Allison DuBois - Don't Kiss Them Good-bye

The appearance of arrogance can also be a misconception. When mediums get a feeling for their accuracy levels, they know when they are right on target and so they feel confident. Since the rest of the world questions us, mediums learn quickly to either stand behind their information or keep their mouths closed. Many people misjudge mediums who believe in their own accuracy, deeming them arrogant, when actually these mediums had to become their own biggest believers in order to persevere.

Younger mediums need to be confident in their information but remember to be humble and to appreciate that sitters are sharing their personal lives. Mediums are simply messengers, not miracle workers. Our main goal is to help and guide others, not to show off.

I find solace in my family, the people to whom I’ve given closure, the other people with my gift, my guides, and my own sense of humor. If you’re a psychic who is in the closet, let me just say that you can try to ignore your gift, but embracing it feels much more natural.

Remember that people can’t go to school to become psychic, and you can’t buy psychic skill, it’s a gift. Everyone has a unique knack for something in life; mine is talking to people who are deceased, and I like it. The dearly departed don’t have all the hang-ups that the living have and I find them easier to talk to.

When I am preparing for a private reading, I know the other side is churning around me when my hands quickly become freezing. I refer to this as holding hands with the other side. It has taken me a while, but I’m used to it now. I just stick my hands on my husband, who warms them up for me. (He’s multitalented.)

Finding a mentor or a psychic whom you can relate to helps a lot. I was fortunate enough to have a mentor, Catherine, a psychic-medium-astrologer who is top-notch at exercising her gift. In her, I found a teacher who broke the stereotypical mold of a psychic and enabled me to become comfortable with my gift. Not all psychics are creepy-looking women with crystal balls who go into scary trances and eat all-natural foods.

Most of us are pretty normal. I love Dr Pepper; I drink it by the bucketful. Some people who are more spiritually inclined tell me that it impairs my psychic ability. I actually tried drinking a lot of soda to make the spirits go away. I can assure you, it didn’t work for me.

In addition to drinking gallons of Dr Pepper, I like to wear suits, eat junk food, crank up my music, and watch scary movies (because they’re not real). I don’t spend my days meditating for hours. Despite its potential usefulness, I am far too impatient for it. Usually I do a five-minute quickie meditation asking my guides to bring through the information from the other side loud and clear and in the best interest of my client.

I went to school to be a prosecuting attorney. I was an intern in homicide at a local district attorney’s office. I was trying to ignore my gift and go down the path more easily traveled, where you don’t have to fight people for common respect. I hid my gift and lived a parallel life with another agenda, but the gift is part of me and I must honor it. My guides tried to tell me that I had a different path to travel, that I wasn’t going to be a lawyer, but I wouldn’t listen.

I am sharing this with those of you who feel that life is trying to take you in one direction and you want to go in another. I had my fingers in my ears and I was humming a tune to drown my guides out. I jumped through all the hoops and I took my LSATs because I was going to law school, darn it! Over a six-month period, I had more roadblocks thrown up in front of me than I could jump. Finally I looked at my husband and I said, “I don’t think I’m suppose to go to law school.” Joe had been wondering how long it would take me to figure that out.

I have come to terms with the fact that there isn’t a big demand for psychic prosecuting attorneys; the politics are complicated, and I stand out too much. So I will listen to my calling and take on as many challenges as possible, testing my ability to the limit.

One of the downfalls of being a psychic is that you’re expected to know absolutely everything. Most people have no understanding of reading energy.

Can you imagine what it’s like living as a perceived know-it-all? If your dishwasher breaks, you’re asked, “Didn’t you see that coming?” If your child slips and falls, you hear, “Why didn’t you know ahead of time; aren’t you a psychic?”

First of all, it can take a lot of energy to turn up our volume, so we aren’t always paying attention; we are busy living, and we are only human. Also, psychics don’t see everything. Yes, we have a sixth sense, but our other five senses are fallible, so why is our sixth sense not permitted any leeway?

Psychics can fall prey to all the normal human foibles. For instance, we have all had our eyes play tricks on us, where we think we see someone we know and then find out that it wasn’t who we thought it was after all. Or sometimes we don’t hear someone clearly when they speak to us. Often we think we hear our name being called and then find out that it was just voices on the television downstairs. Or we can’t remember where we put something.

Sometimes the human senses mislead us. People frequently will confuse smells or make an incorrect guess about an ingredient in a friend’s recipe. This can happen with the sixth sense, too. Once I saw a client standing next to a “For Sale” sign in my vision. I asked her if she was selling her house. She said no. But I kept seeing her over and over again, next to the “For Sale” sign. Finally I asked her, “Are you thinking of becoming a real estate agent and selling houses for a living?” She said yes, she had been thinking lately of becoming a real estate agent.

“It’s being made very clear to me that this is the direction for you to go,” I told her. When a vision keeps coming back, the other side is emphasizing something significant, like a person’s direction in life. In the vision, my client looked extremely happy and well off, which illustrates success to me. Psychics have to be careful deciphering what they see; it can be tricky. Trial and error is the only way for mediums to learn. Once we’ve experienced, say, the feeling for a heart attack, we recognize it the next time. Mediums need to experience the various types of death and emotions in order to have a reference to draw on to give a fantastic reading. But it takes practice.

I once had a young woman in her twenties ask me to tell her about her health. I looked at her and said I felt a problem with her muscles and joints. I was being given carpal tunnel syndrome as an example of debilitation in her hands. I said that I didn’t feel the intense effects would occur just yet. She told me that she had multiple sclerosis. I asked her if she was in remission, and she said she was.

I hadn’t read anyone with MS before, so I didn’t know the feeling associated with it. I was right about her symptoms but failed to identify the illness. I knew that her ailment was not severe at present and that she had some time before it would become challenging. Now I can recognize that feeling. Life experience increases a medium’s ability to read because she can understand what she senses better through repetition.

There are occasions when psychic-mediums just know without having to concentrate, or when we are overwhelmed by a persistent spirit who wants our attention badly. Sometimes I’ll have a spirit scream a name in my ear until I repeat his message; sometimes the desire to get through outweighs good etiquette. We get what we get; it depends on the strength and clarity of the energy on the other side, our ability to receive the message, and the willingness of the loved one to whom we convey the message.