Artsun Akopyan - Four Role Types of Men

What about a relationship with a woman?

At first, the Director may seem to be a bright, friendly and generous person who can do many impulsive things to attract your attention, and even risk his life for no actual reason. That is a wrong impression. He just knows how lovers behave. He read about it in books, saw it in movies and on TV. He does what he must, in his estimation, to meet a woman’s expectations.

The Director has real passions, but they do not make him irrational. He just lets himself express his feelings when he considers it appropriate. He is willing to pay a high price for the happiness of being with you – but not too high.

Yes, he can send you a great bouquet of roses, but only for a reasonable price. He will never sell his house to buy a yacht if living in a yacht is your dream, not his.

The Director is a serious and thrifty person. Before committing any “impulsive” acts, he will carefully calculate all the consequences!

Get ready for the fact that some time after the wedding, you will begin receiving a lot of instructions from him on how to behave and what to do. The Director likes to command. Giving orders to others is his natural state of existence.

Of course, he can get a clean towel out of the closet, wipe the table with a rag, or make coffee himself. But why should he do it if you are within reach? He has more important things to do. Why don’t you put off your petty chores and do what he asks? He is absolutely sure that would be good for both of you.

By the way, he does not know how to ask politely. His requests, even if the magic word “please” was in them, strangely sound like military orders. When you demand, “Watch your tone,” the Director looks perplexed: “what’s wrong?” He is sure he did not insult you! He did not even raise his voice!

Your attempts to show him how to express requests politely will lead to nothing. When you say, “Pass me the napkin,” your words sound tenderly and are pleasant to the ear, even if there is no “magic” word. The Director may try to copy your intonations, but the result will be inadequate. The phrase will sound either like a military command again, or a caricature.

Do not crumple the napkin requested by the Director to throw it in his face. He is not an Actor, and will never be one. Do not demand the impossible from him! You both have to adapt to each other.

Feelings of a loved one, unlike those of strangers, do matter to the Director – at least, those that he was able to notice. He will try to make you happy in what he considers important. For example, he may buy the furniture set that you liked, or repaint the house walls if you want another color.

But more often than naught, he himself knows what is best, and may ignore your requests. He will not change a chandelier if he believes that it fits in the living room perfectly. He will never put your piano in the living room if you are a doctor or a lawyer, and not a music teacher. The explanation will be simple: “I don’t wanna listen to ‘Chopsticks’ all day!”

It is impossible to compel the Director to do something against his will. If you persist, he will resist further, and you might have a row with him. Not understanding your logic, he can come to the conclusion that you are foolish. Does a foolish person have the right to give orders? Of course not. The Director will be firmly convinced that he has to make decisions himself without consulting you.

This man admires bright, strong-willed, successful, self-confident women, but wants you to be homely, modest, taciturn and obedient. It is hard to be all in one. Is it worth trying?

Yes, it is.

If you manage to adapt to the Director (and he to you), then you will feel as safe as houses with him.

He will make your home comfortable, good-looking and safe enough to endure any wind or earthquakes. He will keep the interior and exterior clean and in order, and expect the same actions from you.

You will develop a stable and trusting relationship. The fuss and turmoil of this world will be left out! Your marriage will resemble a large ocean liner, which confidently floats on the waves of life, overcoming any storms easily.

The only danger that could threaten it is a perfect calm. That is, a monotonous life that generates boredom. What if the Director wants to have a good time with other women?

Don’t worry: if you have coped with all the previous problems, you will find a solution to this one, too.

The Actor’s temperament type is choleric.

He is sure that the world was created just for one single purpose, to applaud his ingenious performance.

The Actor is energetic, active and optimistic. He is a holiday man!

Where can you meet such a wonder? Most likely, on a real holiday like a birthday party, an anniversary, or a wedding – at places where people come to relax, chat, and have fun.

How can you identify the Actor if everyone is trying to seem relaxed and witty? That’s easy! It is simply impossible to overlook him.

The Actor will certainly be in the spotlight. For example, he will perform the duties of a toastmaster or seize the initiative from the one who has already been appointed toastmaster – and he will do so naturally.

The Actor does not make any special efforts to stand out. He just can’t behave in a different way! Why?

A gathering of people activates his nervous system, causing a mental uplift close to euphoria. Every cell of his absorbs the energy of others, as if recharging from it.

Does that mean that the Actor is an energy vampire?

No! On the contrary, he is a donor! Amplifying the received impulses, he sends them back to people. He is not able to sit in a far corner and isolate himself from others. He wants to talk, to evoke smiles and laughter, and to surprise and delight everyone!

Alas, life consists not only of holidays. People spend much of their time at work, which also applies to the Actor. But he is unlikely to be found among employees of archives, libraries or account department – places where diligence and concentration are required. He is most likely a sales manager, guide, journalist or actor at a theater.

The Actor is attracted by novelties, so he rearranges his furniture every three months. Each time, he says this is the best positioning he has ever seen.

The Actor loves traveling. He will spare no time or effort if the adventure promises to be exciting. He will ride a quad bike through the swamps, climb a mountain, and fly a paraglider off a canyon. There are no spectators who would applaud him and shout “bravo,” but that is why he took a camera with him! As soon as he has access the Internet, everyone including friends, relatives and colleagues will see his adventures. The whole world will! “You are a hero!” his boss will say in surprise, before offering him a higher position.

That’s how the Actor thinks. And he is very surprised when his expectations are not fulfilled. He feels upset for a short time, but then finds a logical explanation: the swamps were not swampy enough, and the mountain should have been a little higher. Okay, next time he will choose a better route. Then everyone will be delighted for sure!

Money is not a top priority for the Actor. Most of all, he craves recognition and praise for what he does at work. He constantly struggles for quick development within the company, putting forward new ideas and fighting those who are lazy, incompetent or silly.

If his behavior suits his superiors, the Actor receives his portion of glory – most often, a very small one.

A boss’s condescending smile and an approving pat on the shoulder are enough for him. With that, he can move mountains!

But if the Actor’s activity inadvertently hampers the life of a key figure in an organization (usually the Scriptwriter or the Director), he gets into trouble. The superiors start finding faults with him and penalize him for trivial things, like arriving late for work by two minutes. Not understanding the root of the problem, the Actor tries to work even harder and prove his point in arguments with co-workers and supervisors, expressing a lot of emotions and straining his nerves. He does not notice that his initiatives only make the situation worse.