadow Values Reframing Another Letter (or Two or Three) Note Chapter Fourteen: Touchpoint 9 Adjustment Identify Your Integration Points Communication Adjusting at Home Adjusting Your Boundaries Instead of Attempting “Balance” Types of Boundaries Enlist Boundary Guards Know Your Boundary Management Style Boundary Management at Work Boundary Management at Home Where Boundary Adjustment May Be Needed Notes References Chapter Fifteen: Touchpoint 10 Access to Career Development Modern Career Development Models Parental Leave as a Career Development Opportunity Career Development Isn't Always a Straight Line Shifting Between Career Gears: Pedal to the Metal, Downshift, Park Your Career Need Not Be Your Calling You Can Always Change Your Mind The End of Your Transition Notes References

12 Rounding Out the Human Experience Chapter Sixteen: Additional Challenges and Resources Systemic Racial Oppression and Bias Challenges Faced by LGBTQ+ Families Adoption and/or Fostering Surrogacy Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders Lactation Infertility and Pregnancy Loss Infant/Child Loss Previous Trauma Other Health Issues for a Birthing Parent Postpartum Healing Health Issues for Your Child Workplace Discrimination Conclusion Notes References

13 Appendix One: Values Exercise List

14 Appendix Two: Free Resources from the Center for Parental Leave Leadership

15 Appendix Three: An Emerging Working Parent Support Ecosystem Policy Advocacy Thought Leadership and Practice Research and Communications Compliance and Leave Navigation Parental Health and Wellness Supporting Services Funding and Investment Legal Conclusion

16 Appendix Four: Recommended Reading

17 Acknowledgments

18 About the Authors

19 Index

20 End User License Agreement

1 Cover

2 Title Page

3 Copyright

4 Dedication

5 Author's Note

6 Introduction

7 Table of Contents

8 Begin Reading

9 Appendix One: Values Exercise List

10 Appendix Two: Free Resources from the Center for Parental Leave Leadership

11 Appendix Three: An Emerging Working Parent Support Ecosystem

12 Appendix Four: Recommended Reading

13 Acknowledgments

14 About the Authors

15 Index

16 End User License Agreement

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