Владимир Аракин - Практический курс английского языка 3 курс [calibre 2.43.0]

реку. 8. Я неважно себя чувствую, пожалуй, я пойду прилягу. 9. Я не люблю смотреть вниз с большой высоты, у меня

кружится голова. 10. Лучше запишите мой адрес в записную книжку, вы можете потерять этот листок бумаги. 11. Радио

говорит слишком громко, приглуши его.

12.a) Give the Russian equivalents for the following English proverbs and sayings, b) Make up situations to illustrate their meanings:

1. A friend's frown is better than a foe's smile. 2. An empty sack cannot stand upright. 3. Borrowed garments never fit well. 4.

Faults are thick where love is thin. 5. Love will creep where it may not go.

CONVERSATION AND DISCUSSION

BRINGING UP CHILDREN

Topical Vocabulary

1. Basic principles:to bring up (raise) children, to avoid pitfalls, the formative years, to progress (regress) in one's development,

stunted development, physical and mental development, to encourage a child, to let children grow naturally, to treat children like ...,

to develop more quickly than previous generations, to gain independence from parents, to grow up, to be mature, an effective

approach, a peaceful and relaxed manner.

2. Basic qualities:love, security, care, affection, respect, patience, reassurance, happy home backgrounds, responsible adults,

not to feel neglected, to be sensitive to one's feelings, to be too wise to argue, to speak firmly, to be consistent, to be fair, to have no

favourites, to show much patience (plenty of love).

3. Handling children:to have full faith in, to keep anger under control, capacity to restrain anger, to cause enormous damage,

not to force one's will on a child, to avoid labelling children (stupid, silly, foolish), to listen to children with understanding and

sympathy, to win smb. over, to avoid statements (comments) which can create arguments and tension, to shake smb.'s confidence, to

offend smb.'s self-respect, to prevent crises.

4. Atmosphere:friendly, not authoritarian, dignified, uncomfortable, embarrassing, an atmosphere of calm and quiet, to let

steam off, to put fat in the fire, to lose one's temper, not to create tension (s), to be said in the heat of the moment.

5. Praise:direct praise of personality, realistic (idealized) picture of smb.'s personality, to exaggerate praise out of all proportion,

to give a realistic picture of a child's accomplishments, to concentrate on a child's strength and not his weakness, to keep away from

general remarks about anyone's personality.

6. Punishment:to scream and yell at, not to hit children, to be bound to lose, spanking, to cause mental illnesses (psychological

damage), to beat the daylights out of smb., to shake the life out of smb., to be ashamed of oneself, the best way to criticize, to say

nothing, a direct reprimand, to answer back, a beating, to lock children up, not to speak with a child deliberately, to ignore a child, an

undesirable form of punishment, sarcasm, to work out all sorts of schemes for revenge, to tell smb. off (to give smb. a telling off).

7. Discipline. Behaviour. Manner:to discipline smb., a way of teaching politeness, to be punctual, to interrupt a conversation,

to get quarrelsome, the art of living together, to lead to frayed nerves for days on end, to develop a conscience in smb., not a word of

blame, not to impose anything on children, to encourage inner development, to give children a choice, to heighten smb.'s self-confi-

dence, a beneficial and corrective influence on smb., to leave a decision to the child, to teach smb. manners.

8. Children's reaction:to live up to smb.'s expectation, to do smth. on purpose, to have admonitions and warnings, to be encour-

aged to ask questions, to be curious and inquisitive, to learn by imitation, to feel part of the family, to hate questions which try to trap,

to be pushed into making up lies, to choose between telling a lie or giving embarrassing answers, to appreciate smth, to be- coifte full

of resentment, to become a nuisance (resentful, spiritless, delinquent).

1. Read the text for obtaining its information.

Parents are Too Permissive with Their Children Nowadays

Few people would defend the Victorian attitude to children, but if you were a parent in those days, at least you knew where you

stood: children were to be seen and not heard. Freud and company did away with all that and parents have been bewildered ever

since.

... The child's happiness is all-important, the psychologists say, but what about the parents' happiness? Parents suffer constantly

from fear and guilt while their children gaily romp about pulling the place apart. A good old-fashioned spanking is out of the

question: no modern child-rearing manual would permit such barbarity. The trouble is you are not allowed even to shout ... Certainly

a child needs love ... and a lot of it. But the excessive permissiveness of modern parents is surely doing more harm than good.

Psychologists have succeeded in undermining parents' confidence in their own authority. And it hasn't taken children long to get

wind of the fact. In addition to the great modern classics on child care, there are countless articles in magazines and newspapers.

With so much unsolicited advice flying about, mum and dad just don't know what to do any more. In the end, they do nothing at all.

So, from early childhood, the kids are in charge and parents' lives are regulated according to the needs of their offspring. When the

little dears develop into teenagers, they take complete control. Lax authority over the years makes adolescent rebellion against

parents all the more violent. If the young people are going to have a party, for instance, parents are asked to leave the house. Their

presence merely spoils the fun. What else can the poor parents do but obey?

Children are hardy creatures (far hardier than the psychologists would have us believe) and most of them survive the harmful

influence of extreme permissiveness which is the normal condition in the modern household. But a great many do not. The spread of

juvenile delinquency in our own age is largely due to parental laxity. Mother, believing that little Johnny can look after himself, is not

at home when he returns from school, so little Johnny roams the streets. The dividing line between permissiveness and sheer negli-

gence is very fine indeed.

The psychologists have much to answer. They should keep their mouths shut and let parents get on with the job. And if children

are knocked about a little bit in the process, it may not really matter too much ... Perhaps, there's some truth in the idea that children

who've had a surfeit of happiness in their childhood emerge like stodgy puddings and fail to make a success of life.

1. Answer the following questions:

1. What are modern psychological ideas in the field of bringing up children? 2. Why do you think the author of the text rejects

them? 3. The author regrets the fact that parents are not allowed "even to shout". Do you think that shouting can lead to understanding

and is good when speaking with children? Would you say that anger does nothing but harm? Give reasons for your answer. 4. What's

your attitude towards "good old-fashioned spanking" and physical punishment in general? Don't you regard it as the line of least