Steve Harvey - Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

Now when a man hears this, he's going to pay attention, because you've placed a high value on yourself. He'll see that and question the situation: Is she worth all of that? If your cost is too high, he will move on. But you don't want that guy anyway, right? He's just looking to rent you. People who rent don't care anything about the property they're with they let it get run down, beat up, don't care what it looks like. They use the space, and when they.nd something better, they decline the new lease and they move on out and on to the next rental.

You want the guy who is ready to make the Broadway purchase the one who's looking to move in, stay awhile, take care of the lawn, make sure the plumbing is right, paint the walls, add furniture, pay the mortgage faithfully. You know, make your house a home. That guy right there? He's the one who will take responsibility and pop the question, like you need him to.

After all, boys shack. Men build homes.

Demand that he be a man about it. If he's not in love with you, he's not going to go for any of this, so now you know. But if he loves you, he will profess it, he will provide for you, and he will protect you. If he really loves you, the ultimate profession is, This is my wife. You can start with, This is my girl, or This is my baby's mother, or even, This is my.ancTe. But after a couple of years, you need to move beyond this.ancTe title. At the very least, you deserve clarity. Because women do not do well without clarity. The thing you all want to know is: Where's this relationship going? Do you love me? Am I the one? What do you see for us?

That's it in a nutshell every man knows this is coming up the road for him. He may not be ready for it now, but if he's not ready for it now and you are, then you don't have a good match, do you? So why waste all of your valuable years on something that's not going where you want it to go? Instead, you should seek out someone else who wants to go where you're going. I truly believe that's why there are so many women in their midthirties unmarried because somewhere along the line, they just didn't put their foot down and move on. But I can tell you from personal experience: put your foot down, set some standards, and watch how fast he falls in line. The reason I'm married to Marjorie today is because she had a timeline, some requirements, and some standards. I saw them early in our relationship; I saw them on the night our relationship was about to end; I saw them when I got her back. I'll tell you this much, if I still had the factory job at Ford and she needed $400 of my $600 paycheck, I would have given it to her.

I want to protect her.

And she makes me proud to be her man.

You can have this, too. Don't be another heartbreak story. Start putting yourself.rst get where you want to be, and make your man be all that he can be. Remember this: the number one cause of failure in this country is the fear of failure. Fear paralyzes you from taking action. Don't be afraid to lose him, because if a man truly loves you, he's not going anywhere.

If I've told you once, I've told you a million times: men are really simple creatures. And there are some subjects we're just not going to spend a whole lot of time thinking about we're just going to answer your questions, straight, no chaser. So I asked a bunch of my female co-workers and associates to.re some questions at me things they've always wanted to know that their girlfriends just couldn't answer for them in a satisfying way. They asked I answered. Here it goes:

Men have different aesthetics, so what might be a turnoff for one man may be a total turn-on for another. Rest assured, though, that no matter the.aws you.nd when you look at yourself in the mirror, somewhere on God's earth, you are really doing it for someone someone out there is attracted to you exactly the way you are. A con.dent woman is incredibly attractive, no matter what mold she.ts in. Men are also very visual people, so there is no question men will check out a woman's clothes, the way she walks, her makeup, her feet, her hands, her daintiness little escapes our notice. make yourself look beautiful while you're hanging on his arm is cool by him. Boob jobs, tummy tucks, breast reductions, nose jobs if it makes you feel beautiful, we're good. But if you're telling your man you want a nose job and he sees nothing wrong with the nose you already have, then maybe you ought to think about leaving your nose alone. Why run the risk of something going wrong when your man is already happy with the way you look? Why lose the extra weight if your man is happy with you the way you are? Sure, it's.ne for you to do it if it's something you want to do for yourself. But a man isn't going to care about it one way or the other if he's already happy with what you have.

A lot of men in their forties and.fties start trying to validate themselves by going out with women who are signi.cantly younger. It's the equivalent of those sameage men going out and buying itty-bitty sports cars with big engines that make a lot of noise; they do this because their engine doesn't make a lot of noise anymore. This is especially true if that man doesn't have his life together. This isn't a re.ection on women at all; it's his problem. But guess what? There's a younger man looking at you right now, saying to himself, Wow I sure wouldn't mind validating myself with her! There's a lot of that going on, too, you know. Like I said before, there's somebody for everybody.

Men like all kinds of women. There's a man out there for every body type. There are men who like them big, there are men who like only small, petite women, and there are men who prefer women who.t between those sizes. It runs the gamut. It does not matter what size you are there is a man somewhere for you.

I wouldn't, and most nonsmokers wouldn't, either. The skin of women who smoke ages prematurely and their lips are stained. It ages them internally, too. And for me, it exhibits a weakness and a lack of understanding about their own health. Once we nonsmoking men see that a woman doesn't care about her own health, we immediately equate that to her inability to care for her man and her kids. Most nonsmoking men will not tolerate a smoking woman not on a permanent basis. We'll sleep with you, but we're not taking you home.

A man who loves you is going to love you regardless. As we ourselves get bellies and love handles, we certainly understand yours. We get that you're not going to look exactly like you did when we.rst met you. If you can keep it in some kind of parameter, though gain ten pounds, but avoid gaining a hundred and be sexy and.x it up and look nice with whatever extra weight you've put on or taken off, we're cool. If your man is shallow, he'll insist he just can't see past it. But if a man recognizes that, a few pounds notwithstanding, you're still making an effort to do what it takes to be visually appealing, he will be.ne with it.

Heels, baby. Heels. If we could get athletic shoes with heels for women, we would. It's just a really sexy thing to us. I don't know a single man who prefers women in.ats; I've never run into one. We all think heels make your legs more beautiful, they make your walk more feminine and you, too. And that's what we're attracted to.

A smart man can't date a dumb woman. But he can use a dumb woman. Most smart men don't want to date a dumb woman because we need to know that she can handle herself and our affairs, especially if we're thinking about giving her a ring. She can't walk into the of.ce party acting like the of.ce dummy. Now, we don't mind having a woman on the side who is dumb and.ne, but we won't keep her.

It's a total come-on. In our mind, if you want to buy us a drink, you want us. And if we think you want us, well, then, game on we're coming in for the kill.