S. Michele Nevarez - Beyond Emotional Intelligence

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2 Title Page BEYOND EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE A GUIDE TO ACCESSING YOUR FULL POTENTIAL S. MICHELE NEVAREZ

3 Copyright

4 Dedication

5 Preface Note

6 Introduction: Out of Sight, Out of Mind La Chispa: The Spark to Our Affect Affect and Ego: A Tale of Two Good Buddies Creating Optimal Internal Conditions The Value Stream Map of Perception The 12 Self-Discoveries

7 1 The Evolution of Emotional Intelligence The Business Context from Which Emotional Intelligence Emerged Democratizing Emotional Intelligence The Prerequisites of Emotional Intelligence Emotional Intelligence Is Here to Stay The Neuroscience of Emotion The Tale of Two Emotions: Classical and Constructed Where Does That Leave Us? On an Emotional Cliffhanger Notes

8 2 An Introduction to the 12 Self-Discoveries The Science of the 12 Self-Discoveries Self-Discovery 1: We Are the Common Denominator Self-Discovery 2: Igniting Your Inner Coach Self-Discovery 3: Perception + Interpretation = Your Reality Self-Discovery 4: What Do We Have Influence Over? Self-Discovery 5: You Don't Have to Believe Everything You Think Self-Discovery 6: For Better or Worse, Your Focus Becomes Your Reality Self-Discovery 7: What Are You Building Evidence For? Self-Discovery 8: Deficit-Based Bias Self-Discovery 9: Seeing the Best in Self and Others Self-Discovery 10: Emptying Your Headtrash Self-Discovery 11: Mantras, Metaphors, and Maps Self-Discovery 12: Happiness Is a State of Mind The Outcomes of Self-Discovery Notes

9 3 What We Have Influence Over Perception of Agency If Not Free Will, Then Why Not Free Won't? Agency of Mind What's Influence Got to Do with It? Self-Discovery: Perception + Interpretation = Your Reality Perceptions Aren't Quite What We Imagined, or Are They? Staying Alive—It's a Tough Job, But Somebody Has to Do It What Exactly Do We Have Influence Over? We Can Change Our View The Rudder of Our Own Mind Stimulus and Response: A New Paradigm Our Means What We Can't Control All Good Things Come to Those Who Wait Notes

10 4 You Are the Common Denominator Perception Is the Axis Mundi We Are Our Own Frame of Reference L'Ego My Ego Our Sense of Purpose and Being, Nature's Insurance Policy Notes

11 5 You Don't Have to Believe Everything YouThink The Meaning We Make It Is Written Valence, Salience, Rapidity, and Duration Off Your Rocker Note

12 6 Your Focus Becomes Your Reality Any Reality but This One Awareness Matrix Top of Mind X's and Y's Putting the Awareness Matrix into Practice The Qualities and Expressions of Awareness The Zone of Awareness, “Zone A” Mindspace Mindsight Mindlight Minding Compassion Note

13 7 What Are You Building Evidence For? Perception Is in the Eye of the Beholder Deficit-Based Bias Deficit-Based Bias in Organizations Perceptual Reframing Cognitive Reframing When Helping: Deficit-Based Bias Emptying Your Headtrash Mental Hygiene Seeing the Best in Self and Others Hit the Road, Jack When We “See” Each Other When Helping: Seeing the Best in Self and Others Note

14 8 Happiness Is a State of Mind Breaking Free from Behavioral Inertia Habits and Behavior: The Momentum of Many Moments Experiencing Emotion as Energy and Movement Notes

15 9 Mantras, Metaphors,and MapsMantras Metaphors Maps Putting the 3M's into Practice Our MindBody Map The Five Domains of MindBody Alignment Our Relationships Our Social Identity Self-Expression Self-Identity

16 10 Cultivating Emotionally Intelligent Habits of Mind Be Vewy, Vewy Quiet, I'm Hunting Habits! He-e-e-e-e! Now It's Your Turn Creating the Ideal Inner and Outer Conditions for Habit Change Dealing with Outer Obstacles Lean In Poke Yoke Working with Inner Obstacles Discovering Our Mental Models Don't Try to Cover the Sun with One Finger Relationships Self-Identity Self-Expression MindBody Alignment The Impact of Our Mental Models, Attitudes, and Beliefs

17 11 Reimagining Emotional Intelligence An Emergent View of Emotional Intelligence To What End and with What Purpose in Mind? Present-Moment Potential and Emergent Capacity Our Means: Our Inner Coach Our View, Our Awareness, and Agency of Mind Reframing Our Meaning Our Knowledge and Experience Our Context and Wellbeing A New Paradigm of What It Means to Be Emotionally Intelligent Generative Capacities and Receptive MindBody States Resultant and Context-Specific Stances Is the Observer an Illusion? All's Well That Ends Well

18 References

19 Acknowledgments

20 About the Author

21 Index

22 End User License Agreement

1 Chapter 2Figure 2.1 Igniting Your Inner Coach

2 Chapter 3Figure 3.1 The Value Stream Map of PerceptionFigure 3.2 What We Have Influence Over and What We Don't

3 Chapter 5Figure 5.1 Valence, Salience, Rapidity, and DurationFigure 5.2 What We Have Influence Over

4 Chapter 6Figure 6.1 Awareness MatrixFigure 6.2 The Qualities and Expressions of AwarenessFigure 6.3 Expressions of Spacious AwarenessFigure 6.4 Expressions of Cognizant AwarenessFigure 6.5 Expressions of Presence of AwarenessFigure 6.6 Expressions of Capacity of Awareness

5 Chapter 7Figure 7.1 The Qualities and Expressions of Awareness

6 Chapter 9Figure 9.1 MindBody Map

7 Chapter 10Figure 10.1 MindBody Map of Our Habits

8 Chapter 11Figure 11.1 Present-Moment Potential and Emergent CapacityFigure 11.2 Our Means: Our Inner CoachFigure 11.3 Generative Capacities and Receptive MindBody StatesFigure 11.4 Resultant and Context-Specific Stances

1 Cover Page

2 Table of Contents

3 Praise for Beyond Emotional Intelligence

4 Title Page BEYOND EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE A GUIDE TO ACCESSING YOUR FULL POTENTIAL S. MICHELE NEVAREZ

5 Copyright

6 Dedication

7 Preface

8 Begin Reading

9 References

10 Acknowledgments

11 About the Author

12 Index

13 End User License Agreement

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